Falling for a SP / SP falling for a client.

[kkelso]

I met my girlfriend as a client. we hit it off and after about a year of client - SP relationship, we moved to regular dating. She has since retired and we are still together.

I did this as well, same circumstances and I always believed that she retired.

But my current favorite SP is in a relationship that started through the biz, and her SO thinks she retired as well.

I guess you never now.

KK

 

[Deviant]

I think human nature is such that many of us look for excuses to avoid emotional intimacy.

No-one can love me because...
-I'm too poor
-Too fat
-Too short
-Too tall
-My chin is too small
-My butt is too big
-I have mole
-I have an accent
-I only cum when someone XXXXs my XXXX.
-I'm a client of SPs, or I am an SP, or I'm in love with an SP, or I'm in love with a client.

Listen, I would think that all of us who have been hobbying for a while (or an SP) for while would have learned that sex is not a relationship. If you meet someone that rocking your world, then ask yourself if you would sacrifice your professional relationship for a chance at a personal one. If the answer is yes, then tell them you want to pay them the greatest compliment you can pay another person, and that you're into them. And then see how it goes.

Great sex is easy and common. A great relationship? The most precious thing in the world. Don't make excuses to avoid the possibility when it comes along.

Because seriously folks, life is short.

Thanks for this.

 

[TeasePlease]

That could be said of every person in a relationship who meets someone new outside of it. Nothing to do with escorts.
It isn't an issue if they are single when they meet.

Yes and no. No because hobbying is planned and deliberate, meeting someone while in a relationship can just happen (mind you, you let it happen and you're open the possibility)

 

[youngatheart4444]

Right on Fuji!!!

 

[Mod100]

Actually it has had the opposite effect. Instead of becoming cynical, I'm enjoying myself so much more in my day to day. I learned that I'm actually very happy on my own as long as I get to play regularly and I have a dance card of guests who ensure the play is worthy and fulfilling. What I did learn is that I don't actually thrive in traditional relationships so I've allowed for that and participate on a much deeper level with my guests that I connect with. Seems to be a win/win for all. Things like understanding that I love to fall asleep with someone but don't particularly enjoy waking up beside them was an eye opener. I have always believed love was a feeling you get in your ass but twice the hormonal soup took over and it was great fun while it lasted. At my age, I doubt I will ride the "falling in love" roller coaster again but that doesn't mean I don't participate in loving, caring relationships. It just means I don't do the "moving in together, building a mutually exclusive experience". Love many, trust few and always paddle your own canoe is now one of my trusted life mottos...

cat

Cat, I'm with you on some of that. I'm a one woman guy. Multiple lovers, no thank you. I love falling asleep with her beside me and waking the same way. I like the feeling that we're there for each other. I like the loyalty we share.

That said I like my individuality. I enjoy my own company. I like my home my way. We are presently seeing each other for a couple of days two to three times a month and that seems to work well for both of us as she likes to be her own person too.

Trust? We only have to trust each other. As for "falling head over heals in love" who knows.

As for age, I think it has a lot to do with our feelings.

 

[GPIDEAL]

I had been seeing a sp for a number of years and would always bring a bottle of wine and we would have a great encounter. All of a sudden she asked that i stop seeing her and would give me no explaination as to why I was more than a little perplexed
A few month later i was with a sp that we had a few duo's with and I asked her if she had heared why the other sp stoped seeing me and she told me that she had developed feelings for me and she felt it was best to just not see me

At least she told you . . . (even without an explanation but better than silence).

 

[Casa_Nova]

At least she told you . . . (even without an explanation but better than silence).

Agreed. Nothing worst than having feelings for someone and all of a sudden the other person up and leaves without telling you why.

It is too bad the SP never gave the guy a chance and she made the decision for the both of them. If only she shared her feelings with him, who knows how things may have turned out differently... (assuming the op was not attached...)

 

[thegame2000ca]

I'm sure there are many instances where a client that has fallen head over heels for an SP, but how often does an SP fall for a client? As an SP, they cater to the client's needs and as such, give them the illusion of being wanted, but I'm sure there are times when the feelings are mutual and real but the SP chooses not to cross the escort-client boundary.

Thoughts?

Anything is possible!

Same goes for MPA and Strippers.

 

[TeasePlease]

At least she told you . . . (even without an explanation but better than silence).

Sometimes its better left unsaid, or too difficult to say. I'd rather know/say, because the alternative leaves too many possibilities (include the adverse).

Anything is possible!

Of course, but just because something is possible doesn't make it desirable or beneficial.

 

[Catherine St.Claire]

Cat, I'm with you on some of that. I'm a one woman guy. Multiple lovers, no thank you. I love falling asleep with her beside me and waking the same way. I like the feeling that we're there for each other. I like the loyalty we share.

That said I like my individuality. I enjoy my own company. I like my home my way. We are presently seeing each other for a couple of days two to three times a month and that seems to work well for both of us as she likes to be her own person too.

Trust? We only have to trust each other. As for "falling head over heals in love" who knows.

As for age, I think it has a lot to do with our feelings.

We certainly have the loyalty factor in common! It's a rare commodity and by far the sexiest quality I can find in a partner. I don't know if I need mulitple lovers as I've not had the opportunity to explore that because of my work but when I squared up for 10 years to do the soccer mom thing I didn't have an issue at all at staying faithful. That was a long time ago so I don't know if I could do it now as I've grown up a lot since then. Having genuine, unconditional loyalty in a partner is something definitely worth the effort...

cat

 

[mrsCALoki]

I had been seeing a sp for a number of years and would always bring a bottle of wine and we would have a great encounter. All of a sudden she asked that i stop seeing her and would give me no explaination as to why I was more than a little perplexed
A few month later i was with a sp that we had a few duo's with and I asked her if she had heared why the other sp stoped seeing me and she told me that she had developed feelings for me and she felt it was best to just not see me

Someone really needs to write a SP to client translation dictionary. LOL

 

[mrsCALoki]

Why... what that SP did was near perfect in that situation.

Well yes, but what an sp reads is "Sorry you are getting too creepy to see again" and what the client hears "I am falling for you so go away"

From my perspective that is funny.

 

[mrsCALoki]

You are assuming a lot about the people involved. Is it not possible that she had feelings for him? After all, you fell for a client...

Any thing is possible. But I was told when I was researching becoming an SP that it was the best way to get rid of a guy who is becoming creepy.

And I started liking my guy after a few hundred hours together.

I am studying stats, and the basic rule is..... hakim's razor.

 

[Captain Fantastic]

Any thing is possible. But I was told when I was researching becoming an SP that it was the best way to get rid of a guy who is becoming creepy.

And I started liking my guy after a few hundred hours together.

I am studying stats, and the basic rule is..... hakim's razor.

... and I thought they only sold eyewear.

(It's Occam's razor.)

 

[mrsCALoki]

... and I thought they only sold eyewear.

(It's Occam's razor.)

No hun, it is both. Depends where you went to school

Also Ockham's razor, but the Occam's variations come from about 1850. The basic idea came from Aristotle around 320 BC.

 

[mrsCALoki]

You are right cookiesncream, there could be encounters where the SP will fall for the client but most of the time they don't act on their impulse because they would rather collect the donation when push comes to shove.
I've dated a few outside of the business and when I see them the donation is dramatically low to ensure regular visits
Go for it if they show interest!

So why did you change your nick? Who are you? I see from your Shill posting you are here with a sense of purpose

 

[Captain Fantastic]

No hun, it is both. Depends where you went to school

Also Ockham's razor, but the Occam's variations come from about 1850. The basic idea came from Aristotle around 320 BC.

I'm well aware of the etymology of the word and the fact that the premise is as old as historical writing itself... but please provide something that backs up your idea that it is (or ever was) "hakim's razor."

 

[mrsCALoki]

I'm well aware of the etymology of the word and the fact that the premise is as old as historical writing itself... but please provide something that backs up your idea that it is (or ever was) "hakim's razor."

dahhhhhh type in 'Hakim's razor' in google, see if it flags the same sites in North America? And if you block all North American sites you will get a huge list from Moslem countries


All sarcasm aside, Hakīm means a "wise man" or "physician" so in some circles the term Hakīm razor has an interchangeable meaning with the English version. The English, being the English, prefer the label they applied to it in 1850. You can find the term Hakīm's razor in everything from Dr John E. Sarno, Healing Back Pain to most books translated from Arabic scholars.

 

[Jun]

Guilty of falling for a woman who happens to be an SP. After all we are all human, and "this" shouldn't be a reason not to fall in love.. when it happens it happens... Now its only up to her, if she is willing to let her guard down and concur the love.

 

[mrsCALoki]

Guilty of falling for a woman who happens to be an SP. After all we are all human, and "this" shouldn't be a reason not to fall in love.. when it happens it happens... Now its only up to her, if she is willing to let her guard down and concur the love.

I do not know about girls who grew up in Canada, but when I was young we sort of assumed that any guy who thought he loved us after spending only a few dozen hours with us was someone we should avoid at all cost.

I guess that the fact that the time is 'intimate' makes it feel like you know the person more, but frankly, bed time is the worst time to learn about another person.

So I guess to me saying you love someone without having spent a lot of time with them is foolish and creepy.

Well maybe just inexperienced and juvenile but still creepy. And I am not commenting on you since I do not know how much time you spent together