Falling for a SP / SP falling for a client.

[GPIDEAL]

the whisper r name would be " Alona M "
I have been there when you two play...............amazing

Studs

I had the pleasure of that duo experience as well.

 

[GPIDEAL]

Very well said. Sometimes you came across a SP or MPA who clicked with you so well, were so charming and knows how to put a stamp in your heart. I almost always fell for them especially with those who have sense of humour and text you everyday something like good night or good morning greetings. The Russian specialist Korean lady from Mkham Oasis was very good at that by texting you at nights how she's thinking back what we had done in the sessoin and such sometimes describing evrything in details just to get you hooked. I fell for it all the time. lol.

Attachment is like a little piece of your heart, or a tattoo thereon, right next to the name of another SP I saw lol.

Some ladies didn't communicate outside the session, while others did. I could have a sense of attachment in each case but it's never like a real relationship - it's stress free bedroom play.

I would say there are two types of SP associations - some are like mistresses, others are like one night stands or flings.

 

[TeasePlease]

I have fallen for one. Doesn't do me any good. Hate reading reviews where she gives other guys great service and great deals. Not a winning situation. Although I accept the reality, I do not like it. Never had it happen before and hopefully never will again. Kind of screws up the whole purpose of pooning.

Had a chat with a retired MPA once about dating MPAs (she met her then-bf, now husband as a client). She simply said "Don't read reviews". Nothing good can come of it. That struck as being true, but also somewhat disingenuous. The premise is to ignore that part of your partner's life.

Then again, she's been happily married for 5 years now. She recently invited me to her kid's birthday party...at her home...with her hubby and family, etc. Now that was an interesting experience, which segues perfectly into the second major thorny issue of client/SP issues - trust

As another retired MPA told me, the fundamental problem with getting serious with a client is that, deep down, how you met will always be an issue. As she said, every client relationship she knew of - at the first sign of trouble, the guy would go back to pooning. Likewise, in my own anecdotal experience talking to MPAs, there's always a special client (or five) with whom a retired MPA keeps in touch (and maybe even, ahem, touches on a continuing basis). So, trust is most certainly an issue. I suppose it is in every relationship. It's just so blatant with industry relationships.

 

[S.C. Joe]

Love--what the fuck is that really ?

I knew this gal who lifted my mood up every time I saw her...even once when I was tick off and feeling down, she was able to pick me up. She just had a way, how she look, spoke, smiled, laughed.

I started figuring it out, like when she spoke she didn't say alot of words and she had a way of smiling while she spoke but her eyes just had that special glaze...her co worker was "hotter" looking but she couldn't get to me

So I believe in love at first sight, what ever the fuck love is ?

 

[barrowing]

As another retired MPA told me, the fundamental problem with getting serious with a client is that, deep down, how you met will always be an issue.

Very true, and when you meet someone she knows you always wonder did he do her? If its really there you have to be able to say "who cares" about the past and be able to focus on the future. Easier said then done, let me tell you.

 

[YYZguy]

It's quite a mindfield having feelings for an SP or vice versa.

However, I can't view this as a cold blooded sexual transaction (maybe when I was younger?) and ultimately, people on both sides have feelings.

I have to admit, last year, I was becoming too attracted to an SP to the point of distraction and eventually in the interest of self protection, I stopped seeing her.

Currently, I view one of my favourite SPs as a mixture of things - a sexual partner, a friend and as someone I have feelings for, but contained in a way that I don't feel jealousy and I know the limits, but it's not always easy.

However, in my hobbying, I have met some amazing ladies - not just physically, but for the strength of their personalities and that more than anything keeps me in the field.

 

[mrsCALoki]

Very true, and when you meet someone she knows you always wonder did he do her? If its really there you have to be able to say "who cares" about the past and be able to focus on the future. Easier said then done, let me tell you.

Even just being at a function and wondering if someone there will recognize your partner as an SP seems hard on a man. I changed my hair style and colour because of that reaction in Loki.

 

[Buick Mackane]

As another retired MPA told me, the fundamental problem with getting serious with a client is that, deep down, how you met will always be an issue. As she said, every client relationship she knew of - at the first sign of trouble, the guy would go back to pooning.

That could be said of every person in a relationship who meets someone new outside of it. Nothing to do with escorts.
It isn't an issue if they are single when they meet.

 

[jonadams]

An even more interesting question might be: If you had an SO and you found out she is/was an sp, what would you do?

Wonder if there's anybody who's been in that situation, because I dated a girl before I was almost positive she "works" in the field, though she never admitted it.

 

[GPIDEAL]

It's quite a mindfield having feelings for an SP or vice versa.

However, I can't view this as a cold blooded sexual transaction (maybe when I was younger?) and ultimately, people on both sides have feelings.

I have to admit, last year, I was becoming too attracted to an SP to the point of distraction and eventually in the interest of self protection, I stopped seeing her.

Currently, I view one of my favourite SPs as a mixture of things - a sexual partner, a friend and as someone I have feelings for, but contained in a way that I don't feel jealousy and I know the limits, but it's not always easy.

However, in my hobbying, I have met some amazing ladies - not just physically, but for the strength of their personalities and that more than anything keeps me in the field.

Well said!

 

[canada-man]

 

[Catherine St.Claire]

That's a healthy attitude, you're lucky to have learned from this terrible experience. I hope it hasn't made you cynical towards men in general.

Actually it has had the opposite effect. Instead of becoming cynical, I'm enjoying myself so much more in my day to day. I learned that I'm actually very happy on my own as long as I get to play regularly and I have a dance card of guests who ensure the play is worthy and fulfilling. What I did learn is that I don't actually thrive in traditional relationships so I've allowed for that and participate on a much deeper level with my guests that I connect with. Seems to be a win/win for all. Things like understanding that I love to fall asleep with someone but don't particularly enjoy waking up beside them was an eye opener. I have always believed love was a feeling you get in your ass but twice the hormonal soup took over and it was great fun while it lasted. At my age, I doubt I will ride the "falling in love" roller coaster again but that doesn't mean I don't participate in loving, caring relationships. It just means I don't do the "moving in together, building a mutually exclusive experience". Love many, trust few and always paddle your own canoe is now one of my trusted life mottos...

cat

 

[GPIDEAL]

Actually it has had the opposite effect. Instead of becoming cynical, I'm enjoying myself so much more in my day to day. I learned that I'm actually very happy on my own as long as I get to play regularly and I have a dance card of guests who ensure the play is worthy and fulfilling. What I did learn is that I don't actually thrive in traditional relationships so I've allowed for that and participate on a much deeper level with my guests that I connect with. Seems to be a win/win for all. Things like understanding that I love to fall asleep with someone but don't particularly enjoy waking up beside them was an eye opener. I have always believed love was a feeling you get in your ass but twice the hormonal soup took over and it was great fun while it lasted. At my age, I doubt I will ride the "falling in love" roller coaster again but that doesn't mean I don't participate in loving, caring relationships. It just means I don't do the "moving in together, building a mutually exclusive experience". Love many, trust few and always paddle your own canoe is now one of my trusted life mottos...

cat

Maybe some of us single guys/hobbyists subconsciously do that too.

I haven't ruled out an exclusive, loving relationship, but I don't think it can be with someone that isn't open or liberal-minded (traditional, vanilla).

 

[dondada]

It's quite a mindfield having feelings for an SP or vice versa.

However, I can't view this as a cold blooded sexual transaction (maybe when I was younger?) and ultimately, people on both sides have feelings.

I have to admit, last year, I was becoming too attracted to an SP to the point of distraction and eventually in the interest of self protection, I stopped seeing her.

Currently, I view one of my favourite SPs as a mixture of things - a sexual partner, a friend and as someone I have feelings for, but contained in a way that I don't feel jealousy and I know the limits, but it's not always easy.

However, in my hobbying, I have met some amazing ladies - not just physically, but for the strength of their personalities and that more than anything keeps me in the field.

i too thank you for this...point of distraction is key and self protection quite necessary...it's the hoping for the vice versa which really plays on the mind...literally making you think in ways that this arena of sexuality has no emotional limits...especially when exceptional encounters suggest more than what is really there...quite the fall back to planet terb i must say...there are so many variables than can point someone to think just "maybe" but the sp and the person who exists as that sp in the "real world" can be 2 totally different entities...

plain and simple...fantasy vs reality...don't jump over the fence...the fall is hard to overcome...

 

[renaissance]

I had been seeing a sp for a number of years and would always bring a bottle of wine and we would have a great encounter. All of a sudden she asked that i stop seeing her and would give me no explaination as to why I was more than a little perplexed
A few month later i was with a sp that we had a few duo's with and I asked her if she had heared why the other sp stoped seeing me and she told me that she had developed feelings for me and she felt it was best to just not see me

 

[dondada]

I had been seeing a sp for a number of years and would always bring a bottle of wine and we would have a great encounter. All of a sudden she asked that i stop seeing her and would give me no explaination as to why I was more than a little perplexed
A few month later i was with a sp that we had a few duo's with and I asked her if she had heared why the other sp stoped seeing me and she told me that she had developed feelings for me and she felt it was best to just not see me

probably better that way...having to question why would have been difficult and uncomfortable...clean break...give your head a shake...we are all human...sometimes a little can mean so much more to someone else...

 

[dchoye]

An even more interesting question might be: If you had an SO and you found out she is/was an sp, what would you do?

Wonder if there's anybody who's been in that situation, because I dated a girl before I was almost positive she "works" in the field, though she never admitted it.

That happen to me
Dated a girl was coming off a steady 5 year relationship
Later found out she was a former sp but stopped it early at any early age when she was early 20s
Our dating/ relationship lasted 6 months
I wouldn't say that was the main reason that it ended

 

[fuji]

That happen to me
Dated a girl was coming off a steady 5 year relationship
Later found out she was a former sp but stopped it early at any early age when she was early 20s
Our dating/ relationship lasted 6 months
I wouldn't say that was the main reason that it ended

There is a big, big difference between knowing this from the very beginning and finding out later.

 

[goalie000]

I met my girlfriend as a client. we hit it off and after about a year of client - SP relationship, we moved to regular dating. She has since retired and we are still together.

 

[wasnotmedammit]

She has since retired

Are you sure about that?