Yes. One in particular and it taught me to be a lot more careful and use a text app. At least when first messaging. That also shows the advantage of using a SP so you can pretty much avoid what could become a horrible situation.
I think it does because just grabbing a bite or a drink to make sure you’re both normal people (in my case discreetly) can be a great ice breaker. Then get to know each other and discuss where to go from there. Some can’t hold a conversation, some end up being in the same industry so we have lots in common, some there are sparks flying (which is always a bit weird because they could be my daughter), some are attractive but really young and the age gap and their lack of experience in the world isn’t a match at all.
One was an 11/10 that turned out to be crazy as a bag of hammers. Like God talks to her crazy. Another turned out to have a recurring substance issue (coke). She was awesome in the sack and was the one I took to a swing club. But I stopped seeing her because lets face it, she was paying for the coke somehow and she liked to rawdog.
I consistently expose myself. Fortunately I have no SO and no professional career or employer that I have to be concerned about.
It sounds like the casual approach helps keep things natural and lets genuine connections come through. I can see how meeting people with a shared background or interests would make things more engaging. The age gap dynamic must be interesting too probably adds another layer when you’re connecting on some levels but not on others. Have you found any common traits that make for the best connections, regardless of age?
I've found looking for someone who matches your vibe and shared interests works best. There are some girls on the sites who I like physically, but I can tell by their profile (or their decision to not even
For sure if you’re in the same industry that can definitely help and I’ve met several girls that happen to be in mine. And we end up having several mutual connections which is weird at first because I’ve even been out at events and run into some of them. I was at a fun event and had a business owner introduce me to one of his new key people and it was a girl I had just hooked up with at her place maybe a month earlier which was pretty wild. Another lesson to always part ways on a really good note in the personal and business world.
For sure and that’s a really good point. Great attitude, basically full sentences and “normal” where they have their own career on the go is far more likely to be successful I find. At least for more than one hookup.
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Perfectly said. Matches almost exactly with my approach as well.
So in other words, those really hot(SB) ones are fakes, don't really exist or super expensive? Maybe that's my problem, my eyes will gravitate towards the hot ones first. I don't really hobby much in the SP world either but I can understand what you mean, it's a very "in and out" kind of service. I always feel rushed like I'm missing that connection.
There are unicorns on there...girls you find really hot that actually want to meet with you. It just won't be every time. Be patient and you'll be all good.
If I didn’t have a SO this whole thing would mess me up even more by not having to be discreet. Or I’d probably just go on Tinder and have fun all the time. Actually that’s how I started out before seeing MPAs, SPs and then SBs and was lucky none of the girls told on me.
No I’ve hooked up with several SB’s that any guy would say holy fk she’s crazy hot. They definitely exist.
100% I’m always surprised at how gorgeous some of them are and it’s happened so many times. Feels like being 25 again and they totally want to smash not just get paid. They love that an older guy can make them O and treats them like a princess, it’s like the cash becomes an added bonus and a huge win-win.
Use Snapchat. Most girls have it, it's discreet to set up, and has both audio only and video chat options.
It must be interesting to navigate both personal and professional connections like that. It definitely highlights the importance of maintaining good relationships, as you never know when paths might cross again. Have you found that those shared industry experiences lead to more meaningful connections?
That makes a lot of sense matching on personality and vibe goes a long way, especially when someone puts in the effort to connect meaningfully. Those small details like attitude, engagement, and even taking time to build out their profile do say a lot. It sounds like you've developed a good filter for finding genuine connections! Have you had any memorable experiences that really stood out in a positive way?
