At the end of the day, the only things that we leave this world with are memories and awareness. I too have memories that I would never part with even given the; emotional, psychological and financial costs. I could have been a better person. Sometimes I regret not having been, but I believe that everything happens for a reason.
Yeah, I'm kind of a trouble maker.This is all your fault, Schmuz. Stop schmuzzin' around!
He doesn’t know anything about us. He doesn’t know a majority of us or even half of us. I bet even a quarter of us. Making generalizations wrong for a reason. He should do better.
I cant speak for Schmuz or anyone else, but I make one generalization about this hobby. The men trade money for sex. The women do the reverse. It's the only one I make.
An sp doesn’t owe you or us anything in that context. You’re income to them. That’s it.
bravo sweetheart. I agree. You can just feel the disdain ooozing from a lot of these guys that post on here.
I would add that there are as many psychological profile and stories that brings people into sex work as stories that bring people to pay for sex work. Bottom line you pay for me and I provide the services. What makes you better?
Nothing makes the client 'better' than the sex worker. Personally, I don't look down on sex work at all as at the time it certainly helped me at points of my life when I didn't feel as desirable. I could definitely suspend my disbelief for the hour or 2 hours than i saw someone in order to make me feel positive about myself. At least, that's what I needed to mentally subsist at the time.
Truth.
I'd disagree. Sex needn't always be personal and sex work absolutely shouldn't be personal. (And sure, you can dive into an exploration of what 'personal' means but that's another topic). Sex work is a business. This doesn't mean it can't be friendly, respectful, enjoyable, etc. Of course it should be! Just like any other proper business, both parties should be satisfied.
Any clients out there that ended up being in serious relationship/marriage with their sex worker? Feel free to chime in.I can’t really disagree with you but I do have friendships with people I do business with. Escorts do prefer some customers over others regardless of how much they pay. That is not about love or sex, but mutual respect and enjoying each other’s company. A lot of people take the posture that they understand how things really are and that the rest of us are fools. I think the models we make of human interaction need to be continually refined. Things are usually more complicated and nuanced than can be summarized with simple theories. But, what the fuck, let’s try a theory: if you find yourself “falling in like”, move forward. If you find yourself “falling in love”, take a back step.I'd disagree. Sex needn't always be personal and sex work absolutely shouldn't be personal. (And sure, you can dive into an exploration of what 'personal' means but that's another topic). Sex work is a business. This doesn't mean it can't be friendly, respectful, enjoyable, etc. Of course it should be! Just like any other proper business, both parties should be satisfied.
At the end of the day, and to safeguard yourself as a client, you should not view it as real relationship because it is not intended to be one. As I said in another thread, if you consider this a 'real' relationship, you really need to explore life more. I just roll my eyes when guys type, "oh, we had a connection". Sure you did. That connection has a price tag. That connection is based on the catalyst of money. That's not connection; that's a transaction. If you bring what I would consider to be any real emotions to it, you're doomed. Is that cynicism? Does it allow for the possibility of something? I can't say for sure but how many wedding speeches have you heard that started off about that first meet in a hotel room or massage parlour?
The whole thread initially started as the OP was relating some emotional realizations they were having about who they were seeing.
People have this horrible habit of self-denial and seeing whatever they want to see and I don't think sex work is immune to this tendency.
I will say there were some interesting perspectives (especially those from sex workers themselves) that led this to be a genuinely interesting thread.
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