Sugar Dating Experience
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Am I dating a crazy woman?
Believe me I heard stories where they make themselves the victims.
I signed up for a one month membership on seeking to see what the field looks like. Lots of bots / OF girls, but then some girls which I assume are escorts or semi-escorts, right away asking for 400-600PPM. I am not sure what's the point of this site if it's super transactional like this, might as well stick to SPs and known indys. The only interesting prospect has been this mid 20s woman who hasn't talked about a PPM but I have seen her twice for a coffee and a long walk. She said she's not sure what she's looking for and wants to build an emotional connection before we "do anything". I am just going along with it for now to see where this ends. Our next date is going to be a dinner (before anyone thinks I am taking her out to some expensive place, it's actually relatively decent place, dinner for two plus a drink each will be under $100). I don't mind spending that, since it is my 3rd time seeing her and she's fun to talk to.
If anyone has experienced this before or can tell me what the long-game here with this woman is, let me know lol.
If anyone has experienced this before or can tell me what the long-game here with this woman is, let me know lol.
A woman typically prefers selling sex wholesale (eg via a long term relationship or marriage) as opposed to retail (eg sex work). An emotional connection is a classic way to achieve that. Not sure why you are surprised.
FWIW she’s definitely not a fraudster since fraudsters would never bother to waste so much time on any given target.
Yeah, I am sure she's not a fraudster at this point since she hasn't even asked for any money yet.
I am more so surprised because it's still a SB site, not Hinge or Tinder. And I am fine building something with her just a little confused since she hasn't even mentioned any sort of arrangement details yet and this would be my 3rd time seeing her in basically a span of 12 days.
Seeking is currently advertised as a conventional dating site and I see new girls there looking for a conventional relationship.
That being said I would have never went to a first date let alone a second date leaving it in the air. I’m not there to entertain toe dippers and other variations of civvies.
There are girls on the Sugar sites who are legitimately looking for a long term relationship with an older guy. (Yes for most of us it’s bullshit but they are there) Seeking’s current marketing to girls really does make it look like a place to score a whale, and the CEO of Secret Benefits claims to have married his young sugar baby. He’s bringing her on as an exec soon apparently. That kind of thing sends a really strong impression to the ladies that it’s not always sex for money, escorting lite. (even though for the vast majority of guys on the sites it’s complete nonsense)
Unless you really like this girl’s company and don’t want to rock whatever boat you seem to be sailing in, I’d mention the idea of sex with her pretty soon. Either before or shortly after you raise the subject of a PPM or an allowance and the whole “mutually beneficial” euphemism. Unless she’s going to sleep with you for nothing of course
Yeah, I am going to frankly ask about hanging out at my place for our next date and see what's she says.I’d mention the idea of sex with her pretty soon. Either before or shortly after you raise the subject of a PPM or an allowance and the whole “mutually beneficial” euphemism. Unless she’s going to sleep with you for nothing of course
I seen same profile/photos on SB and Bubble I think some women do want catch some feelings before entering an arrangement. Not a fraudster but I would be careful about entering a deeper relationship if you all you just want is casual sex
some women simply want conventional boyfriends who are not broke and are willing to pay for shit.
Although haven't been on it for years, this has been my experience on SD.
I got into several meaningful long term relationships with really nice, top notch well adjusted girls I met on there that simply wanted to weed out broke dicks and date a successful guy that wasn't a cheapskate. Although none had "daddy issues" per se, they also liked older men for the experiences they could provide. In and out of the bedroom.
And then we are back to the old dilemma: would you rather pay for her spa and shoes and listen about her day or pay cash and not listen about it
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The old saying "I don't pay for sex, I pay for her to go home after."And then we are back to the old dilemma: would you rather pay for her spa and shoes and listen about her day or pay cash and not listen about it
I have a puzzling case I can't quite put my finger on. Got in touch with a woman from SA and from the get go she indicated she is very well off financially and that she does not want any financial compensation. She knows I'm married and that I'm not looking for a serious marriage-oriented relationship. OK, so red flags appeared. I'm waiting for a scam but not sure exactly what. Curious though to see where it goes. Surely enough, a day before we were to meet in person, she had a family event that forced her to go far enough to make meeting in person impossible. She kept texting multiple times a day, trivial things like "how's your day", "what you are doing?", "I'm taking a shower now", etc. Says she wants to really connect online before meeting in person to "take the awkwardness away when seeing each other in person for the first time". Right.
Now the only reason I kept texting back was because I was curious to find out what her scheme was. She mentioned several times how successful she is with her investments and even showed one trade transaction in which she profited a large sum of money. So naturally I'm waiting for her to ask me to invest with her (I had another scammer try that) but no, she never asked for money. I even told her explicitly that I will not be sending any money until we have met in person and she got offended that I even thought that. Ten or so days after we've been back and forth texting, I decided I've had enough - there was no sign of her "returning" to Toronto to meet and I didn't want to waste my time anymore. I deleted our texts (using Telegram you can delete both ends) and she got upset. Seemed really hurt. It's been over a day and haven't heard from her. I wonder what she was scheming to do. Extort me after collecting what she hoped would be enough personal information to find my identity? Any guesses?
Now the only reason I kept texting back was because I was curious to find out what her scheme was. She mentioned several times how successful she is with her investments and even showed one trade transaction in which she profited a large sum of money. So naturally I'm waiting for her to ask me to invest with her (I had another scammer try that) but no, she never asked for money. I even told her explicitly that I will not be sending any money until we have met in person and she got offended that I even thought that. Ten or so days after we've been back and forth texting, I decided I've had enough - there was no sign of her "returning" to Toronto to meet and I didn't want to waste my time anymore. I deleted our texts (using Telegram you can delete both ends) and she got upset. Seemed really hurt. It's been over a day and haven't heard from her. I wonder what she was scheming to do. Extort me after collecting what she hoped would be enough personal information to find my identity? Any guesses?
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it has got to be an investment type scheme. I don’t know if it makes sense to bother figuring out what exactly it is. In all likelihood it’s not gonna be interesting enough. And then you just wasted your time on something dumb as fuck. After all, we are there to get our dicks wet, not to research latest fraud.
Also considering how poorly SA is managed and how easy it is to get banned there I’m trying to avoid any situation where I would start trolling them and they would start reporting me. I used to troll the shit out of them all, but then I got banned a few years ago and barely was able to get back on. Now it is pretty simple. I see red flags, I block and I forget.
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Yeah, most likely an investment type scheme but surprised she didn't ask for money for so long. Not much time wasted really, I just spend a minute or two a day texting.
