NO ONE IS SAYING SPS ARE BAD
Agreed. But, I think that many are emphasizing the context of this situation. I'm looking at this from the perspective of "my friend". Would my answer change if I knew that she was HIV positive? If she was a known affiliate of a Rob Ford? (I kid.) It's simply a matter of whether you believe that information is 1.
material and 2.
whether a person deserves to know and make an informed decision for him/herself.
I can see why people are getting worked up against disclosure. It could ruin a person's ability to earn a livelihood or personal relationships. But, IMO, that's a pretty big assumption in and of itself. How do we know that this person would choose the man over the job? This is why I think the use of face pics is a pretty big clue.
The
"golden rule" is an interesting moral guide. It cuts both ways. If you happen to favour the side of the person withholding the truth, then obviously you won't support disclosure. Ironically (and arguably hypocritically), many of us on here
are cheater...
yet we favour disclosure???
I would like to think that it's because we've accepted that the consequences of our choices/actions is part of this journey we call life. We also appreciate the
other side of the story, which is the situation of the person (potentially) being hurt. As some have said, they would want to be told if they were that friend.
I've had the misfortune of having front row seats to people finding out that their partners were unfaithful. Some of the comments in this thread reminded me of a recurring theme. One question that invariably arose was
"Who knew that he was fucking around? Did YOU know???"
They want to find out who know and
didn't tell them. Who were false friends? Who can they trust to watch their back?
From that perspective, what moral obligations do you owe your friends?