Civility.....
- Thread starter Aliyoop
- Start date
I can run into 3 or more assholes just posting in 1 thread on TERB. What is your point?
Seriously, do you think that people should be walking around with their dogs unleashed? Or do you think people should be speeding at 80 in what is probably a 40 or 50 at most? Or people should be allowed to just put legs and feet up on the subway seats?
Sounds more like you are projecting to me. Guess I would count as asshole #1 to you today. 2 and 3 won't be fair behind I am sure.
:rockon:
Last edited:
Years ago driving through the Annex in Toronto, I was stopping at every stop sign (I thought that was the law!!!). A guy pulls up behind me at one stop sign really fast and breaks, almost hitting me. I pull away and stop at the next stop sign. Again he approaches me really fast before stopping. I pull away again and stop at the next stop sign. This time he pulls around me without stopping and on the other side of the intersection he blocks the road like a police car would do so I can't drive through. I noticed his licensed plate and when he gets out of the car, an overweight guy gets out and walks towards me. Keeping in mind what his license plate was, I shout out to him, You must be a f$&@%#* real estate agent. He immediately stops and jumps back into his car and screeches away. Not sure why he stopped the confrontation (maybe it was the baseball bat I had, Not, lol).
How is this for karma, years ago a guy in my neighbourhood was drinking and one night he was speeding on a quiet residential street in our neighbourhood. Sadly he struck and killed a young teen in our neighbourhood while she was walking on the street. There was much outrage in the area over this. The family did not move out of the area. Years laters, this same guy was at his family cottage and from what I heard he was drinking and decided to jump off the pier into the water. Unfortunately, he hit the bottom and was paralyzed from the waist down. The family converted the garage into his living space as he had to use a wheelchair.
How is this for karma, years ago a guy in my neighbourhood was drinking and one night he was speeding on a quiet residential street in our neighbourhood. Sadly he struck and killed a young teen in our neighbourhood while she was walking on the street. There was much outrage in the area over this. The family did not move out of the area. Years laters, this same guy was at his family cottage and from what I heard he was drinking and decided to jump off the pier into the water. Unfortunately, he hit the bottom and was paralyzed from the waist down. The family converted the garage into his living space as he had to use a wheelchair.
A "run-in" on TERB doesn't count. I'm talking about real life, face to face interactions. Something that has become rare in today's society.
I like dogs, and most of the ones I see off leash are small, harmless lap dogs. People who speed through residential streets are idiots but it doesn't happen on my street (often) and it's the job of the police to enforce the law, not mine. Of course, I would tell the speeder to slow down if given the chance but I'm not gonna place them under citizen's arrest or anything. I don't take transit, so shoes on seats doesn't affect me. If there's a bunch of empty seats, and their shoes aren't dirty, then who cares?
Seeing someone doing something stupid or obnoxious is not the same thing as having a run in with an asshole. Someone bumps into you on the street, and instead of apologizing, they act as if it was your fault and start arguing with you. If you have these types of encounters 3 or more times a day, with different people, then MAYBE, you're the problem. I didn't say you ARE the problem, but MAYBE you are.
Why would I consider you an "asshole"? I don't know you, never met you, never will, and I don't care to. You don't mean anything to me, so why would I waste my energy hating on you?
Is it because you disagreed with me? No, people can have differing opinions, it doesn't mean they're wrong, or that I'm right. Most people can go through the whole day without any of these types encounters. People need to learn to let things go. There are many instances where people need to be checked for their actions but to go around and start arguments with everyone who you perceived to do you wrong just shows mental instability and a lack of maturity.
Great long winded post of nothingness. You still didn't answer the questions regarding the wrongful behaviour on the part of others.
And adding that someone bumps into you, doesn't apologize and acts as if it is your fault... and you think if that happens more then 3 times a day, you are somehow possibly the asshole???? Where is the lost, shaking your head, emoji when you need it? How does that even work??? LOL Maybe there was typo, who knows but that one is lost on me.
I know I am being difficult but it just seems like another pass the buck lame excuse to blame the person who calls out the negative behaviour instead of the people doing the negative behaviour. But that is just me.
Last edited:
You do know that there are people out there that go around looking for a confrontation? You must be one of them. Seems like you go out of your way to try and nit-pick everyone's behaviour to make you feel better about yourself. Let things go, live and let live. If something really bothers you, like a dog off the leash, then say something. Or become a police officer. But if you're really gonna go around pointing out everyone's bad behaviour, then expect to get into a fight or two.
PS. You do realize that the "bumping into someone" reference was just an example, if you thought that I think that it happens more than three times a day, you really need to give your head a shake. And get out more, the city needs you, Toronto's own unofficial by-law enforcement officer.
Hold on - you still stand by the bumping into someone example.
So let me just write this out in full form to see it I get it......
- You are walking down the street minding your business
- Someone bumps into you, does not apologize
- They start yelling at you because.... I have no clue, they just do.
You are the asshole though???? LMAO - I will never understand that how that works????
As for the unleashed dog on his property, he did speak up and you say he is looking for confrontation??? Again, not going to get that.
I don't go out of my way to make myself feel better. I feel fucking fantastic about me. I would never need to put someone else down to feel good about me. I am not that way.
It is okay though, we can agree to disagree. You think people who point negative behaviour of others are assholes, and I think that the people doing the negative behaviour are assholes.
One of us is what is wrong with the world. I am fine with it being me, are you?
Last edited:
Did you not read the word "MAYBE"? Re-read my OP. For you to tell me what I think is idiotic. No where did I say that pointing bad behaviour makes you an asshole. By you stating that makes you a liar. Learn the definition of the word, "MAYBE". You're fine with being illiterate? I would say that's what's wrong with the world today.
I read the maybe. Maybe you can't read. I did ask you some questions. Maybe if you answered those, it would have helped explain your side.
Then you added this to your post after the fact. Which I love BTW. Thank-you
No one said anything about making a citizen's arrest?? A little dramatic don't you think? And do you think that because something doesn't affect YOU personally, that it doesn't matter. Or the people it does affect MAY BE assholes if they speak up about it? Really?? That is funny.
You say you would do everything that the OP did, but suggest that maybe he is asshole. I don't get that. I am not telling you what you think, I asking, again and again. You don't want to answer, then just say so. No big. Don't call me a lair because you are all over the place with your posts and refusing to clarify. That ain't my problem, that is yours. People will then take what you said for face value as I have and others who questioned you. You have basically said that calling out negative behaviour is looking for confrontation, and that confrontation is being an asshole. The caveat of "maybe" is your PC way to get out of it when properly confronted. Which now I am back to being an asshole for doing the confronting. So all good in my hood, how about yours? Nevermind....
Thanks for the full circle come about, but I am bored now. Take care.
Last edited:
^Thanks for the long wided speech about nothing. You showed that you are either illiterate or willfully ignorant. I have no time for either of these.
You're a liar because you untruthfully stated that you know what I think. Which is idiotic, at best.
What "others"? You're the only one who seems to have difficulty understanding the word, "maybe".
PS. "Maybe" was in my OP (original post). Keep being illiterate/willfully ignorant. It looks good on you.
You're a liar because you untruthfully stated that you know what I think. Which is idiotic, at best.
What "others"? You're the only one who seems to have difficulty understanding the word, "maybe".
PS. "Maybe" was in my OP (original post). Keep being illiterate/willfully ignorant. It looks good on you.
I love it when I'm walking along a sidewalk and 3 or 4 people are walking towards me, shoulder to shoulder. They're effectively blocking the entire sidewalk and expect me to move out of the way to let them pass. Well, I'll move to one side or the other but I refuse to step onto the road to let them pass. I mean, they're blocking the entire sidewalk FFS.
So if they approach and don't make any effort to give me space to pass, I just stop dead in my tracks which forces them to walk around me. Someone will usually gives me a dirty look, as though I'm the one who should get out of the way and let them pass unimpeded.
So if they approach and don't make any effort to give me space to pass, I just stop dead in my tracks which forces them to walk around me. Someone will usually gives me a dirty look, as though I'm the one who should get out of the way and let them pass unimpeded.
Really? Is this thread about public transit or living in the city? No, it's about civility. I was "asked" if I took transit and I answered. Who the fuck are you to tell me which threads to post in?
Imbecile.
I know that Versatile1 can answer on his own, but I think he would also be okay with you being the wrong one in the world. I was reading and rereading the exchange between Versatile1 and Jessica Rain, and I gotta say, there was a lot of non sequitors, mostly from Jessica Rain. I work in computers, so formal logic is always on my mind, and non sequitors always stand out for me. And I will admit, people as a rule, rarely follow formal logic when presenting an argument. Their was some real leaps in there.
I read somewhere (on the internet) that if a difference of opinion goes on long enough, someone will accuse the other being like Hitler. It's nice to see that the two of you were able not to do that. To me that is an admission of defeat.
Some people would rather die than admit they were wrong about something. Myself, I never said I was perfect, and I'm always willing to learn new things, or maybe even a new way of looking at things. My family has never missed the chance to tell me when I'm wrong (I say this only half joking).
I heard an interesting phrase long ago- Which would you rather be, right or happy?
/rant
Well look who is a smarty pants. LOL
Now let me ask, since you got what was going on, am I an asshole?
eace::rofl:
Last edited:
A very wise phrase. Too many people are choosing to be right-fighters and are miserable for it.
Similar threads
