Lend your advice please.

[Aardvark154]

By talking I'm referring to asking my buddy how much he knows about his girl, and enlightening him.

Are you the only one who can't see some hypocrisy here? You write about wanting to see this woman as an SP, but then at the same time seemingly feel that she isn't good enough for your friend.

Stay out of other peoples business. Dont see her. Keep your mouth shut.

Truer words were never written. This is a loose, loose situation.

 

[GameBoy27]

Ask yourself this. If the roles were reversed, what would you want your friend to do?

A) Plug, and play silently? Ninja styles

B) All talk, no action? ---- assuming play goes out the window if he opens his mouth.

C) Or, have his cake and eat it. Play first, talk later?

We'll wait for your answer.

 

[Nathan Drake]

Aardvark. You misquoted me. I did not say that.


Game boy. I'd expect most guys would be a ninja you're asking wrong guy. My experience is getting rocked...but them again I always have a hot gf.

 

[dirkd101]

Ask yourself this. If the roles were reversed, what would you want your friend to do?

A) Plug, and play silently? Ninja styles

B) All talk, no action? ---- assuming play goes out the window if he opens his mouth.

C) Or, have his cake and eat it. Play first, talk later?

We'll wait for your answer.

Remember GameBoy, he did say that there is a bit devil's advocate at play here;

Hey I'm playing devils advocate with myself

 

[IM469]

A good friend of mine that I don't see so often. We went to elementary school together, high school...language school...

I know him, and his whole family pretty well.

This describes a friend of mine - we don't see each other regularly but we are still close friends. To suggest I would let him walk into blindly into an embarrassing /deceitful/ painful relationship because I don't want to 'out' the girl deceiving him is ridiculous. This is not a judgement on dating an SP, he can do whatever he wants and I hope the best for him. This is about being a real friend and making sure he doesn't get hurt. I would expect the same from one of my friends if they see a potential for me to hurt myself whether a bad relationship or just a potentially bad purchase.

All of the above are criminal activities.

The situation under discussion is not.

You miss the point (I had a similar comment). The above are all activities that will hurt your friend/ family - I'm suggesting that the emotional scars could even be worse that quietly letting his place get robbed.

There is a huge difference between two people engaging in a private relationship (love/financial/ whatever) and a deceitful based relationship where one party has is at risk of getting hurt.

For those SP's that think the friends should stand by and 'mind their own business', would you 'mind your own business' if an SP friend was going to spend time with a customer that you know will not pay her ? I've seen threads started by SP's that wanted to out a bad customer - seems that isn't following the 'none of your business rule' and they are not even friends.

 

[Aardvark154]

Aardvark. You misquoted me. I did not say that.

I'm sorry if you feel I'm implying something that you did not intend to say. However, here is your post in full

So, wake up...mess around on the iPad for a bit, check my emails, my board accounts what not.

Nothing special.

Log into Facebook and WTF.

A good friend of mine that I don't see so often. We went to elementary school together, high school...language school...

I know him, and his whole family pretty well.

His new girlfriend though (very good looking girl)...couldn't tell where I met her before but I knew her...creep her FB to draw the connection and whattaya know.

She's a working girl on BP that I've wanted to plug for a long time, but haven't yet.

What do I do?

A) Plug, and play silently? Ninja styles

B) All talk, no action? ---- assuming play goes out the window if I open my mouth.

C) Or, have my cake and eat it. Play first, talk later?

By talking I'm referring to asking my buddy how much he knows about his girl, and enlightening him.

This is a very difficult situation, however, you will note that two of your options involve seeing this woman as a SP, and one of them then leading your friend by the nose so that this woman is outed.

I understand that you don't want your friend to be burned, at the same time I don't believe anyone - including your friend, is going to love you afterwards.

Have, you ever had the experience where someone in your family, parents or siblings said something to you which was critical of your girl? Did you pay the slightest attention or did you rather become defensive? If you are like the vast majority of people it was the later, it isn't until we are ready to acknowledge something for ourselves that we will see such a comment as advice rather than as attack.

It really is loose, loose, loose.

 

[GameBoy27]

Remember GameBoy, he did say that there is a bit devil's advocate at play here;

Hey I'm playing devils advocate with myself

Jeeeez, how could I miss that redundant sentence? lol

Never mind!

 

[Nathan Drake]

I take it back, you did not misquote me. I am sorry. App doesn't work correctly on my phone, and I'm not always at a computer. I am sorry Aardvark...

Look, I see these girls. I've wanted to see this girl. I've been presented a situation.

Yeah, I'd love to (have) fuck her, not that I am. Also, in the past...I've asked said friend for some pretty life changing advice and he steered me in the right direction. ANYWAYS.

Point is I am now asking the advice of all people on the board in an open conversation.

To best achieve this, I have to present the situation to you all from every angle. Not that I'd do any of the three in specific, but those in my mind were outcomes with the different variables.

I did want to see her.

He is my friend.

She is an escort.

I could A,b,c, etc...

 

[MR.Tibbs]

Hey I'm playing devils advocate with myself. And yes, if I was dating a prostitute...I'd appreciate someone telling me. Something odd happening here though...she also has a FB profile picture of another working girl...and is using it as herself. I don't know if my friend is shilling FB. Lol. Because she is seriously hot.

Ok Simple

PM me the Info, an I will book her loll
sounds like a plan to me

 

[Nathan Drake]

I'm sorry if you feel I'm implying something that you did not intend to say. However, here is your post in full



This is a very difficult situation, however, you will note that two of your options involve seeing this woman as a SP, and one of them then leading your friend by the nose so that this woman is outed.

I understand that you don't want your friend to be burned, at the same time I don't believe anyone - including your friend, is going to love you afterwards.

Have, you ever had the experience where someone in your family, parents or siblings said something to you which was critical of your girl? Did you pay the slightest attention or did you rather become defensive? If you are like the vast majority of people it was the later, it isn't until we are ready to acknowledge something for ourselves that we will see such a comment as advice rather than as attack.

It really is loose, loose, loose.

I understand it's hard topic and not easy...but end of the day as a good friend what is right? If I was 100% it was her, maybe. I haven't seen her to say unequivocally that it is her, so I could end up looking like a dick. I will say she is well reviewed...so the photos in the ad I'm confident is her. If I get the chance to meet them both...in a casual situation maybe I can see what up.

People can say what they like. How they say it kind of determines my reaction, I am great believer in the importance of proper execution. Whether I listen to what you have to say is up to me, you could be 100% right which I've been on both ends of that stick. Receiving/relaying 100% right information. Still I'm not 100% about so with that being said I'll see what happens.

He could know, and say hey have at it bro? Maybe bring us closer. It's all in the execution. How best to approach.

 

[Nathan Drake]

Ok Simple

PM me the Info, an I will book her loll
sounds like a plan to me

You may have already

it's a small world after all

 

[Frosty]

Hang out with this buddy of yours and bring up a conversation about SPs. Tell him that you're going to set him up with a good SP at a hotel which so happens to be his current GF.

 

[richaceg]

Outing a provider to her friends & families is different than warning your friend who he's with...personally, i would wait...if the relationship reaches engagement...book her for the bachelor party....

 

[good to go]

I would not do anything. You could be the bad guy either way, plus would you like someone to out you. Remember the golden rule. It is one of life's most perfect rules. " Do unto others as you would have others do unto you ".

 

[TeasePlease]

I'd out her if she was an arms dealer, but not for being an escort. BTW, do you see being an escort as negative?

Not at all. the issue is not what she does for a living, it's whether her partner is entitled to know.


btw, my friend said that she would totally tell the guy...and she is herself a retired Mpa who was outed... There's no right answer to this. Follow your own compass

 

[buttercup]

This raises the broader issue of what should you do when you know or suspect that your chum's S.O is cheating on him. Blab or button?

The four magic words: "Stay out of it." Even (especially?) if he's a family member.

You might think you know what's best for him, or for their relationship -- but really you know nothing. The desire to tell him is the desire to show him how clever you are, that you know something he doesn't.

 

[IM469]

...and she is herself a retired Mpa who was outed...

The question has to do with an active SP - I'm not going to get involved if my friend is dating a retired SP although it might be awkward for her - not me- if I previously used her services..

 

[Nathan Drake]

The desire to tell him is the desire to show him how clever you are, that you know something he doesn't.

Not really... if I'm bb'ing a working girl, I'd sure like to know of the unknown risk I'm taking. That's assuming he's hitting that raw. That's assuming he's even hitting it.

It's not about being clever buttercup. I screw prostitutes, it's my new thing...if my friend is getting played I agree it's his mistake to make...but I'm sure he'd appreciate the heads up. Tactfully executed of course.

Ironic again - a friend of a friend just posted something about his ex being a prostitute and how he didn't know. I stuck my dick raw in her, what a slut blah blah blah. I didn't agree with the post because he named the girl...I thought it was really low class. Don't you know my friend liked the post - and went on to post himself about people in general and liars, and pipe dreams... It makes me rethink it all...I'd never hope he publicly outs the girl like that. Oh fuck, this is irony at it's finest. So many angles.

On a side note -- So let's say I keep my mouth shut. No harm no foul. No one knows a thing. Is it ok visit the girl? (without saying anything to the girl either...obvi)

 

[Captain Fantastic]

You're either a) trolling, b) immature to the point of even asking these questions and positing these scenarios or c) have a faulty moral compass and no sense of empathy.

 

[TeasePlease]

Not surprised you've been outed considering your reputation, you got diarrhea of the mouth. Instead of coming here and insulting Terb members that provide you a living you should learn how to come across your ideas in a polite manner.

Not cool, dude. Not cool at all.

The question has to do with an active SP - I'm not going to get involved if my friend is dating a retired SP although it might be awkward for her - not me- if I previously used her services..

Active or not is irrelevant. It's the perspective of one woman who can appreciate the situation.