Falling for a SP / SP falling for a client.

[curiousm7]

I love this thread and it is great to hear how some of the relationships built work out.

There is a key. Client's see providers for one thing. A real man realizes that a provider is still a real woman behind her professional persona. A real woman with feelings who, regardless of her work, still has a heart that can love. This heart does not have room for judgements

I know of two cases personally. I know a provider who has fallen for a client and the client has fallen for her. The problem? He says he wants to be in a relationship but can't handle what she does. I think he is a hypocrite! And, to express warm feelings and "I can't handle your job" in the same breath...just cruel. How can a real man string along her heart and, at the same time, express shame to the point that she is feeling ashamed of herself? Makes me sick!

Then, I know of another case where provider and client have fallen for each other. He has a hard time sometimes but, he tells me that he shares with her when it is hard but makes no judgement. He wants her to be able to share her days with him just like any other profession so he has promised to work on it. He told me the other day that he loves her...big words...and told me she loves him too. I have met both of them and, she is amazing. I used to see her a lot but, out of respect for him, I stopped seeing her a while ago. And now, well, I have retired anyway.

It also happened to me. An sp fell for me...I had to stop seeing her. I am not interested.

 

[nato75]

I think my current casual dating relationship with an SP is working so well because, as barrowing put it, "There's also a great deal of appeal to being able to let down your SP-guard while at the same time being close to someone who knows what that world is about." We both know where she works, so no sneaking around, intentional vagueness or deception is necessary (plus we can comfortably hang out with her SP friends and no one has to worry about what they're saying, or not saying). But I can't comment on what is involved when something becomes more serious and long-term, as I don't have that kind of experience to share.

 

[Shakeandbake]

I have dated a couple of SPs and one MP. Time frames lasted from a few months to a few years. I treated the women like every other women a dated. That means with respect , compassion and understanding. What they did for work they did for work and me the same. I did tonnes of industry parties and shared some very very fun times. It takes a level headed, secure and open minded person to handle any adult relationship. I personally feel that these types of relationships required a little bit more of those attributes but at the end of the day its apples and apples and not apples and oranges

 

[curiousm7]

Also want to throw this out there .....if your still paying to " date " your girl is it really dating ? is it really a serious relationship ? I think if your still paying to spend time with her whether it include sex or not its not a dating situation its a business situation . I could be wrong though and again this is just my opinion .

Misty

What a fantastic point Misty. I cannot say for sure whether or not payment is being made in this case. But, I hadn't thought of that. I may ask my buddy if he is still paying and, if he is, I will show him your post. I know he is really falling for this one particular provider but it is probably better he see the realities now rather than when he is too deep emotionally. Thanks!

 

[Ridgeman08]

I'm curious too...

It also happened to me. An sp fell for me...I had to stop seeing her. I am not interested.

Why were you not interested? Was it because you couldn't handle her job? :Eek:

 

[blackbrit]

I too have fallen for an SP - badly. The chemistry between us was undeniable from day one. These things happen. What she does is an extra turn on for me. I think I am kinky that way. However I realise that part of the appeal is the challenge of getting past the physical to get to her heart.

The way I have dealt with it is by insisting that I pay every time we meet and I don't see her outside her working time. I respect her boundaries and put rules in place to safe guard both of us.

My ten cents.

 

[curiousm7]

Why were you not interested? Was it because you couldn't handle her job? :Eek:

Nope...I don't judge but, I am married.