Lend your advice please.

[Nathan Drake]

So, wake up...mess around on the iPad for a bit, check my emails, my board accounts what not.

Nothing special.

Log into Facebook and WTF.

A good friend of mine that I don't see so often. We went to elementary school together, high school...language school...

I know him, and his whole family pretty well.

His new girlfriend though (very good looking girl)...couldn't tell where I met her before but I knew her...creep her FB to draw the connection and whattaya know.

She's a working girl on BP that I've wanted to plug for a long time, but haven't yet.

What do I do?

A) Plug, and play silently? Ninja styles

B) All talk, no action? ---- assuming play goes out the window if I open my mouth.

C) Or, have my cake and eat it. Play first, talk later?

By talking I'm referring to asking my buddy how much he knows about his girl, and enlightening him.

 

[Nathan Drake]

Thanks dude.

Like I said I don't see him too often but you can bet I msg him to come blaze with me tonight.

No link that could blow up my spot.

This is a secret life.

 

[oldjones]

I take it you missed this recent thread on the same sort of topic which ran to a couple of pages. Consensus was `you can`t have it both ways`. There`s no way to play both ways and still have things as they were before. Do you want your SP, or your friend to have his GF?

The real question is how you cope with knowing what you imagine your friend does not know. Since you made the connection between her FB page and her BP ad, either he already knows or he doesn`t read the same pages you do. Like daybynight says, if you care about your buddy, I`d say your real question should be how would he feel about finding out—whether about her, or about your attention to BP ads—not how you should play her.

 

[MuseMgmt]

WOW! Why on earth would you want to inform your buddy about his girl?? Thats outting her! Would u want that done to you? Im shocked!

Stay out of other peoples business. Dont see her. Keep your mouth shut. What ever happened to the golden rules of hobbying?! Dont ask, Dont tell. Who cares what you know or think you know. Its not your gf so its none of your business. Im shocked at this post!

 

[TeasePlease]

Unless you're a Grade A cabron, you don't plug that girl. Ever.

 

[Dougal Short]

Unless you're a Grade A cabron, you don't plug that girl. Ever.

^ This.

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=cabron

 

[Babypowder]

its easy if thats your good friend you tell him. i would also screen cap the ad just incase she grows a brain cell and blocks her face.

 

[therocket]

you can always PM us the link and let us give you feedback.,...that way you are not actually fucking your friends GF but still get the vicarious pleasure in a manner of speaking...

 

[MPAsquared]

I just can't believe that she would be using her face in BP ads. Some ladies have nothing to hide, but the ones that do...well.

I think gauging how serious he is with her is a great starting point. If you tell him then you out yourself too as a hobbyist. Then if he tells her he knows she's gonna wanna know how the hell he knows and think he's a hobbyist too.

But again, see how serious he is. If he loves her and considers her a keeper and he's that close of a longtime friend to you and you don't wanna see him hurt, then I say tell him. He'll thank you in the long run. If you decide to keep you mouth shut then make sure you play dumb if/when it comes out.

Then again, maybe he already knows!

its easy if thats your good friend you tell him. i would also screen cap the ad just incase she grows a brain cell and blocks her face.

I can't believe what I'm reading here!!! Are u guys crazy?! Would u want a "caring old highschool friend" to out you?! Screen shots? Are u mad?!

Leave the woman earning a living alone! Do not ruin her relationship. U have no clue what happens when someone is outted. Its fucking awful. Its not your gf, it's not your place to judge or play god, it's none of your business. How much he loves her is irrelevant. This hobby has rules. The #1 rule is you do NOT out anyone! Period.

Some people need to really think before they type!

 

[Babypowder]

I can't believe what I'm reading here!!! Are u guys crazy?! Would u want a "caring old highschool friend" to out you?! Screen shots? Are u mad?!

Leave the woman earning a living alone! Do not ruin her relationship. U have no clue what happens when someone is outted. Its fucking awful. Its not your gf, it's not your place to judge or play god, it's none of your business. How much he loves her is irrelevant. This hobby has rules. The #1 rule is you do NOT out anyone! Period.

Some people need to really think before they type!

what a joke

 

[Nathan Drake]

Hey I'm playing devils advocate with myself. And yes, if I was dating a prostitute...I'd appreciate someone telling me. Something odd happening here though...she also has a FB profile picture of another working girl...and is using it as herself. I don't know if my friend is shilling FB. Lol. Because she is seriously hot.

 

[Art Mann]

Take these two pieces of advice to heart, and go straight to bed:

WOW! Why on earth would you want to inform your buddy about his girl?? Thats outting her! Would u want that done to you? Im shocked!

Stay out of other peoples business. Dont see her. Keep your mouth shut. What ever happened to the golden rules of hobbying?! Dont ask, Dont tell. Who cares what you know or think you know. Its not your gf so its none of your business. Im shocked at this post!

I can't believe what I'm reading here!!! Are u guys crazy?! Would u want a "caring old highschool friend" to out you?! Screen shots? Are u mad?!

Leave the woman earning a living alone! Do not ruin her relationship. U have no clue what happens when someone is outted. Its fucking awful. Its not your gf, it's not your place to judge or play god, it's none of your business. How much he loves her is irrelevant. This hobby has rules. The #1 rule is you do NOT out anyone! Period. . . .

If you still feel like outing her and yourself in the morning, consult a physician immediately for a sanity check.

 

[TeasePlease]

If she used face pics, she obviously doesn't care about privacy (or she's a brick).

Either way, whether you tell your friend depends on the relationship. If he's a passing acquaintance, who cares. Shut up and pass the beer. But, if he's someone I cared about AND I had the kind of relationship where I could have such a discussion, I would bring it up. It wouldn't be difficult to have a short, supportive discussion. I would bet that if she used a face pic, he probably knows.

 

[Shakeandbake]

If I was unknowingly dating a industry worker I would want someone to tell me. Plain and simple. there is no "Golden Rule" when someone is lying to you and deceiving you, that all goes out the window. One can argue what outing her would do to her feelings etc but what about the guy being dubbed here ? It is a 2 way street and no hobbying code of ethics bs should stand in the way of basic common sense

 

[IM469]

Either way, whether you tell your friend depends on the relationship. If he's a passing acquaintance, who cares. Shut up and pass the beer. But, if he's someone I cared about AND I had the kind of relationship where I could have such a discussion, I would bring it up. It wouldn't be difficult to have a short, supportive discussion. I would bet that if she used a face pic, he probably knows.

+1

You are suppose to be his friend. You don't have to be judgmental - just a close friend looking after his buddy's best interests. If you didn't know - what would you think of your close friends who let you wade deep into a relationship before the inevitable happens - possibly in a more public/family gathering ?

While you shouldn't plug your buddy's girl, if they do split up - I'd wait until reconciliation is out of the question and then tap her.

 

[TeasePlease]

Let's be clear on one thing - this is a much different situation than outing a girl out of vengeance or malfeasance.

 

[IM469]

If they were getting engaged, and she was still working, what then? I think I'd talk with her - "You have to tell him, or I'll have to."

Way too late ! I would never approach the girl - particularly with "You have to tell him, or I'll have to." If it is your best friend - it is your business. If he can't count on you prevent him from being blind sided - what kind of friend are you ? I don't suggest you meddle or judge - just make sure he has his eyes wide open.

If the girl is deceiving him - why is it meddling to prevent him from getting hurt ? If a friend's house is getting robbed or a neighbor raped - are you meddling to do something about it ?

 

[MPAsquared]

what a joke

Ur just an idiot.

If she used face pics, she obviously doesn't care about privacy (or she's a brick).

Either way, whether you tell your friend depends on the relationship. If he's a passing acquaintance, who cares. Shut up and pass the beer. But, if he's someone I cared about AND I had the kind of relationship where I could have such a discussion, I would bring it up. It wouldn't be difficult to have a short, supportive discussion. I would bet that if she used a face pic, he probably knows.

Read the story. He's an old school friend he doesn't see often. Its none of this guys business!

If I was unknowingly dating a industry worker I would want someone to tell me. Plain and simple. there is no "Golden Rule" when someone is lying to you and deceiving you, that all goes out the window. One can argue what outing her would do to her feelings etc but what about the guy being dubbed here ? It is a 2 way street and no hobbying code of ethics bs should stand in the way of basic common sense

What?! We are all liars here. Hobbyists, workers, we all fib to enjoy this world. Should we all be told on to our mothers, wives, bosses? Hell no!

 

[MPAsquared]

If you decide to say something, meet her first. With the realization that there is another pic of a different working girl, there could be something different and much more innocent happening.

And if you do tell him, your not "outing" her in front the world. It's privately to a friend who happens to be dating her and maybe loves her. If he doesn't know, he should do whatever he decides and keep it quiet.

But will he? No bf will keep quiet. In my experience, they run right to the girls family & tell.

Let's be clear on one thing - this is a much different situation than outing a girl out of vengeance or malfeasance.

How so? How do u know how the bf will react? Its threatening no matter how u slice it.

Way too late ! I would never approach the girl - particularly with "You have to tell him, or I'll have to." If it is your best friend - it is your business. If he can't count on you prevent him from being blind sided - what kind of friend are you ? I don't suggest you meddle or judge - just make sure he has his eyes wide open.

If the girl is deceiving him - why is it meddling to prevent him from getting hurt ? If a friend's house is getting robbed or a neighbor raped - are you meddling to do something about it ?

Exactly. Its threatening!

 

[Babypowder]

What?! We are all liars here. Hobbyists, workers, we all fib to enjoy this world. Should we all be told on to our mothers, wives, bosses? Hell no!

of course the rub and tug account would let you believe that there is a "golden rule" and suggest you be a scumbag and not tell your friend. you are pathetic