Sugar Dating Experience

[ValuedSupporter]

I’m surprised by this as well. Usually I’ve hooked up with a SB for the first time in a hotel, and maybe if she’s able we’ve met subsequently at her place. I’d never even considered that girls would be willing to have me in their apartment the first time we’ve gotten down to business, but several have been perfectly fine with it. I’d have thought the heightened awareness of personal safety vs. risk these days would make this a non starter for most women.

As with other things like social media or sharing personal details with me unprompted, the openness of young woman these days astounds me.

Yup, it's a little crazy. So far I've met two that are willing to host me at their place. My demographic appears to be single/divorced, kids are in school, meet during the day and have zero time for the dinner or dating shit. Never mind the awareness of the $/HR that a standard PPM is. I mean, drinks, dinner, awkward conversation and even more awkward groping in the parking lot afterwards by old men that smell like old me? Who wants that. Suits me.

One just required a photo. Early 30s, 3 kids, just an awesome woman, she's fantastic and very obviously loves sex. Seeing her for the 3rd time soon. The other, mid-20s, her mom was at work, her sister approved of me after I sent a photo unasked so I went to her house and we did it on her living room floor. Supposedly I was was the first guy she invited over without extensive dating. Again, she just loves sex and her boyfriend is ok with her sugaring. Seeing her again next week. She's the only one so far that asked about STI tests, condoms etc. Again, astounds me. Why don't more women ask for this basic stuff? The 3rd I'm meeting Tuesday. Again, her place. I get the feeling she may be a little wacked.

The two don't want to be called it but are really just very low volume escorts with experience doing this. Whatever, suits me fine.

 

[avocat]

Yup, it's a little crazy. So far I've met two that are willing to host me at their place. My demographic appears to be single/divorced, kids are in school, meet during the day and have zero time for the dinner or dating shit. Never mind the awareness of the $/HR that a standard PPM is. I mean, drinks, dinner, awkward conversation and even more awkward groping in the parking lot afterwards by old men that smell like old me? Who wants that. Suits me.

One just required a photo. Early 30s, 3 kids, just an awesome woman, she's fantastic and very obviously loves sex. Seeing her for the 3rd time soon. The other, mid-20s, her mom was at work, her sister approved of me after I sent a photo unasked so I went to her house and we did it on her living room floor. Supposedly I was was the first guy she invited over without extensive dating. Again, she just loves sex and her boyfriend is ok with her sugaring. Seeing her again next week. She's the only one so far that asked about STI tests, condoms etc. Again, astounds me. Why don't more women ask for this basic stuff? The 3rd I'm meeting Tuesday. Again, her place. I get the feeling she may be a little wacked.

The two don't want to be called it but are really just very low volume escorts with experience doing this. Whatever, suits me fine.

I always thought that "a boyfriend who is ok with sugaring/escorting" is probably a pimp!.

 

[dchoye]

How can you tell there’s no camera ?
Now a days can put a camera that can be well hidden
If you are visiting someone in their home don’t they have a right to have surveillance camera ?
What you dudes think ?

 

[Leimonis]

How can you tell there’s no camera ?
Now a days can put a camera that can be well hidden
If you are visiting someone in their home don’t they have a right to have surveillance camera ?
What you dudes think ?

Short answer is yes and on that note I wonder what cameras (I understand they may be AI ) people recommend?

 

[LTO_3]

I always thought that "a boyfriend who is ok with sugaring/escorting" is probably a pimp!.

Maybe the BF can't satisfy her sexual needs and/or they have an open relationship. Never know it could eventually become a 3some MFM.

LTO_3

 

[ValuedSupporter]

I always thought that "a boyfriend who is ok with sugaring/escorting" is probably a pimp!.

I'm not the judgy-type. There are a LOT of relationships types out there that work for a wide variety of people. Given I'm doing what I'm doing, I'm the last person to judge another person's story.

 

[ValuedSupporter]

How can you tell there’s no camera ?
Now a days can put a camera that can be well hidden
If you are visiting someone in their home don’t they have a right to have surveillance camera ?
What you dudes think ?

This is a really weird response. I mean no-shit Captain Obvious. Besides, no-one said "they (don't) have a right to have surveillance camera". Weird for you to state this.

 

[Tony2000]

I agree that the business model for SA is to get men to constantly renew their memberships. However, my goal is to find someone long term and stay off the site.
As such, I ask potential SBs for their numbers and don't renew when my membership expires. I then continue my chat with them via my texting app (not my real number).
In most cases, the conversations fade away and I don't end up meeting them. I meet with one or two and go from there.
For example: I have been texting with a young woman from Germany for more than a year. She lives in Canada but had to return to Europe a couple of times over the past 12 months and as a result we haven't met yet. However, the stars are finally aligning and we are meeting this weekend. It's been no big deal to chat and get to know her over the past year. Occasionally, she has sent me a g-rated photo or two. She looks hot and I am eager to meet.
Definitely worth the wait and the small effort involved.

 

[dvous11]

I agree that the business model for SA is to get men to constantly renew their memberships. However, my goal is to find someone long term and stay off the site.
As such, I ask potential SBs for their numbers and don't renew when my membership expires. I then continue my chat with them via my texting app (not my real number).
In most cases, the conversations fade away and I don't end up meeting them. I meet with one or two and go from there.
For example: I have been texting with a young woman from Germany for more than a year. She lives in Canada but had to return to Europe a couple of times over the past 12 months and as a result we haven't met yet. However, the stars are finally aligning and we are meeting this weekend. It's been no big deal to chat and get to know her over the past year. Occasionally, she has sent me a g-rated photo or two. She looks hot and I am eager to meet.
Definitely worth the wait and the small effort involved.

Damn you’ve been watering that German plant for a long time! Hope it goes well!

 

[Milana_Miro]

I’ve never fully understood the SB-SD relationship dynamic. What’s the etiquette? What are the rules?

 

[tombrady12]

I’ve never fully understood the SB-SD relationship dynamic. What’s the etiquette? What are the rules?

The rules are whatever you agree to. I typically spend at least a few days chatting online with a potential SB, to make sure that we're a good fit. Those chats will include do's and don'ts, and cover any grey areas.

 

[Milana_Miro]

The rules are whatever you agree to. I typically spend at least a few days chatting online with a potential SB, to make sure that we're a good fit. Those chats will include do's and don'ts, and cover any grey areas.

I wasn’t impressed with the amount of obviously broke people demanding “real connection” aka sex before they shower you with gold. Oh, and I saw dudes looking for a purely romantic relationship… No comments

 

[tombrady12]

I wasn’t impressed with the amount of obviously broke people demanding “real connection” aka sex before they shower you with gold. Oh, and I saw dudes looking for a purely romantic relationship… No comments

There are a lot of weeds to wade through before you find anyone worth pursuing, on both sides. Lots of unrealistic expectations out there.

 

[ValuedSupporter]

I’ve never fully understood the SB-SD relationship dynamic. What’s the etiquette? What are the rules?

It's weird, time consuming and just....odd. I recognize some MPs and some SPs at the site I'm at so there is a lot of cross-over.
For $, they do Pay Per Meet where the duration is 'flexible'. That is, the social rate tends to be <<$200 social rate that SPs charge. For sex, it's still $500 PPM which is more than the $300-400 that I'm used to but the duration is 60-90 minutes so pricing is 'similar'.
Some poor girls have no idea about pricing and they do get taken advantage of.

As you've said, some are just wacked on their romantic expectations.

 

[Milana_Miro]

It's weird, time consuming and just....odd. I recognize some MPs and some SPs at the site I'm at so there is a lot of cross-over.
For $, they do Pay Per Meet where the duration is 'flexible'. That is, the social rate tends to be <<$200 social rate that SPs charge. For sex, it's still $500 PPM which is more than the $300-400 that I'm used to but the duration is 60-90 minutes so pricing is 'similar'.
Some poor girls have no idea about pricing and they do get taken advantage of.

As you've said, some are just wacked on their romantic expectations.

That’s just escorting? Not really a sugar daddy, more like a Splenda daddy in this case…

 

[ValuedSupporter]

That’s just escorting? Not really a sugar daddy, more like a Splenda daddy in this case…

Yup. That's the way I treat it, it's escorting. I say I'm just interested in once or twice a month where she hosts. No dinners, no socials. The difference between SB and SP? Shrug...volume?

As I mentioned before, I'm surprised at the number that will host me at their house though. Just got off the phone with #4 of "sure I can host". Kids are at school, camp, they work from home...all they need is a photograph...

 

[Tony2000]

Damn you’ve been watering that German plant for a long time! Hope it goes well!

Haha ..... I usually don't invest that much time.
And, of course, I have seen a couple of other young women over the past 12 months.
Nothing quite clicked so now I am looking forward to seeing Miss Germany!

 

[xix]

Yup. That's the way I treat it, it's escorting. I say I'm just interested in once or twice a month where she hosts. No dinners, no socials. The difference between SB and SP? Shrug...volume?

As I mentioned before, I'm surprised at the number that will host me at their house though. Just got off the phone with #4 of "sure I can host". Kids are at school, camp, they work from home...all they need is a photograph...

You must be great looking and 6'1".

 

[shane4]

Just wondering what are we looking for in terms of $ per meet up?

 

[avocat]

Just wondering what are we looking for in terms of $ per meet up?

Most good looking, semi normal SB's want $500 per meet. You may get $400 if lucky. There are a few that may ask more, usually they are strippers. Just say no, $500 seems to be what they are looking for as a "gift".