Getting a lot of calls lately from gents who 'can't' or don't want to do screening... a bit akward asking if they've seen ladies or not.. and to check references all within the hour that they want to book... a bit of help pls?? thx!
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Got no suggestions, just a suspicion that as C-36 comes to pass this is gonna happen more and more often. Sorry to be a downer.
You should never feel awkward about asking men if they have seen any other providers. This is apart of the job and apart of what gents should be expecting from a provider who runs her business responsibly. I have had a similar issue with gents not wanting to provide any information and I understand they worry about privacy, but really it's safety first for both the provider and client. Clients really should expect to give some kind of information and reference from another provider. I give references all the time and I am happy to do so to keep this business safe for everyone.
However, I have had situations where clients were super reluctant to give out any information, so I met them for coffee or a drink first to get a good rapport.
However, I have had situations where clients were super reluctant to give out any information, so I met them for coffee or a drink first to get a good rapport.
Someone who doesn't want to provide references, may have something to hide.
Its only fair... I myself do a fair amount of research on a lady before I choose to even make contact. If an when I do make contact, I always offer references, usually in my introductory e-mail.
Safety first. For both sides.
Its only fair... I myself do a fair amount of research on a lady before I choose to even make contact. If an when I do make contact, I always offer references, usually in my introductory e-mail.
Safety first. For both sides.
OMG, not at all...
You're not a very cunning linguist are you.
Communication is really not that difficult.
I don't think I can get a reference because I haven't shared my real name with any escorts. I doubt a handle is enough.
Perhaps I'll have to out myself, but maybe only to escorts I have screened and can trust with this info.
Maybe it's easier to call myself "Ridgeman08".
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Perhaps I'll have to out myself, but maybe only to escorts I have screened and can trust with this info.
Maybe it's easier to call myself "Ridgeman08".
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This due to c-36 like nobody123.. mentioned on the above thread. But for my case is not an issue on bill c-36 until it become law. I seen your LexiRose website and your terb ad/ posting, and really wanted to booked a session yesterday or even tonight or even this week with you but I am unsure. I hesitant to provide reference on previous ladies seen before because I dont think they remember me. Even if I told you which sp i seen in this terb board example Queen2013 ...I dont think they will remember me. I have seen ladies in this board has a terb handle "Queen2013 " this summer 3 time but I think maybe they will remember me by face only but not my name. And also reviewed them.
So I guess the only way to book you is for me to phone up or email Queen2013 and ask both of them is it ok for me to use them as references. Maybe it time for terb and sp provide a database review (terb- datecheck)on all "johns" that have seen them and rated them as good client or bad client...then the johns dont have to provide references.
PPS If i really really really want to see you I might have to do that by calling Queen2013 for permission to use them as references if they remember me. I also understand your situation LexiRose... your safety is most important and it only take one jerk to ruin it for everyone.
In one situation I had with a lady and I won't mention who, I offered up my handle on this board, as a reference. But I never heard back. So I guess thats not even good enough.
Yep, as others have stated asking for references shouldn't be an issue, you can list it in your ad or FAQ if you want and though not everyone will read it it does cut down on the number of prospective clients that have references and don't think to provide them. Don't cut corners with your safety, once you know what screening procedures make you feel safe and comfortable seeing someone then stick to it, there is no dollar value you can put on your life and if you are not feeling safe or comfortable a date will be subpar which isn't in the clients best interest as well.
One thing to remember is that asking for references or verification may cut down on the number of dates you have (initially - this will balance out eventually with repeat clientele) but it does help with the quality, yes there are a lot of good clients that do not have references (verify them another way) or do not want to provide them but again no matter what if you have not verified someone in general you will be stressed and uncomfortable leading up to the date and during the beginning of it which takes it's toll. In the long run it's up to you but IMHO it's not worth it to operate in such a stressful manner, there are plenty of wonderful guys out there that will verify and are comfortable doing it. As someone that is mainly in the US I can tell you it's the norm there, you don't see anyone unverified, and I never have a problem meeting nice respectable guys (and some great women/couples too!). If you have a good reputation they will trust you and the verification system works to keep everyone safe and comfortable.
Btw verification sites like P411 or Date-check can speed up the process, if a client has an extensive history on there you'll have a much larger list of people you could verify with so sometimes it's quicker to contact someone. Also you may see a name you know in the ladies they have seen, then you can contact the lady directly (if you have a direct contact/line) which again speeds up the process if time is of the essence.
LoL! Good one Viggo!
I just looked at Lexi's screening page... I don't think any SP would seriously ask for someone's REAL first and Last name. Although I usually do provide my real first name after I've established a comfort level, last names are never given out. I usually just give my Terb handle. This gives the lady a chance to research my reviews, and post history to establish I'm not a psycho or anything... and, if she so chooses, the ladies I've reviewed to see if there were/ are any concerns. The rest is not unreasonable... and is only fair, because I certainly research THEIR reviews and post history... and sometimes even contact other members that have seen her as well... There are certainly ways to maintain your anonymity and provide enough information to provide a comfort level to any SP that asks. Any SP that asks for a REAL first and last name, is really limiting their options.
There are so many escort SP's to choose from, thanks to Terb, many of whom require no additional, nor administrative government operation type, clerical inputs as part of the process, that I simply have no inclination to pull a number, fill out a form and wait my turn whilst at the same time sharing too much private information...
To date, I haven't as yet felt my hobbying options to have at all been constrained nor limited by avoiding entrepreneurs who employ that business model. If there WERE some I felt I REALLY needed to see, and they required a full lowdown, filling out a form, blah blah blah, I would refer them to me terb handle, and they could do the research themselves, as it is not at all an uncommon habit of mine to write reviews in the appropriate sections after a date with an escort...if that were to not suffice., and if the SP were too lazy to check me out, then I guess the SP would be out of luck...... Lots of sugar in the candy store without a panoply of irritations and complications
To date, I haven't as yet felt my hobbying options to have at all been constrained nor limited by avoiding entrepreneurs who employ that business model. If there WERE some I felt I REALLY needed to see, and they required a full lowdown, filling out a form, blah blah blah, I would refer them to me terb handle, and they could do the research themselves, as it is not at all an uncommon habit of mine to write reviews in the appropriate sections after a date with an escort...if that were to not suffice., and if the SP were too lazy to check me out, then I guess the SP would be out of luck...... Lots of sugar in the candy store without a panoply of irritations and complications
Jessica you've been in the industry a while, what is your opinion on the gents offering up thier, handle as a reference ???
OMG, not at all...
You're not a very cunning linguist are you.
Communication is really not that difficult.
Oh I have no doubt your "introductory email" is an opus of no less than 1500 words.
As it happens, I'm quite cunning and more than adept at communication though not, I suppose, to the self styled Dostoyevsky of terb.
Different strokes, but I still say it's weird to offer references unsolicited.
And to whoever it was that posted before. A lot of screening processes do ask for a real name, but many SPs IME are content with a terb handle....except the one who found out she was talking to DB and basically told me to go fuck myself. Ah well...can't please everyone.
Also, I'm all for screening. Far more efficient for all parties as comfort level goes up, instances of time wasters go down.
What kind of info can I give that will ensure I'm legit?
I don't think a terb handle would be enough, they are too easy to borrow.
I have never been asked for a reference. I guess if I make contact through Terb the lady can see that I have started many threads that begin with the word review. This would give ample opportunity for a new contact to check with some of those ladies. When I reach out by email my email address might be a giveaway. It begins with celticman@ 
Standard is first name, email, phone.
No plan is fool proof but the effort alone in screening gets some time wasters out and the hope is the rest are genuine
I can only speak for myself ...if I in the mood now and want it now it obivious will be will be last minute booking. Which usually at most within 1 hour or 2hour time frame..or 3 hour time frame to book and meet the escort. If too much a hassle obvious will book someone else or just watch internet porn and then get off and then go to sleep. The drawback on advance booking like a day or two in advance your mood..may change...no longer horny anymore : ( would have prefer better if the timing is right.
The terb handle would be OK if you mention that you have also PM'd them. Assuming they have a Terb handle.
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