Sugar Dating Experience

[Mhorgan]

That’s interesting! From my experience I would say that 95%+ of the girls I’ve met up with will never become an SP so I wouldn’t say that most of them go that route. But that’s just how I’ve vetted during conversations and the ones I haven’t vetted enough probably make up that 5%. To your point, I wouldn’t be surprised if the number is a lot higher.

I had to figure my own way around the sugar dating as far as monetary exchange and in several instances there wasn’t any exchanged or, also to your point, the amount was really low compared to compensating an SP. And lots of texting to get to know each other before meeting, then meeting and if we’re into each other it can escalate - but only if there’s actual attraction. I totally get where you’re coming from and I’ve found many girls really want to date with benefits. They’ve gone on Tinder and get smashed and dumped so now they want to be treated like a lady, meet up somewhere nice and have everything paid for at a minimum because they’re not getting that treatment anywhere else. I’m an outgoing and sensitive guy who actually cares and how much they’re given depends on them and what I can do, so I’m always above board. I get a decent pulse on their needs and (trying not to say this one out too loud) in some instances I’ve even just sent them funds with zero expectation. It’s usually happened when I’m drunk and it’s end of the month and they’re freaking about rent so I’ll send them like 500.

I always set boundaries but there is sometimes a bit of a challenge because SB relationships are, by their very nature, more personal and can be way more intense than meeting up with an SP. A couple of girls I can think of that I don’t see in person anymore I actually love. Not in a creepy way but if they needed my help, I would do my best (and have actually) to do so.

Feedback I’ve had from several girls is that there are tons of asshole guys on sugar sites and that’s not really a surprise because so many guys are really like that. Also from my experience, girls asking for ongoing help that I’ve given each month are in school or working somewhere like retail and no they won’t get what they would get from escorting but they’re only sleeping with me (and in one case she was seeing one other guy) instead of a different guy every day. So much, once again, about attraction going both ways.

Some girls I’ve met up with multiple times end up going back to regular dating and I’m absolutely thrilled for them! That this is even available is still quite crazy to me but I try not to take it for granted. I want a super hot woman to have a “normal” dating life. If she likes me and wants to temporarily hook up then it’s at least a momentary, mutually fun, way to spend time together.

Yes, couldn't agree more. If you have money and expectations are different. Sometime I like to smash someone not that experience, so I am leading the session. I go see a sp at hpl and spend 320 or spend 8 hours with SB for 500 pay and 120 dayuse hotel with Uber eats. More romantic and have fun anyway you feel like.

 

[Ginomore]

That's pretty ageist. I'm 47 and I make a good living as a sex worker. My body Rivals that of girls half my age to say that someone is 50 and they should be paying you it's just a really misogynistic comment. I'm sure it was meant as a joke but it just comes off as rude

At your advanced age you should recognize humour when you see it.

 

[kinjpatel18]

Guys, has anyone used Hinge and SDM both. Can you share experience on both, which is user friendly and effective.

If you want to send DM, it is fine

 

[IMBob]

I met a few ladies via Hinge , even on a free account ( no ppm , but gifts and requests for grocery money etc. Less transactional - closer to vanilla dating ) . But lots of messages and time. I got banned this week .... smh . I wasn't harassing . No recourse. Appeal not successful . This is a common occurrence from Google search. SDM has a small female user base. I have met a few ladies on that site as well

 

[daddy88]

Is SDM starting to eclipse Seeking or is Seeking still the top?

 

[FeelsSoGood]

That’s interesting! From my experience I would say that 95%+ of the girls I’ve met up with will never become an SP I would say that 95%+ of the girls I’ve met up with will never become an SP

An escort I saw a while back had just lost her sugar daddy (I didn't ask) and was selling it through one of the larger agencies. I passed on the tempting opportunity (she was smokin' and had an engaging personality). Said she was looking for someone to pay rent.

 

[FunInToronto2023]

Guys, has anyone used Hinge and SDM both. Can you share experience on both, which is user friendly and effective.

If you want to send DM, it is fine

I tried SDM but way more girls on a different platform. I think Hinge is regular dating so I can’t use it for confidentiality - or can I still? Not sure

 

[D'arcy]

At your advanced age you should recognize humour when you see it.

Your jokes are so weak I'd need bifocals to see them... With my advanced age and all!

 

[waxtrax]

I met a few ladies via Hinge , even on a free account ( no ppm , but gifts and requests for grocery money etc. Less transactional - closer to vanilla dating ) . But lots of messages and time. I got banned this week .... smh . I wasn't harassing . No recourse. Appeal not successful . This is a common occurrence from Google search. SDM has a small female user base. I have met a few ladies on that site as well

Banned for what? did they say?

 

[IMBob]

Banned for what? did they say?

BS -
Lots of random Hinge banned stories . and PITA to open an new account without getting banned again ' new phone, new phone # , different photos ( erase Meta Data ) etc .

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[waxtrax]

hmm I didn't realized they're so tight on their policies. I noticed some girls they're accounts disappeared for some reason so I guess it happens to them too. So unless you used a different number, you'll remained banned?

 

[RobI]

Is SDM starting to eclipse Seeking or is Seeking still the top?

Outside from North America, Seeking is probably still better just because of the name recognition and more members. SDM is great in Canada and USA, though, it's cheaper, and you don't get banned if if you try and negotiate on the site, though lately I've seen some profiles on Seeking that have PPM spelled out funny like "P* PM"

On the other hand, you see a lot of girls on both sides, and a couple of familiar faces from other places:

https://members.seeking.com/member/9b425b19-455f-4be1-9ac3-eb6bbc39d8a7

https://www.sugardaddymeet.com/userProfile?tid=af100011222-m&userId=73087826

(a couple of ladies from Seduction and other spas/agencies are on these sites)

So yes, I prefer SDM myself, but both have lots of room to grow

 

[RobI]

BS -
Lots of random Hinge banned stories . and PITA to open an new account without getting banned again ' new phone, new phone # , different photos ( erase Meta Data ) etc .

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So basically a no soliciting or anything that sounds like sex-for-money? That's funny becasue Seeking/SDM has had that right on their sites home page for years. I guess the lesson is to take the conversation off Hinge?

 

[Ginomore]

Your jokes are so weak I'd need bifocals to see them... With my advanced age and all!

Me too LOL.
Now you got the hang of this comedy thing.

 

[leaglebeagle]

Question for people who travel. Do you scope out pots before you travel? I am travelling now more and now really the only time I spend in Toronto is mid-late summer. Was thinking of giving SA a shot but given the effort people have said, I'm wondering if I should start like a week or two before I travel. Also is summer a better time to meet some on these sites?

 

[oral.com]

Question for people who travel. Do you scope out pots before you travel? I am travelling now more and now really the only time I spend in Toronto is mid-late summer. Was thinking of giving SA a shot but given the effort people have said, I'm wondering if I should start like a week or two before I travel. Also is summer a better time to meet some on these sites?

I had an arrangement with one SB who had an account on Misstravel.
It connects potential girls with guys who are traveling. She said it was hit and miss. Sometimes it was good, sometimes awful and awkward.

 

[GeeBee]

Question for people who travel. Do you scope out pots before you travel? I am travelling now more and now really the only time I spend in Toronto is mid-late summer. Was thinking of giving SA a shot but given the effort people have said, I'm wondering if I should start like a week or two before I travel. Also is summer a better time to meet some on these sites?

Start long before your trip and make some connections. Even if you’ve got arrangements made have a backup in case she flakes. The leg work may not be worth it in a city like TO where agency girls are so readily available and reviews are easy to find. Just IMO

 

[leaglebeagle]

I had an arrangement with one SB who had an account on Misstravel.
It connects potential girls with guys who are traveling. She said it was hit and miss. Sometimes it was good, sometimes awful and awkward.

Interesting, never heard of that site

 

[leaglebeagle]

Start long before your trip and make some connections. Even if you’ve got arrangements made have a backup in case she flakes. The leg work may not be worth it in a city like TO where agency girls are so readily available and reviews are easy to find. Just IMO

Good to know. I want to give it a shot. The flexibility sounds better than agency girls though but as someone said earlier in the thread, if someone flakes, there is always an agency available.

 

[GeeBee]

Outside from North America, Seeking is probably still better just because of the name recognition and more members. SDM is great in Canada and USA, though, it's cheaper, and you don't get banned if if you try and negotiate on the site, though lately I've seen some profiles on Seeking that have PPM spelled out funny like "P* PM"

On the other hand, you see a lot of girls on both sides, and a couple of familiar faces from other places:

https://members.seeking.com/member/9b425b19-455f-4be1-9ac3-eb6bbc39d8a7

https://www.sugardaddymeet.com/userProfile?tid=af100011222-m&userId=73087826

(a couple of ladies from Seduction and other spas/agencies are on these sites)

So yes, I prefer SDM myself, but both have lots of room to grow

Question about SDM.

I’ve used Seeking for several years with good success, and also had a profile on Secret Benefits for a while (until I learned my lesson lol). After reading suggestions in this thread I set up a SDM profile a few days ago, but the photo requirements have me a bit confused. Apparently you have to have a full face pic as your main profile pic? WTF?? According to the girls I’ve met in the sugar world, at least half of the guys on the sugar sites are married, and there is no way most guys like me are putting our full, clear faces on there for everyone to see. Full pic to the girl once you start to chat?, sure, but my main has always been either blurred or just a torso shot of my well dressed frame. It’s never failed me.

Why would SDM want to exclude married, and rightly cautious, guys from being front and centre on their site? And does anyone know of a work around to the problem?