Lend your advice please.
- Thread starter Nathan Drake
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Correct answer is D) none of the above.
Hemingwayz - ultimately your friend appreciated it. Thanks.
As a friend of the board, I appreciate all the feedback...we're just talking eh.
Ill say it again. cant take this serious. rub and tug account=grain of salt. it is about moral compass its just yours is fucked up majorly. and you are obviously confiused NO ONE IS SAYING SPS ARE BAD you are being thick by pushing that shitty "point". If she was fucking random people behind his back for free the issue wouldnt be any different.
Still of sound mind. You summed it up well with this last comment.
I agree that many many of the girls are very intelligent and overall good people...fun to be around. I love so many of them. No lies. It's more if he's getting hurt...which I don't think I'd ever really know.
Definitely something in the weeks or months to see how it goes. Nothing in the near future with bringing this up to anyone. Except the collective brainpower in this place.
Agreed. But, I think that many are emphasizing the context of this situation. I'm looking at this from the perspective of "my friend". Would my answer change if I knew that she was HIV positive? If she was a known affiliate of a Rob Ford? (I kid.) It's simply a matter of whether you believe that information is 1. material and 2. whether a person deserves to know and make an informed decision for him/herself.
I can see why people are getting worked up against disclosure. It could ruin a person's ability to earn a livelihood or personal relationships. But, IMO, that's a pretty big assumption in and of itself. How do we know that this person would choose the man over the job? This is why I think the use of face pics is a pretty big clue.
The "golden rule" is an interesting moral guide. It cuts both ways. If you happen to favour the side of the person withholding the truth, then obviously you won't support disclosure. Ironically (and arguably hypocritically), many of us on here are cheater...yet we favour disclosure???
I would like to think that it's because we've accepted that the consequences of our choices/actions is part of this journey we call life. We also appreciate the other side of the story, which is the situation of the person (potentially) being hurt. As some have said, they would want to be told if they were that friend.
I've had the misfortune of having front row seats to people finding out that their partners were unfaithful. Some of the comments in this thread reminded me of a recurring theme. One question that invariably arose was "Who knew that he was fucking around? Did YOU know???"
They want to find out who know and didn't tell them. Who were false friends? Who can they trust to watch their back?
From that perspective, what moral obligations do you owe your friends?
So you are saying the OP should sleep with the women in question ....That would be truly the shoe on the other foot. If he did not then its not a equal comparison.
Naw, tapping her is besides the point. It would be an equal comparison if the erstwhile hobbyist was in a relationship with Miss Jessica's high school friend and that person was someone Miss Jessica cared about or was close to She's saying, MYOB. That's cool. Everyone is entitled to choose their own karma....
Totally agree with statement and neither opinion is right or wrong when you really get down to it , its just difference of opinion. Personal standards are a choice
So what happens if this dude tells the guy & next thing u know they are on the 6 o'clock news? He snapped, she's dead, or beaten, etc? Do any of u know how to predict how someone will handle that? Will he take to violence? Revenge? Tell her family? Out her on the net?
She isn't cheating. She's working!
Who is anyone to decide what HER consequences are?
U wanna tell ur buddy his gf isn't good for him, fine. But do not put HER truth out. That is hers to decide. Jess is right, &a great example of how it works both ways. I run into clients out in "real life" all the time, at the mall, running errands, etc. I see some I've known & cared for, guys I've known a dozen yrs now.....in fact I've had times where it turns out I know their wife. should I out them? Because I care, so I must be the ghost of hobby truth & tell the world how awful he is? Come on! Gimme a break.
Do. Not. Out. Anyone. Ever.
She isn't cheating. She's working!
Who is anyone to decide what HER consequences are?
U wanna tell ur buddy his gf isn't good for him, fine. But do not put HER truth out. That is hers to decide. Jess is right, &a great example of how it works both ways. I run into clients out in "real life" all the time, at the mall, running errands, etc. I see some I've known & cared for, guys I've known a dozen yrs now.....in fact I've had times where it turns out I know their wife. should I out them? Because I care, so I must be the ghost of hobby truth & tell the world how awful he is? Come on! Gimme a break.
Do. Not. Out. Anyone. Ever.
Ok and that is what works for you , might not work for others so you have to let others live by their rules and you live by yours.
In the realm of hypothetical scenarios maybe the guy tells the friend and he is relieved and thankful that he knows the truth and her "job" (which is cheating if she is lying about it and claims their relationship is monogamous) is not something that he can live with. No Violence , No 6 o clock news, no one but the 3 of them know why the split happened.... they both go separate ways. I find that far more likely then the other pictures that are being painted.
Any decision made by the OP affects other people involved. Other people will have to live with his judgment, we don't live by separated rules in our own selfish bubbles.
EXACTLY what I was going to say! I didn't read the whole thread but I'm sure someone brought up the idea that if a provider started this thread saying "Some old friend from highschool is totally dating a CLIENT OF MINE! Should I TELL HER!" You'd all be singing a different tune.
I find this statement to be very funny. We make decisions every day that affect others and imo that's what caring people do and how we make things better in this world. we all live by very separate rules, beliefs and ethics and that's how the world is
Just curious - so as long she's working, her partner is not entitled to know the health risks that he is unknowingly accepting? I have a problem with that....
We make decisions that take into consideration how they affect others. Perhaps not in your bubble though.
