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I've given out referrals to some members who have asked - not phone numbers but seeking names and received a few good ones in return. Nothing wrong with that and kind of like the purpose of this board.
No doubt the SBs are fully aware that you're giving out their private information (who they are, what they're like) because you first asked them if it's ok. Consent is always appropriate right?
 

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No doubt the SBs are fully aware that you're giving out their private information because you first asked them if it's ok. Consent is always appropriate right?
how is seeking handles private information? Isn't it public by definition? Or even saying that PinkCherry12345 is good at sucking dick? Is that really wrong? We need to rethink this and be more open in sharing this info.

SBing is a kind of sex work and we are here to review sex work, aren't we?

Edit - or if one of your Sbs told another prospective SB that she can contact ValuedSupporter on terb or your handle on seeking and see if anything comes out of that, would that be really wrong? Or a privacy breach of any kind at all?
 
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how is seeking handles private information? Isn't it public by definition? Or even saying that PinkCherry12345 is good at sucking dick? Is that really wrong? We need to rethink this and be more open in sharing this info.

SBing is a kind of sex work and we are here to review sex work, aren't we?

Edit - or if one of your Sbs told another prospective SB that she can contact ValuedSupporter on terb or your handle on seeking and see if anything comes out of that, would that be really wrong? Or a privacy breach of any kind at all?
Oh wow. Yeah I pmd Rocco asking for a profile, and he decided to shame and give me an ethics lesson about the differences between sp’s and sb’s expectations privacy. So I told him to get fucked and now he seems to be passively aggressively trying to rally support here to restore his ego? IMO dude is very confused about what this site is and his opinions on sex work unless it benefits him specifically.
 

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Oh wow. Yeah I pmd Rocco asking for a profile, and he decided to shame and give me an ethics lesson about the differences between sp’s and sb’s expectations privacy. So I told him to get fucked and now he seems to be passively aggressively trying to rally support here to restore his ego? IMO dude is very confused about what this site is and his opinions on sex work unless it benefits him specifically.
Nobody likes to be reviewed. Plumbers, accountants, SPs or SBs. Nor johns. Nobody. SPs nevertheless are being reviewed here and if they were not the forum would probably die. SBs are a bit in the league of their own, that’s true. But just them not being happy with being reviewed is not enough reason to not review them.
if seeking as an advertiser would make it an issue that would be different. They are a monopolist and can pretty much dictate their views.
 
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Nobody likes to be reviewed. Plumbers, accountants, SPs or SBs. Nor johns. Nobody. SPs nevertheless are being reviewed here and if they were not the forum would probably die. SBs are a bit in the league of their own, that’s true. But just them not being happy with being reviewed is not enough reason to not review them.
if seeking as an advertiser would make it an issue that would be different. They are a monopolist and can pretty much dictate their views.
It’s not the same at all. The ladies for most part are looking for a relationship of some scope and not doing it as a profession therefore reviewing them and setting them up to be contacted by others that they didn’t necessarily ask to be contacted by even if on the site is a gross breech of trust in my opinion. Actual professionals are one thing but this is an example of a very low class kiss and tell type of behaviour.
 

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It’s not the same at all. The ladies for most part are looking for a relationship of some scope and not doing it as a profession therefore reviewing them and setting them up to be contacted by others that they didn’t necessarily ask to be contacted by even if on the site is a gross breech of trust in my opinion. Actual professionals are one thing but this is an example of a very low class kiss and tell type of behaviour.
hmm and what if your buddy who’s new to this asked you for a recco? Would you give him a handle of an sb with whom you are finished but who was decent? Or would you tell him to jump in the water and learn to swim?
 

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Oh wow. Yeah I pmd Rocco asking for a profile, and he decided to shame and give me an ethics lesson about the differences between sp’s and sb’s expectations privacy. So I told him to get fucked and now he seems to be passively aggressively trying to rally support here to restore his ego? IMO dude is very confused about what this site is and his opinions on sex work unless it benefits him specifically.
You asked me to give you the contact information of two sbs I know who are very submissive and into slapping. I then told you it's a bit of an odd question and you perhaps do some leg work yourself. You gave me attitude. I then reiterated your question to divulge information about a civilian is odd and inappropriate and I get frequent messages with your same request and I was fed up with these obtuse questions. I was also snarky in my response but not vulgar. You then went on to debase yourself with vulgarity directed at me.

I dont think sharing the contact information of these sbs is appropriate as alot of them do care about personality and looks and value their privacy.
 
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I dont think sharing the contact information of these sbs is appropriate as alot of them do care about personality and looks and value their privacy.
I wouldn’t share any sb info with a rando stranger nor would I share sexual details.

But I am not convinced that if a girl goes into money making business under a nom de guerre she retains right to privacy in that nom de guerre.

this is especially so in light of a simple fact that we all would be considered johns if we were to share our views on this on a proper SB forum such as on Reddit. None of us is that amazing whale daddy who would devote himself to elevating the girl out of her misery and spoiling her silly. It’s all goddamn ppm and she’s taking it. Let’s be real.

Quite apart from that, the girl may be happy that she got a new daddy. I’ve been referred to a few by my buddies and I shared some handles with them and everyone was only better off.
How is it kiss and tell if you only disclose a handle which is public and add that you can recommend her?
 
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hmm and what if your buddy who’s new to this asked you for a recco? Would you give him a handle of an sb with whom you are finished but who was decent? Or would you tell him to jump in the water and learn to swim?
I would give his contact info to the lady in question then let her decide if she wants to out herself or move forward. Your buddy not having experience shouldn’t be her issue.
 

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I would give his contact info to the lady in question then let her decide if she wants to out herself or move forward. Your buddy not having experience shouldn’t be her issue.
She has outed herself to the world by being on the site though. That means nothing now?
 

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I would give his contact info to the lady in question then let her decide if she wants to out herself or move forward. Your buddy not having experience shouldn’t be her issue.
This doesn’t make sense on more than one level.
1. Bros before ladies.
2. I’m not contacting my former SB to organize her dates because I want to keep it this way. Former. (And I’m not sharing my current SBs).
3. I’m not taking responsibility for my buddy behaviour. I don’t know how good a daddy he is. I hope he’s great but I don’t know. I can’t recommend him. I can only recommend her. She is on the site, she chose her profile to be open to the world, she gets contacted and she makes her free and voluntary decisions.

I can see how they may be unhappy if they are reviewed. But it’d be dumb to be unhappy if they are recommended.
 

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This. Anybody who thinks otherwise is delusional. Just like a lot of men on SA openly state that they will not be paying for sex, a lot of girls do not intend to do sex work. Just because she slept with you doesn't mean she will sleep with anybody else — it’s all about trust and connection. And if you are getting her info and private details under the table, it is extremely invasive, disturbing, creepy and negates any potential bond between you two. Please, do not share people’s private info.
If a girl is on that site her profile is not private. Thinking that it’s private would indeed be delusional. Just like generally believing that people wouldn’t talk about you behind your back is delusional.
And if she’s not there to do sex work who the hell wants to talk about her with anyone anyway? She is about as useless as men who openly state that they won’t pay for sex, isn’t she?

While seeking is trying to change their business model into a general dating site for political reasons, it is still not Christian mingle.
 
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josephkuhr

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You asked me to give you the contact information of two sbs I know who are very submissive and into slapping. I then told you it's a bit of an odd question and you perhaps do some leg work yourself. You gave me attitude. I then reiterated your question to divulge information about a civilian is odd and inappropriate and I get frequent messages with your same request and I was fed up with these obtuse questions. I was also snarky in my response but not vulgar. You then went on to debase yourself with vulgarity directed at me.

I dont think sharing the contact information of these sbs is appropriate as alot of them do care about personality and looks and value their privacy.

You asked me to give you the contact information of two sbs I know who are very submissive and into slapping. I then told you it's a bit of an odd question and you perhaps do some leg work yourself. You gave me attitude. I then reiterated your question to divulge information about a civilian is odd and inappropriate and I get frequent messages with your same request and I was fed up with these obtuse questions. I was also snarky in my response but not vulgar. You then went on to debase yourself with vulgarity directed at me.

I dont think sharing the contact information of these sbs is appropriate as alot of them do care about personality and looks and value their privacy.
Bruh. No one gave you attitude, you’re projecting. You have an inflated sense of morality that you tried to preach to me to help you feel better about yourself I guess? I dunno and don’t care. Once you came at me with your faux virtuous bs I told you to get fucked then you came here to try to stroke your ego. Post the chat if you want, that’s literally how it went down.

I asked

You said you couldn’t, go find your own SAs

I said you could give me their profiles but it’s cool if you dont

You proceeded with your whack analysis of what’s right and wrong and asked patronizing questions

So once again, get fucked.
 

Leimonis

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It’s not visible to the public. I had no idea that people on this forum engaged in this type of thing. I will definitely tell my friends who might have been interested in sugaring otherwise to stay away. Not every girl on that website thinks of it as sex work, as wrong as it might be. Some people use it as a legitimate dating website connecting supposedly wealthy men with attractive women. SA prohibits PPM, actually. You do whatever you want, but leave those girls out of TERB.
You can make your profile not visible to the public if you pay for it. I do so because I don’t want to be contacted by randos. (So if my profile was disclosed I’d find it invasive albeit not surprising. And it happened a few times). Babies profiles, however, are always visible to the public because they want to be seen and contacted. If they are not visible I would never find them so I can’t disclose them to anyone anyway.

And again, nobody wants to talk about girls who use it as a legitimate dating website. They are very safe.
 

Leimonis

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I posted here because I was curious and now I wish I didn’t ask anything at all. These replies just made me sad. It’s a true disappointment to know that even civilians are not safe from their info being exchanged on a private escort review forum.
And once again, nobody here is interested in civilians and nobody should believe that their public info is private.

if I had an encounter with a girl and my buddy who is also on a website after a bad break up and he needs my support found her on the site and is asking me if I have any info on her, do you seriously think that I would not tell him if I had a good or bad experience with her? Really?
 

josephkuhr

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I posted here because I was curious and now I wish I didn’t ask anything at all. These replies just made me sad. It’s a true disappointment to know that even civilians are not safe from their info being exchanged on a private escort review forum.
Let’s try to be clear. No one is talking about sharing anything private, yes we can all agree that’s wrong.

All we’re talking about is sharing anything that is already publicly available.

People’s choices to share or not can still be respected. I’m just pissed off with Rocco’s holier than thou attitude towards me when I asked. Idgaf if you share or don’t. Dude just seemed really full of himself when responding to me which I didn’t appreciate given how much he talks on here about his rough sex escspades and constantly asking people for information. Selfish and rude in a community I think is meant to be open and non judgemental about this stuff.
 
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And once again, nobody here is interested in civilians and nobody should believe that their public info is private.

if I had an encounter with a girl and my buddy who is also on a website after a bad break up and he needs my support found her on the site and is asking me if I have any info on her, do you seriously think that I would not tell him if I had a good or bad experience with her? Really?
Wow you are really pushing to be right. You said ‘contact info’ not handle on the site. Huge difference pal.
 
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