Married Hobbying

[FunInToronto2023]

lol. You’re clearly not married!

I’m married with kids.

 

[JackieJack]

My ex (wife at the time) was fine with my getting RMT massages at a health club to which we both belonged. She knew they were totally legit.

She was not happy when a friend of hers saw me going into "Just Relax", a semi-legit spa, and "ratted" on me, as my wife (at the time) assumed I was at getting at least a bj there (which wasn't the case).

That despite our not having had sex for years...

What would you possibly have to gain by telling your wife about your extra-curricular adventures?

So falsely accused?

 

[xmontrealer]

So falsely accused?

Yes, falsely accused at Just Relax, where I only received HJ's.

"Guilty" though at other spas and with escorts.

That said, I never had an extra-marital "affair" with a civilian and actual emotions involved, which in my self-justifying opinion would have been actual "cheating", as opposed to what I did...

 

[that6969]

I think someone already mentioned it, but take a break if guilt is playing a role.

And I think you said sex has stopped (I didn't go back and read the topic), but you could try perhaps pulling a move on her? Or if it's gotten to the point already where that wouldn't do much then maybe communicate about it with her? My ex wife and I would openly communicate certain things and we have kids. But never been in a situation like yours. I'd try communicating with her if you still wanted sex from her and find her sexually appealing. No idea how old she is but perhaps could be a mental thing or menopause. I know it happens to quite a few guys where sex down the road slows down or stops altogether. Could he hormone issues too.

I've bumped into quite a few religious folks who are super conversative sexually. Not sure if religion is playing a role eventually because people change as they age. Just tossing it out there.