If you can reveal the truth to those you love then go ahead. If you can't then don't. You cannot live a lie and stay together. Then again, most marriages are short term today anyway so go ahead! But if they are short term (and expensive) why get married? Oh this so confusing!
Would you marry an SP?
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i wasn't as fortunate to date an sp for 2 years but we did date for a few months and she revealed something similar to me. she said that she wasn't aroused by sex anymore and i told her that it makes sense considering how much she put out emotionally and physically.
we never fooled around in those 2 months but we had some good times and that was the most important (she decided to give her ex-boyfriend as second chance and i didn't want to mess that up for her)
i wouldn't date an sp for the sex no matter how great , i would date her because she's good to me and good for me
What is the % of divorces, breakups? It is huge. Relationships are hard enough as it is. And if there is one thing that keeps people together it is honesty. I could not live a lie to those closest to me and be whole. It would slowly eat me away then that would turn into contempt and that would lead to separation. You may be able to keep it a secret but the relationship won't be able to last with this secret for long. How could you lie to your kids, parents, closest friends day after day? Perhaps for awhile. Perhaps while the "love" is fresh and steamy. But it won't last, because you would be lying.
What lie are you referring to? If it's how you met, here's a newsflash... SP's actually meet men when they're not working!!! I've dated an SP (who was a PhD candidate, btw), and dancer (yes, that type of dancer). I met the dancer in my MBA class
I don't see why what she chose to do to get herself through school is anyone else's business? So let me get this straight. You met a girl in your MBA class and she just revealed to you she strips and fucks men for money? OK. Would you believe that I date Victoria secret super models yet post on an escort review board because I enjoy the stimulating banter?What lie are you referring to? If it's how you met, here's a newsflash... SP's actually meet men when they're not working!!! I've dated an SP (who was a PhD candidate, btw), and dancer (yes, that type of dancer). I met the dancer in my MBA class
You're right that what she does to pay for school is nobody's business but that is not the point. Do you not have average, normal, mildly nosy people in your life, oh like 100% of the rest of humanity?
I don't see your point & btw, she didn't fuck men for money. We met during class and hit it off. Is that so unbelievable? I can't post on here and date women? MY POINT is that SP's are just normal women, who are attracted to normal men. We can't all be Brad Pitt, and not all women are looking for that.
MY POINT is that SP's are just normal women, who are attracted to normal men. We can't all be Brad Pitt, and not all women are looking for that.Apparently, I am, or you wouldn't be responding to me with your flawed understanding of simple logic. I didn't insult anyone. However, she did insult me first, and I am not allowed to insult her back? Double standard, or is it ok because she's a lady, Sir Peter? Get off your horse because the air up there is making you too emotional to think clearly.
Is that not EXACTLY what you just did with the rest of your comment?
I know many ladies who have gotten in, gotten out with an education and no OSAP debt. I know other ladies who started corporations and even others who went on to get married and never look back.
Try not to assume.
Thats because they are selfish. No one who goes to school and gazelles their way through without graduating with a crushing amount of debt can ever truly appreciate their education as much as a person that ground their way through the system and is slowly paying off their OSAP is. Education isn't just about the piece of paper at the end, it's more about the character that it takes to get to the end. You and I both know that deep down someone who didn't have to pay their fair share and their education was easy, doesn't have as much character as someone who does. It's a fact of life.
What good is an education if you just wind up as a housewife after? Why bother taking up space in the system, beating out someone that could have changed the world or contributed to society more?
For the grand sum of $500 or so, you could start a corporation, too.
Like any stereotype, generalizations are never absolute (see what I did there? lol). My experience lies in the MP world. We have all heard about the MPAs who have gone on to become doctors, lawyers, teachers, real estate tycoons and such. I don't doubt that. But is that the norm?
Mind you, we only see the ones who don't make it out. We don't hear about the ones who do and never look back. Just as I have met many smart ladies with a solid head on their shoulders whom I wouldn't (and haven't) hesitated to accept as close personal friends), I would be just as quick to caution anyone who asks to be careful. Any relationship can be a challenge. Adding an industry context complicates things further.
Like any stereotype, generalizations are never absolute (see what I did there? lol). My experience lies in the MP world. We have all heard about the MPAs who have gone on to become doctors, lawyers, teachers, real estate tycoons and such. I don't doubt that. But is that the norm?
Mind you, we only see the ones who don't make it out. We don't hear about the ones who do and never look back. Just as I have met many smart ladies with a solid head on their shoulders whom I wouldn't (and haven't) hesitated to accept as close personal friends), I would be just as quick to caution anyone who asks to be careful. Any relationship can be a challenge. Adding an industry context complicates things further.
Excuse me? A little confused here. I didn't know this was a feminist thing.
You asked for people to not assume, and then did that exact thing. I simply stated some of my knowledge and experience that is different then yours.
Are you suggesting that any woman who does not agree with you or has not experienced things the same way you have, are all feminists. And bad ones at that?
or are you just disputing the very real life examples I have stated without any real argument and therefore attempting to dismiss them with insults?
I don't want to assume, so please feel free to clarify for me.
Actually just under $500, but that doesn't mean it will be successful. I should have clarified. I know a few women who have gone one to open successful corporations.For the grand sum of $500 or so, you could start a corporation, too.
I can't tell you what the "norm" is, but I don't think that anyone else in this thread can either. I mean maybe in their own mind they can, but not realistically.
Now that you have changed your posts, I will ask for clarification again.
So the young man who worked to pay for school so he didn't have any debt is wasting time getting an education? and are they selfish as well? Is it that just men who work for their education are working hard, but the young lady who is doing it via the sex trade has it easy?
And any lady who gets an education should just not bother because she will just end up a housewife anyway? Regardless of how she paid for that education? Should we pass a law that only allows men to get a level of education beyond high school. Maybe make all colleges and universities male only.
You want to call me a feminist and yet your ideals seem quite skewed based on the year we now live in. IMHO of course.
LOL - I don't agree with a single thing you said. I just won't fight you on your right to say it and I won't resort to insulting you because of your misogyny.
Have a wonderful day Jack.
So the SP and the dancer were two different people. I now get it. As for a girl you just met in class revealing to you she is a stripper because you just "hit it off" sounds like complete BS. Who the fuck says to people, "Hey you are cool person, I think I will let you know I'm a stripper". And who said you can't post on here and not date women?I don't see your point & btw, she didn't fuck men for money. We met during class and hit it off. Is that so unbelievable? I can't post on here and date women?
I'm too lazy to look back, but you said something about posting on here because I enjoy the banter. Not sure what the point of that was? For the record, we dated for 2 months before she told me about her night job. Not sure why you assumed it was the first thing out of her mouth, but this thread is full of incorrect assumptions, so it's not surprising.
My god this went long. My page one reply was going to be - of course if there was a real connection but I am uneasy enough that I would need to know she was switching to a new career. I don't hobby when in a relationship and likely couldn't handle her doing it.
An SP's work is not easy. If it affords her an education without debt, how does that not make her appreciate her education even more?
