it would depend on your arrangement, some I’ve seen have definitely been more romantic than a SP situation, like overnight at a hotel and order room service. Smash several times but there’s a lot more connection than an sp and only 200-300 for the night
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Love to hear this! Absolutely the charm wit respect trifecta goes a long way.
And 400 is a magical SB number
It sounds like you've found a good balance between genuine connection and keeping things lighthearted. And you're right personality and the vibe you bring to the date definitely play a huge role in attraction, no matter the age. I think a lot of people appreciate that genuine interest over just focusing on status symbols. Do you find that treating it like a straightforward date changes the dynamic in a positive way?
Yes. One in particular and it taught me to be a lot more careful and use a text app. At least when first messaging. That also shows the advantage of using a SP so you can pretty much avoid what could become a horrible situation.
Mine was threatening to expose me to my family and there really wouldn’t be anything I could do about it. And I never even met the girl in real life. When it was happening I was thinking “oh well I deserve it” - but no one deserves to be threatened.
I think it does because just grabbing a bite or a drink to make sure you’re both normal people (in my case discreetly) can be a great ice breaker. Then get to know each other and discuss where to go from there. Some can’t hold a conversation, some end up being in the same industry so we have lots in common, some there are sparks flying (which is always a bit weird because they could be my daughter), some are attractive but really young and the age gap and their lack of experience in the world isn’t a match at all.
One was an 11/10 that turned out to be crazy as a bag of hammers. Like God talks to her crazy. Another turned out to have a recurring substance issue (coke). She was awesome in the sack and was the one I took to a swing club. But I stopped seeing her because lets face it, she was paying for the coke somehow and she liked to rawdog.
Another liked BDSM a little too much for my tastes but that was purely YMMV.
I consistently expose myself. Fortunately I have no SO and no professional career or employer that I have to be concerned about.
It sounds like the casual approach helps keep things natural and lets genuine connections come through. I can see how meeting people with a shared background or interests would make things more engaging. The age gap dynamic must be interesting too probably adds another layer when you’re connecting on some levels but not on others. Have you found any common traits that make for the best connections, regardless of age?
I've found looking for someone who matches your vibe and shared interests works best. There are some girls on the sites who I like physically, but I can tell by their profile (or their decision to not even
bother filling out a profile) that we aren't going to be a match. You can usually sus this out within a few exchanges on the site.
Obviously, everyone is looking for something different. For me, if the girl responds with a positive attitude, questions for me, and at least reasonable punctuation and grammar that is a huge green flag.
For sure if you’re in the same industry that can definitely help and I’ve met several girls that happen to be in mine. And we end up having several mutual connections which is weird at first because I’ve even been out at events and run into some of them. I was at a fun event and had a business owner introduce me to one of his new key people and it was a girl I had just hooked up with at her place maybe a month earlier which was pretty wild. Another lesson to always part ways on a really good note in the personal and business world.
For sure and that’s a really good point. Great attitude, basically full sentences and “normal” where they have their own career on the go is far more likely to be successful I find. At least for more than one hookup.
I just got home from hooking up with a really nice SP and it was a great time as far as SP’s go but it was missing a more genuine connection and for 300 would have been better for me to see a SB but oh well nbd (and that was with tons of DFK, BBBJ X 2, FS x 2 in the hour plus we talked each other’s ear off. So challenging to satiate the addiction and definitely DFK, digits and sucking on titties of a 21 year old non-pro satiates the most.
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Perfectly said. Matches almost exactly with my approach as well.
Whenever I have the itch for just a flawless body, perfect young face and PSE that's what SPs are for. When I want someone to get to know as well as develop a small FWB relationship with over time and still be "intimate" with, that's what SBs are for.
(it took me a long time and a couple of tumultuous long term "arrangements" with SPs before I figured out the two types exist for different purposes).
So in other words, those really hot(SB) ones are fakes, don't really exist or super expensive? Maybe that's my problem, my eyes will gravitate towards the hot ones first. I don't really hobby much in the SP world either but I can understand what you mean, it's a very "in and out" kind of service. I always feel rushed like I'm missing that connection.
