bravo sweetheart. I agree. You can just feel the disdain ooozing from a lot of these guys that post on here.
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Balancing a crush on an SP
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I would add that there are as many psychological profile and stories that brings people into sex work as stories that bring people to pay for sex work. Bottom line you pay for me and I provide the services. What makes you better?
Nothing makes the client 'better' than the sex worker. Personally, I don't look down on sex work at all as at the time it certainly helped me at points of my life when I didn't feel as desirable. I could definitely suspend my disbelief for the hour or 2 hours than i saw someone in order to make me feel positive about myself. At least, that's what I needed to mentally subsist at the time.
I'd go out on a limb and state the clients probably have much bigger psych issues in their lives as most of the sex workers I met and the 2 I got especially close to were very driven, mentally sound, and focused.
Truth.
A few I have got to know well were focused on their goals and used the advantages of great income of this industry along with great network connections from meeting C-suite level clients to establish a great future.
!!!I keep writing a response to this thread and then deleting it. Sex is always at least a little bit personal. I think both sides make mistakes, but hopefully we learn and grow. I certainly have. I think we should have the humility to know that there are emotional landscapes that we have not yet explored, new territory, and if we navigate them carefully we can end up in better places. Like amazing foods that we have not yet tried. And oddly enough, when my mind is in the right place with someone, my physical enjoyment is greatly enhanced. I seem to like "compensated FWB". I have a few good friends. We might not talk to each other for years, but when we do we always enjoy each other. And that is a good way to be with escorts. With friends we have a freedom that we do not have with lovers.
I had a SP once during a session tell me she loves me lmfao. I stopped seeing her and ignored the comment while we were intimate. She was mentioning a few times wanting to be with me but no chance that would ever happen. She had a few issues that I already knew wouldn't work out even if we lived together.
I'd disagree. Sex needn't always be personal and sex work absolutely shouldn't be personal. (And sure, you can dive into an exploration of what 'personal' means but that's another topic). Sex work is a business. This doesn't mean it can't be friendly, respectful, enjoyable, etc. Of course it should be! Just like any other proper business, both parties should be satisfied.
At the end of the day, and to safeguard yourself as a client, you should not view it as real relationship because it is not intended to be one. As I said in another thread, if you consider this a 'real' relationship, you really need to explore life more. I just roll my eyes when guys type, "oh, we had a connection". Sure you did. That connection has a price tag. That connection is based on the catalyst of money. That's not connection; that's a transaction. If you bring what I would consider to be any real emotions to it, you're doomed. Is that cynicism? Does it allow for the possibility of something? I can't say for sure but how many wedding speeches have you heard that started off about that first meet in a hotel room or massage parlour?
Any clients out there that ended up being in serious relationship/marriage with their sex worker? Feel free to chime in.The whole thread initially started as the OP was relating some emotional realizations they were having about who they were seeing.
People have this horrible habit of self-denial and seeing whatever they want to see and I don't think sex work is immune to this tendency.
I will say there were some interesting perspectives (especially those from sex workers themselves) that led this to be a genuinely interesting thread.
I can’t really disagree with you but I do have friendships with people I do business with. Escorts do prefer some customers over others regardless of how much they pay. That is not about love or sex, but mutual respect and enjoying each other’s company. A lot of people take the posture that they understand how things really are and that the rest of us are fools. I think the models we make of human interaction need to be continually refined. Things are usually more complicated and nuanced than can be summarized with simple theories. But, what the fuck, let’s try a theory: if you find yourself “falling in like”, move forward. If you find yourself “falling in love”, take a back step.I'd disagree. Sex needn't always be personal and sex work absolutely shouldn't be personal. (And sure, you can dive into an exploration of what 'personal' means but that's another topic). Sex work is a business. This doesn't mean it can't be friendly, respectful, enjoyable, etc. Of course it should be! Just like any other proper business, both parties should be satisfied.
At the end of the day, and to safeguard yourself as a client, you should not view it as real relationship because it is not intended to be one. As I said in another thread, if you consider this a 'real' relationship, you really need to explore life more. I just roll my eyes when guys type, "oh, we had a connection". Sure you did. That connection has a price tag. That connection is based on the catalyst of money. That's not connection; that's a transaction. If you bring what I would consider to be any real emotions to it, you're doomed. Is that cynicism? Does it allow for the possibility of something? I can't say for sure but how many wedding speeches have you heard that started off about that first meet in a hotel room or massage parlour?
The whole thread initially started as the OP was relating some emotional realizations they were having about who they were seeing.
People have this horrible habit of self-denial and seeing whatever they want to see and I don't think sex work is immune to this tendency.
I will say there were some interesting perspectives (especially those from sex workers themselves) that led this to be a genuinely interesting thread.
I doupt that there are SPs who see 20-30 men per week . They are humans .
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Battling this currently.If you care for her you will be happy if she’s happy. Cherish your time with her and hope she gets everything she wants in life.
I never would have ever expected this thread to get as many discussions as it has taking place, but I will say - it has helped haha.
I know it’s transactional. I know the connection isn’t real. I know I was in my own head and I know I’m just the John. But I hold true in my heart that we are all people first and it’s hard not to let emotion into the equation. Especially when you see someone regularly and you text after hours and talk about real life stuff.
All in all, before I even started the thread, I knew these things. It was more putting out for other to relate to the position I found myself in.
I think the best thing I took from this was, just enjoy the time and intimacy we have in the time we have together. And be grateful we have great sex together.
I know it’s transactional. I know the connection isn’t real. I know I was in my own head and I know I’m just the John. But I hold true in my heart that we are all people first and it’s hard not to let emotion into the equation. Especially when you see someone regularly and you text after hours and talk about real life stuff.
All in all, before I even started the thread, I knew these things. It was more putting out for other to relate to the position I found myself in.
I think the best thing I took from this was, just enjoy the time and intimacy we have in the time we have together. And be grateful we have great sex together.
Working 20 hours doesn’t mean you fuck 20 times a week . Even if some of us do !
I personally prefer to see few people to build deep and meaningful connections. I don’t have the energy to build strong relationships with 20 men in a week !
Why do you want to be the last man of the week and not the first one of the week ?
Unless they are doing 20 quickies, I doubt they can make many rounds , sexual positions with 20 men in a week ! It is insane !
