I think the OP has filled himself with guilt over something he has no need to feel guilty about. He keeps talking about his "disgusting" behavior, but I don't even know what he is talking about. He just sees escorts. What of it? Maybe religion or conservative parents are behind his confusion or his revulsion.
Clearly he loves and want to preserve his family, which is great, and he also has sexual needs that are not met at home. This is so normal it is nor even an interesting story. What is interesting is his guilt, his disgust. That is something worth exploring for him with the right therapist. Come that day, what goes on in those therapy sessions will be as private as what goes on for him in a massage parlor or an incall escort setting. If someday after his own therapy work, he wants to try marriage counseling with his wife, that is a possibility, but probably the beginning of the end.
Vibrantly sexual, enduring marriages may exist, but I would say they are most uncommon in our society.
Clearly he loves and want to preserve his family, which is great, and he also has sexual needs that are not met at home. This is so normal it is nor even an interesting story. What is interesting is his guilt, his disgust. That is something worth exploring for him with the right therapist. Come that day, what goes on in those therapy sessions will be as private as what goes on for him in a massage parlor or an incall escort setting. If someday after his own therapy work, he wants to try marriage counseling with his wife, that is a possibility, but probably the beginning of the end.
Vibrantly sexual, enduring marriages may exist, but I would say they are most uncommon in our society.
