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Question about SDM.

I’ve used Seeking for several years with good success, and also had a profile on Secret Benefits for a while (until I learned my lesson lol). After reading suggestions in this thread I set up a SDM profile a few days ago, but the photo requirements have me a bit confused. Apparently you have to have a full face pic as your main profile pic? WTF?? According to the girls I’ve met in the sugar world, at least half of the guys on the sugar sites are married, and there is no way most guys like me are putting our full, clear faces on there for everyone to see. Full pic to the girl once you start to chat?, sure, but my main has always been either blurred or just a torso shot of my well dressed frame. It’s never failed me.

Why would SDM want to exclude married, and rightly cautious, guys from being front and centre on their site? And does anyone know of a work around to the problem?
What you can do is first upload your face pic and then get it verified (5mins). Afterwards, you can put your 'torso' pic as the main photo and private your face pic. That worked for me.

My exp with sugar dating:
I recently got into sugaring world. Found my first SB on SDM and she is very young and hott. I am curious from others here -- how do you deal with a young SB who I can see is becoming clinky. I am partly to blame because I do reply to her texts cuz mostly I do enjoy her company. Though the sex is great but not anywhere close to SP great :D Maybe I need to change my age range to above 25...
 
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A recent Seeking conversation with a cute SB. I know there has been inflation , but where are they getting the numbers from ?

Do you have a compensation amount in mind ?
her - 2000
? Allowance per month ? Could you ever host/entertain at your place ?

her - Per month 4000. I want to get my own place soon if I do then yes just have to save a bit more
 

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A recent Seeking conversation with a cute SB. I know there has been inflation , but where are they getting the numbers from .

Do you have a compensation amount in mind ?
her - 2000
? Allowance per month ? Could you ever host/entertain at your place ?

her - Per month 4000. I want to get my own place soon if I do then yes just have to save a bit more
block and move on
 
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Leimonis

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What is the purpose of blocking? Just tell her that she's out of your range and then don't reply to her messages.
Then she’s gonna change pics and you’ll be hitting her again and wasting time. I dunno, I like blocking. I brings finality. Like she’s not gonna hit you with “oh I have a 60% off this week”. She’s always gonna feel like you should have paid more. It’s not gonna be good so why see her face on your screen one time more than you have to?
 
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dchoye

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How do you stay patient on the slow responders?
How and when do you decide to cut the bait?
 

Leimonis

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what happened to the promo code window when paying on seeking? I am trying to pay and I can't see it now :mad:
it ain't much but still annoying
 

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what happened to the promo code window when paying on seeking? I am trying to pay and I can't see it now :mad:
it ain't much but still annoying
Last I saw was a few weeks ago . 20% was common ; occasionally 25% off. I had emails for 33 % off . That worked at least 6 mths later . Didn't work for my recent month membership payment . I did get 20% off though. There was a Free 1 Hour Premium Package several times last March .
 
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dchoye

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What percentage of your SBs
are one and done or maybe two and done vs regular SBs
I think once you see SB three times you likely want to see her regularly
 

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A winner …smh
checking - your profile - platonic = no sex . I'm looking for an ongoing arrangement with a lady who loves sex


Her -I meant platonic as in friends with benefits, keeping it casual

Her- Sex is fine if im getting $

Good morning . Do you have a compensation amount in mind ?
 

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A winner …smh
checking - your profile - platonic = no sex . I'm looking for an ongoing arrangement with a lady who loves sex


Her -I meant platonic as in friends with benefits, keeping it casual

Her- Sex is fine if im getting $

Good morning . Do you have a compensation amount in mind ?
I’m curious what’s the first language and age (let alone the real concern which would be her IQ) of someone who believes that platonic means sex for money.
 
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@GeeBee what issue did ya end up having with the secret site? It's the only one I've used in the past and doesn't require a phone number IIRC or pics to be uploaded or you can upload and blur them (hide) and show who you wanna show to. Plus I never did the whole verification thing.
When I first started in the Sugar world SB was the one I used. It looks like more girls are verified now, and experience from guys here seems to suggest that sticking to verified profiles is the way to go. So maybe things have changed.
When I used it there were fewer verified profiles and in my opinion it was a scam.

Here’s the scenario that played out, I’d be interested to know if this sounds familiar to any one else:

I’d spend credits to reach out to girls and the reply rate was low to nothing. OK, I’d think, maybe it's me, there must be thousands of guys on here. Then I’d get messages from new “girls” I’d never seen before, spend the credits to reply and never hear back. There were times when I was at my desk and saw a message so I’d reply literally within seconds. Still crickets. I’d spend more credits to see if my reply had been read and most of the time it hadn’t. Coincidentally the only time I seemed to have any successful communication was when I was getting really low on credits. Surprise, surprise I might hear from a real woman and be able to respond. Until I slapped down my CC for more credits like a dopamine fuelled addict of course, then the real ladies seemed to dry up. :unsure: The only success I ever had on SB was when I was about to give up. My suspicion is that their algorithm is designed exactly this way to keep sucking cash from guys.

I found I had way more luck on a regular subscription site like SA where I could send messages to as many girls as I wanted and widen my net, with a much higher reply rate. I was on SA for less than a week and had 2 M&G’s

Just IMO of course. YMMV.
 
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Here’s the scenario that played out, I’d be interested to know if this sounds familiar to any one else:

I’d spend credits to reach out to girls and the reply rate was low to nothing. OK, I’d think, maybe it's me, there must be thousands of guys on here. Then I’d get messages from new “girls” I’d never seen before, spend the credits to reply and never hear back. There were times when I was at my desk and saw a message so I’d reply literally within seconds. Still crickets. I’d spend more credits to see if my reply had been read and most of the time it hadn’t. Coincidentally the only time I seemed to have any successful communication was when I was getting really low on credits. Surprise, surprise I might hear from a real woman and be able to respond. Until I slapped down my CC for more credits like a dopamine fuelled addict of course, then the real ladies seemed to dry up. :unsure: The only success I ever had on SB was when I was about to give up. My suspicion is that their algorithm is designed exactly this way to keep sucking cash from guys.

I found I had way more luck on a regular subscription site like SA where I could send messages to as many girls as I wanted and widen my net, with a much higher reply rate. I was on SA for less than a week and had 2 M&G’s

Just IMO of course. YMMV.
So you think the ones that sent you messages in the beginning are like fake accounts(bots) set up from the algorithm then towards the end, it would somehow allowed real girls to send you messages?
 

Bobbblitz004

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SBs right now are all over the place. Asking for way too much without giving much in return. The allure is starting to wear off.
 
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So you think the ones that sent you messages in the beginning are like fake accounts(bots) set up from the algorithm then towards the end, it would somehow allowed real girls to send you messages?
That’s my guess. What I eventually got was replies from messages I’d sent, but not necessarily recently. The only girl I ever ended up seeing from SB was as I was about to give up. She told me that she had just seen my message when she replied, but I’d sent it over a week earlier and it wasn’t read at the time.

The popular real girls on all the sites get a lot of messages in their inboxes. So my hunch is that when you get low on credits the site moves your messages to the top of their inbox, so they are more likely to see it, and thus reply if they’re interested. That way you actually get the feeling of success, and the real girl is actually an unwitting pawn in the scheme.

If I was an unscrupulous website operator that’s sure what I’d do.

Once you reload credits you go back to the bottom, and get the bot accounts sending you messages etc… and the cycle repeats. It might be different if you spend the big $$ for huge amounts of credits. But that too is just a hunch.
 

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I don't think I experienced what you did. A few actually gave me their numbers and we'd text cause some wanted to text a bit first than just meet up but after meeting up the overall experience was meh. And once again yeah the price tag along with travelling (long term wise) just didn't cut it for me. I think the same ones on there from years ago are realizing this unless they are msging guys outside of their province and country and making some money. Some do gift just for chatting and what not. Quite a few never replied back or I'd get one reply back and then ghosted. I did like the fact you could msg someone which cost a credit and if they finally replied back like a week or so later you can still continuing chatting. The general feeling I got with the ladies between Barrie to North Bay was not wanting to meet up in person cause they'd string stuff along in chat or the PPM compared to a SP didn't cut it. Average SP is typically around 200-300 for H and some of these wanted well more than that. I never bothered discussing with them something like this hobby and what SPs ask for since many aren't even on that site in the industry of being a SP and are clueless. Some wanted to meet for like a dinner or coffee first and see how that went first otherwise were perfectly fine just getting down to business similar to what a SP is for.
Yeah, totally agree. I have Indian Punjab SB who is asking $500 for six hours. ( single day ) I need book a hotel plus buy lunch. 23 yrs good looking but sex part no close to SP, very inexperienced. Took her couple of times and banged her now I am thinking kind of not worth the money.
 
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Hey Everyone, Ive been on SA for some time now and seen a few girls, Ive recently had a trip back home and noticed that the SDs there have created a TG group to weed out the scammers and I found it quite useful and saved me time, effort and $$.. I have had some wonderful experiences on the site but also had to deal with my fair share of bad apples.. wondering if theres something similar for us here in Toronto, else maybe we could all create a similar group to share our findings.. Im sure SDs might not want to share info about their fav SBs, but we could all pool our collective info to avoid the bad ones and scammers
 
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Fake bot accounts exists on all dating sites, they are they to get users to spend money and use the credits and reload.
I left SA and never bothered with other ones.
If you do match up with an SB, make sure you both agree on the arrangement before you meet or in the first meeting to level expectations.

When I was on... it went on a few dates with the SBs (I paid for dinner) to see if there was a connection before we both agreed on moving forward.
I had one date where we went for dinner and she wanted to go back to my place, we chatted some more and once she saw my condo view and wanted to move to the bedroom. We had fun a few times before she moved.
 
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