i agree with "does not want commitment" part of hobbying. for me i need stress relief when i can get it, i work in an industry where it is mostly men very few women and the women that do work their are married.
i dont think of myself as unattractive, i've noticed girls checking me out every-now-and-then when i am out and about, i just dont want to have feelings for anyone at the moment, one very beautiful woman ruined that part for me and that is why i choose to do what i do, i just see hobbying as a way to live out a few fantasies. sides that, hobbying is guarantee that i will get what i want where as with dating it is hit or miss.
don't get me wrong, getting into a relationship with someone you are truly attracted to is something great, the feeling is great, but for some of us we may not have the venues to do so.
i can honestly say, any guy can get any woman. in my experience you just have to be in the right place, i managed to be with a model for a short while she taught me things about attraction and generally what women really look for, and mind you when i met her i was less than attractive but she saw something in me she liked.