Balancing a crush on an SP

[Fun For All]

I’ve met some SPs that I liked but never thought about pursuing them…they always gave me the impression that our relationship was business.

 

[Daddy2021]

Two years of regular business. Generous with tips. Only communication was to set up appointments. Then she disappeared. Never told me she retired or anything. She has just stopped responding to appointment enquiries.
Makes me believe she was deeply dissatisfied with being a sex worker. And perhaps hated fact I am old enough to be her dad or even grandad. So gave me the finger on her way out. Shocker and a bummer

why does her not telling you that she’s no longer working mean she has disdain as a sex worker? Lol. It just means you were a client and she was no longer working. Some ladies may tell you, some not. One has nothing to do with the other.

 

[Daddy2021]

I’ve met some SPs that I liked but never thought about pursuing them…they always gave me the impression that our relationship was business.

That’s because it is.

 

[chuckster]

I have a strong preference for ladies that don't speak English. They can't get their hooks into me that way.
I recommend Korean. (unless you happen to speak Korean)

 

[Fun For All]

I have a strong preference for ladies that don't speak English. They can't get their hooks into me that way.
I recommend Korean. (unless you happen to speak Korean)

how do you say I'll suck your dick for $200 in Korean - Google Search

 

[princekwekua]

She doesn't need to explain to you why she stopped working. Maybe she blocked your number or ghosted ya or changed her number. Maybe she retired because she got a job or met a partner along with plenty of other reasons. If I was seeing some SP as a client as a regular for whatever many years I wouldn't explain to her when I decide to move on from her for whatever reason. She doesn't need to know. I'd ghost her and most don't contact you first anyway because that's how this business functions. And not to mention you said your only actual communication was to set up appointments. You hardly even had a connection with her after hours like some do over text. And a lot of the time that texting is just pure business. A few people dealing with regulars and stuff think they are owed some explanation because she retired for whatever reason and want some closure. Clingy much???

I am not asking for an explanation. Just out of courtesy to say no longer working. That's all.

 

[princekwekua]

why does her not telling you that she’s no longer working mean she has disdain as a sex worker? Lol. It just means you were a client and she was no longer working. Some ladies may tell you, some not. One has nothing to do with the other.

Its called courtesy. If your vocabulary extends that far.

 

[Daddy2021]

Its called courtesy. If your vocabulary extends that far.

That’s still not answering the question. Then it has to do what you feel is courtesy, not having disdain as a sex worker. I seriously doubt all of us guys text a lady when we are no longer going to see them. Not sure given the nature of the business why we should expect a lady to text or contact every single guy that they are no longer in the biz. Perhaps that’s why they throw out a blanket statement announcing it. They may also not wish to contact clients first incase it puts them in a spot of getting a message at a bad time. But no, you are correct. It can only be disdain for being a SW

 

[that6969]

Courtesy my ass lmfao. Nobody has to explain why they retire and decide to move on. You were just a transaction to her, nothing special. Scrap it and move on especially since you hardly had a bond with her besides fucking her. I hardly even let women know that I'm the dating why I'm done with them. I ghost them and they get the hint. I've had the same happen to me and it's very easy to pick up on it and shrug it. A few I mentioned it's just not working out and I don't even care to be just friends and keep them in my life. If they reach out to me the odd time I'd probably not even reply or just say a one word response. Most times people don't wanna deal with others they are just done with.

SPs don't need to go through their entire client list and tell folks they are retiring.

 

[newguy20]

Laugh all you want.
I’ve gotten myself in a situation where I genuinely really like a certain SP that I see frequently. We text almost everyday talking about our days, etc.
I’m always thinking about her and not sex with her, honestly - her as a person and how she communicates and the down time we have spent together.

Has anyone else battled this as well?

All the guys telling you to run away or see other SPs are probably right. However....
At the risk of tempting you back into a pipe dream that you may have moved on from, "You miss 100% of the shots you don't take"

I've had two non-business relationships with SPs.

The first I initiated by asking her out. This was back when SPs didn't really expect to be paid for social time, so maybe it was easier at that time.
It went well for a bit but we realized that we were quite different people, at different stages of our lives. Lasted about a year.
I think she always suspected I was just seeing her for the free sex. That wasn't true in the beginning, but it probably was near the end.

The second came about when she asked me to stay the night and said that I didn't need to pay her every time I saw her.
We had a great summer fling but that's really all it was.

In both cases, I paid for dinners, tickets to shows, etc. but they never pushed for anything.
Both ended amicably and they have both moved on to very nice lives.

I'm not suggesting that, if you ask your SP to see you off the clock, you will live happily ever after.
It will probably be a disaster. Only one way to know for sure.

 

[inmyname]

she’s open to it, but it’s a bit premature, as she usually never would see a client out of a session.

Sounds like she sees you as a "client" not a potential boyfriend.

Maybe a sugar daddy

 

[dchoye]

I have a strong preference for ladies that don't speak English. They can't get their hooks into me that way.
I recommend Korean. (unless you happen to speak Korean)

I developed fondness over a Latino SP that hardly spoke English
She pushed all the right buttons even with her limited English.
She was new in escorting and shy and didn’t meet clients outside work. But I persisted and she like me enough later on we went out for dates and events. I learned Spanglish

Lasted almost two years
I had a good time with her.
It was my intro to SB experience
Definitely a heartbreaker after she left

 

[deep fried toast]

How do you balance this crush? You just don't, they're not looking to date, and if they were they would tell you.

 

[princekwekua]

Two years of regular business. Generous with tips. Only communication was to set up appointments. Then she disappeared. Never told me she retired or anything. She has just stopped responding to appointment enquiries.
Makes me believe she was deeply dissatisfied with being a sex worker. And perhaps hated fact I am old enough to be her dad or even grandad. So gave me the finger on her way out. Shocker and a bummer

OMG. My girl came back with apologies after 8 week absence/silence. Best new year's gift lol

She is 24-year old white girl with modelesque looks - like Dakota Johnson. No tattoo. About 5' 8" with long natural hair - no extensions. Can pull hair hard. Tight, flat stomach with plump booty. Smallish boobs. Just LFK but can kiss her hard everywhere else. Like her neck and cheek - hard. Cover her whole body with wet kisses. Hard hugs. Slap booty hard. Nibble on her ears. Action starts slow and increases with violent pounding until release. So intense can only do SOG.

She is my only girl. Average twice a month. No. I am not sharing.

 

[peeler_feeler]

OMG. My girl came back with apologies after 8 week absence/silence. Best new year's gift lol

She is 24-year old white girl with modelesque looks - like Dakota Johnson. No tattoo. About 5' 8" with long natural hair - no extensions. Can pull hair hard. Tight, flat stomach with plump booty. Smallish boobs. Just LFK but can kiss her hard everywhere else. Like her neck and cheek - hard. Cover her whole body with wet kisses. Hard hugs. Slap booty hard. Nibble on her ears. Action starts slow and increases with violent pounding until release. So intense can only do SOG.

She is my only girl. Average twice a month. No. I am not sharing.

I'm curious, did she give you any explanation as to her absence? Not that it's required, just curiosity on my part.

 

[Daddy2021]

OMG. My girl came back with apologies after 8 week absence/silence. Best new year's gift lol

She is 24-year old white girl with modelesque looks - like Dakota Johnson. No tattoo. About 5' 8" with long natural hair - no extensions. Can pull hair hard. Tight, flat stomach with plump booty. Smallish boobs. Just LFK but can kiss her hard everywhere else. Like her neck and cheek - hard. Cover her whole body with wet kisses. Hard hugs. Slap booty hard. Nibble on her ears. Action starts slow and increases with violent pounding until release. So intense can only do SOG.

She is my only girl. Average twice a month. No. I am not sharing.

Wonder how she would feel if she read your assuming and a bit weird post in regards to her not sending you a thought out thank you card explaining her departure

 

[GuySmiley]

I have been open with her and it’s well received.
But the only time we see eachother is when I book sessions.
And as genuine as our sessions and conversations are, this is her job. You never TRULY know if it’s the SP or the person you’re getting.
lmao I think I’m in a pickle.

Bro, run. Don't walk. Run. I've been down this path and it doesn't end well.
I know you think you *know* her and I'm sure you do to a large extent.
But that lifestyle is simply not compatible with a real relationship - and I don't care how 'liberal' some guys are because yes, there are sex workers out there with husbands/boyfriends/etc. Sorry, to me they're not real men. A real man is not okay with someone else ploughing his wife/girlfriend/SO. You're just a simp. Or at worst, a pimp.

I get that you can't just flip a switch and extricate your feelings. But this won't end well.
I'd say switch to another provider and stop seeing her and those feelings will dissipate.
Good luck!

 

[GuySmiley]

OMG. My girl came back with apologies after 8 week absence/silence. Best new year's gift lol

She is 24-year old white girl with modelesque looks - like Dakota Johnson. No tattoo. About 5' 8" with long natural hair - no extensions. Can pull hair hard. Tight, flat stomach with plump booty. Smallish boobs. Just LFK but can kiss her hard everywhere else. Like her neck and cheek - hard. Cover her whole body with wet kisses. Hard hugs. Slap booty hard. Nibble on her ears. Action starts slow and increases with violent pounding until release. So intense can only do SOG.

She is my only girl. Average twice a month. No. I am not sharing.

Trust me, she's being shared. (lol sorry, had to)

 

[jalimon]

OMG. My girl came back with apologies after 8 week absence/silence. Best new year's gift lol

She is 24-year old white girl with modelesque looks - like Dakota Johnson. No tattoo. About 5' 8" with long natural hair - no extensions. Can pull hair hard. Tight, flat stomach with plump booty. Smallish boobs. Just LFK but can kiss her hard everywhere else. Like her neck and cheek - hard. Cover her whole body with wet kisses. Hard hugs. Slap booty hard. Nibble on her ears. Action starts slow and increases with violent pounding until release. So intense can only do SOG.

She is my only girl. Average twice a month. No. I am not sharing.

If you are not sharing why coming here to brag?

 

[Daddy2021]

If you are not sharing why coming here to brag?

Please, his whole post is suspicious.