Married Hobbying

[Jenesis]

Thank you I can’t stop I’m addicted. MPs are nothing compared to the small army of SPs and SB’s I’ve seen. I’m legit crazy or some level of addicted narcissist (but a very nice caring person). I was thinking maybe with permission it wouldn’t be as big of a deal.

A narcissist only plays nice and caring. It is not an actual part of their personality traits. Lying and gaslighting are though.

Not saying any of this about you but you seem to be. Maybe some help other then what the board could provide is in order. Putting narcissistic and addiction together, with your current thoughts, is just a recipe for disaster.

 

[FunInToronto2023]

A narcissist only plays nice and caring. It is not an actual part of their personality traits. Lying and gaslighting are though.

Not saying any of this about you but you seem to be. Maybe some help other then what the board could provide is in order. Putting narcissistic and addiction together, with your current thoughts is just a recipe for disaster.

I don’t think I gaslight but I definitely lie when it comes to what I’m doing or where I’m going to provide cover for my horrible behaviour. I agree that I need to see a professional of some sort. I’ve seen two so far but the therapist hasn’t been a good enough fit for me to open the floodgates of truth to start recovering. I’ll put it on my to-do list for 2025.

I looked up narcissistic personality disorder and I don’t have “an unreasonably high sense of self importance’. I usually think of the needs of others before my own.

 

[The Options Menu]

Thank you you’re probably right that it’s the best way to go. I’ve never had FS at an MP place but am already interested in finding an MP that will do that (but can’t talk about those details on here due to community rules)

At that point why not just use a reputable agency with minimal verification?

 

[FunInToronto2023]

At that point why not just use a reputable agency with minimal verification?

I like the layout of places like Elevate they seem nice and clean whereas when I’ve done incalls at agency places you can see totally wrinkled sheets and super dirty carpeted floors. Don’t get me wrong I like the girls and obviously see them but the bedrooms are sometimes pretty gross. Especially in calls that aren’t hotels. Maybe an Indy is a better experience

 

[maddielikesu24]

Tell her if you want a divorce. lol

 

[The Options Menu]

I’ve done incalls at agency places you can see totally wrinkled sheets and super dirty carpeted floors. Don’t get me wrong I like the girls and obviously see them but the bedrooms are sometimes pretty gross.

That would be something to politely mention to the agency when done. I've been lucky with my incalls, and I get outcalls when I'm on the road.

 

[lollivanessa]

why would this even thing cross your mind?

 

[sweetxaxame]

Want to know why you suddenly want to tell her what you are doing?

 

[Haggy64]

Should I tell my wife that I want to see MPs? Has anyone on here ever told their significant other out of guilt, exasperation at their home sex life or put serious thought into it? If yes, what was the reaction like?

Don’t skewer me it’s something I’ve thought about for awhile and of course each situation has endless variables.

Note I said MPs and not SPs as that immediately means FS in pretty much every case.

Ahhhhhhhhhh.… No dude

 

[FunInToronto2023]

why would this even thing cross your mind?

Guilt and I wasn’t raised to act so selfishly. And to have

Want to know why you suddenly want to tell her what you are doing?

I’m not sure maybe it’s to clear part of my conscience? But if I take a step back from that thought, it can’t be true because I’m asking to be able to have permission to be greedy, so it’s likely a more narcissistic reason. Or combination of both.

 

[FunInToronto2023]

Tell her if you want a divorce. lol

That’s true on several levels

 

[waltdub]

If you're so unhappy that you're stepping out, why not just get divorced? Maybe meet someone you actually like.

lol. You’re clearly not married!

 

[tobermory]

I like the layout of places like Elevate they seem nice and clean whereas when I’ve done incalls at agency places you can see totally wrinkled sheets and super dirty carpeted floors. Don’t get me wrong I like the girls and obviously see them but the bedrooms are sometimes pretty gross. Especially in calls that aren’t hotels. Maybe an Indy is a better experience

There’s no absolutes here, but mostly seeing indies from tryst, ie higher end ones, I’ve found the incalls to typically be quite nice condos.

 

[Jenesis]

lol. You’re clearly not married!

Shockingly, many men think that until they do get divorced. Then they feel freer then they have ever felt and wondered why they didn’t do it sooner.

At least this is what many clients have told me.

 

[FunInToronto2023]

lol. You’re clearly not married!

I’m married with kids.

 

[JackieJack]

My ex (wife at the time) was fine with my getting RMT massages at a health club to which we both belonged. She knew they were totally legit.

She was not happy when a friend of hers saw me going into "Just Relax", a semi-legit spa, and "ratted" on me, as my wife (at the time) assumed I was at getting at least a bj there (which wasn't the case).

That despite our not having had sex for years...

What would you possibly have to gain by telling your wife about your extra-curricular adventures?

So falsely accused?

 

[xmontrealer]

So falsely accused?

Yes, falsely accused at Just Relax, where I only received HJ's.

"Guilty" though at other spas and with escorts.

That said, I never had an extra-marital "affair" with a civilian and actual emotions involved, which in my self-justifying opinion would have been actual "cheating", as opposed to what I did...

 

[FunInToronto2023]

Yes, falsely accused at Just Relax, where I only received HJ's.

"Guilty" though at other spas and with escorts.

That said, I never had an extra-marital "affair" with a civilian and actual emotions involved, which in my self-justifying opinion would have been actual "cheating", as opposed to what I did...

I’m the same my behaviour has been horrible “but” I’ve never had an emotional affair. I want to feel wanted, and have, but “only” sexually. I’ve never felt the desire to run out on the family, it’s been some of a have your cake and eat it too (because there’s nothing fun going on at home). Totally trying to justify it I know.

 

[flawlesslyukisses]

She will probably tell it to everyone. So maybe just keep it a secret.

 

[endlessbeauty69]

Any update if you really did tell her.