So basically a no soliciting or anything that sounds like sex-for-money? That's funny becasue Seeking/SDM has had that right on their sites home page for years. I guess the lesson is to take the conversation off Hinge?
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Me too LOL.Your jokes are so weak I'd need bifocals to see them... With my advanced age and all!
Now you got the hang of this comedy thing.
Question for people who travel. Do you scope out pots before you travel? I am travelling now more and now really the only time I spend in Toronto is mid-late summer. Was thinking of giving SA a shot but given the effort people have said, I'm wondering if I should start like a week or two before I travel. Also is summer a better time to meet some on these sites?
I had an arrangement with one SB who had an account on Misstravel.
It connects potential girls with guys who are traveling. She said it was hit and miss. Sometimes it was good, sometimes awful and awkward.
Start long before your trip and make some connections. Even if you’ve got arrangements made have a backup in case she flakes. The leg work may not be worth it in a city like TO where agency girls are so readily available and reviews are easy to find. Just IMO
Good to know. I want to give it a shot. The flexibility sounds better than agency girls though but as someone said earlier in the thread, if someone flakes, there is always an agency available.
Question about SDM.Outside from North America, Seeking is probably still better just because of the name recognition and more members. SDM is great in Canada and USA, though, it's cheaper, and you don't get banned if if you try and negotiate on the site, though lately I've seen some profiles on Seeking that have PPM spelled out funny like "P* PM"
On the other hand, you see a lot of girls on both sides, and a couple of familiar faces from other places:
https://members.seeking.com/member/9b425b19-455f-4be1-9ac3-eb6bbc39d8a7
https://www.sugardaddymeet.com/userProfile?tid=af100011222-m&userId=73087826
(a couple of ladies from Seduction and other spas/agencies are on these sites)
So yes, I prefer SDM myself, but both have lots of room to grow
I’ve used Seeking for several years with good success, and also had a profile on Secret Benefits for a while (until I learned my lesson lol). After reading suggestions in this thread I set up a SDM profile a few days ago, but the photo requirements have me a bit confused. Apparently you have to have a full face pic as your main profile pic? WTF?? According to the girls I’ve met in the sugar world, at least half of the guys on the sugar sites are married, and there is no way most guys like me are putting our full, clear faces on there for everyone to see. Full pic to the girl once you start to chat?, sure, but my main has always been either blurred or just a torso shot of my well dressed frame. It’s never failed me.
Why would SDM want to exclude married, and rightly cautious, guys from being front and centre on their site? And does anyone know of a work around to the problem?
What you can do is first upload your face pic and then get it verified (5mins). Afterwards, you can put your 'torso' pic as the main photo and private your face pic. That worked for me.
My exp with sugar dating:
I recently got into sugaring world. Found my first SB on SDM and she is very young and hott. I am curious from others here -- how do you deal with a young SB who I can see is becoming clinky. I am partly to blame because I do reply to her texts cuz mostly I do enjoy her company. Though the sex is great but not anywhere close to SP great
Maybe I need to change my age range to above 25...A recent Seeking conversation with a cute SB. I know there has been inflation , but where are they getting the numbers from ?
Do you have a compensation amount in mind ?
her - 2000
? Allowance per month ? Could you ever host/entertain at your place ?
her - Per month 4000. I want to get my own place soon if I do then yes just have to save a bit more
Do you have a compensation amount in mind ?
her - 2000
? Allowance per month ? Could you ever host/entertain at your place ?
her - Per month 4000. I want to get my own place soon if I do then yes just have to save a bit more
What is the purpose of blocking? Just tell her that she's out of your range and then don't reply to her messages.
Then she’s gonna change pics and you’ll be hitting her again and wasting time. I dunno, I like blocking. I brings finality. Like she’s not gonna hit you with “oh I have a 60% off this week”. She’s always gonna feel like you should have paid more. It’s not gonna be good so why see her face on your screen one time more than you have to?
Last I saw was a few weeks ago . 20% was common ; occasionally 25% off. I had emails for 33 % off . That worked at least 6 mths later . Didn't work for my recent month membership payment . I did get 20% off though. There was a Free 1 Hour Premium Package several times last March .what happened to the promo code window when paying on seeking? I am trying to pay and I can't see it now
it ain't much but still annoying
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A winner …smh
checking - your profile - platonic = no sex . I'm looking for an ongoing arrangement with a lady who loves sex
Her -I meant platonic as in friends with benefits, keeping it casual
Her- Sex is fine if im getting $
Good morning . Do you have a compensation amount in mind ?
checking - your profile - platonic = no sex . I'm looking for an ongoing arrangement with a lady who loves sex
Her -I meant platonic as in friends with benefits, keeping it casual
Her- Sex is fine if im getting $
Good morning . Do you have a compensation amount in mind ?
I’m curious what’s the first language and age (let alone the real concern which would be her IQ) of someone who believes that platonic means sex for money.
I'm almost 40 and been divorced for about 6 years now. I've done dates, FWB and tried the SD on and off. Not bad looking either but I'm not really into finding anything serious still. I also tried the whole SD thing just before the pandemic till the past year or so. Barrie has tons of ladies, but you can find more searching other cities and if you have the time and money to travel to them.
As for the SD experience that depends who you want and what they want in return for their time. Some ask for way too much weekly and monthly lol especially only to meet up 2-4 times a month. My pockets aren't that deep and many aren't worth what they want. A few are on the sites solely just to chat and have a platonic experience in exchange for funds and I don't care for that lol I'm not some lonely old desperate dude who needs women to be texting me at times in exchange for funds. And LOL @ anyone who thinks platonic means sex hahaha. People need a dictionary. No different than paying call center ladies. I actually enjoy my own quietness most times. It's a fun experience like seeing a SP, but I'd rather just stick with a good regular SP. Seeing a SP about 2 or 3 times a month is roughly $400-700 and regulars usually get a better rate. Some of these ladies want a daddy handing them well over $1K a month plus addons like travelling, food, dates and most aren't some high end models. I think a lot live in a fantasy world, but then there are those who have the money and pay them just to chat and do live cam chats. To each their own, just never been what I was into. I like the in person experience with intimacy.
And personally if you meet a decent SP and connect well most times it's not a whole lot extra to even have a smoke or coffee and talk them up unless it's someone strictly business orientated cause they value their entire time. I've experienced both types of SPs and the ones who are more down to earth are the ones I'd repeat if the service is great. And being on a SD site just chatting with someone most times it's someone I don't even want to meet because of how they come across chat. A few of them their PPM is quite high. Tons of decent SPs you can get for a H and get great results. And at times all you really want is the H to be sexual. Not everyone wants to go out afterwards and do stuff that's where I kinda decided I'd rather deal with a SP than a SB. As an introvert I don't mind going to trail walks and hikes, but nobody is really worth a large amount just to join me for that. I could get a dog again and meet ladies at parks or for walks just to chat up a bit. And I enjoy going out for meals and stuff, but some are highly extroverts. I tried the whole club and bar scene in my early 20s and didn't care for it. I don't mind concerts here or there.
If you're gonna provide a certain service and at a certain price then put in the effort when chatting with someone before even meeting them first. I know some can be a lot more open in person than over chat/text, but generally that doesn't always happen. I went on a few just dinner dates or coffee to meet up and I didn't wanna even take things further. I've taken a break from the sites for a few months now and see how it goes later on. From the few I met and we got intimate the experience wasn't worth repeating similar to some SPs. They lack certain spice or are too boring lol. And I get bored when I'm doing the bulk of the work eventually. The session gets stale and I'm sure some guys/ladies prefer that or a balance. I prefer a balance. A good SP a few times a month for a H is well worth it. I've met some who ended up charging me less than what they asked for and spent longer than a H with them just talking too and they were perfectly fine with it and not trying to rush me out.
@GeeBee what issue did ya end up having with the secret site? It's the only one I've used in the past and doesn't require a phone number IIRC or pics to be uploaded or you can upload and blur them (hide) and show who you wanna show to. Plus I never did the whole verification thing.
As for the SD experience that depends who you want and what they want in return for their time. Some ask for way too much weekly and monthly lol especially only to meet up 2-4 times a month. My pockets aren't that deep and many aren't worth what they want. A few are on the sites solely just to chat and have a platonic experience in exchange for funds and I don't care for that lol I'm not some lonely old desperate dude who needs women to be texting me at times in exchange for funds. And LOL @ anyone who thinks platonic means sex hahaha. People need a dictionary. No different than paying call center ladies. I actually enjoy my own quietness most times. It's a fun experience like seeing a SP, but I'd rather just stick with a good regular SP. Seeing a SP about 2 or 3 times a month is roughly $400-700 and regulars usually get a better rate. Some of these ladies want a daddy handing them well over $1K a month plus addons like travelling, food, dates and most aren't some high end models. I think a lot live in a fantasy world, but then there are those who have the money and pay them just to chat and do live cam chats. To each their own, just never been what I was into. I like the in person experience with intimacy.
And personally if you meet a decent SP and connect well most times it's not a whole lot extra to even have a smoke or coffee and talk them up unless it's someone strictly business orientated cause they value their entire time. I've experienced both types of SPs and the ones who are more down to earth are the ones I'd repeat if the service is great. And being on a SD site just chatting with someone most times it's someone I don't even want to meet because of how they come across chat. A few of them their PPM is quite high. Tons of decent SPs you can get for a H and get great results. And at times all you really want is the H to be sexual. Not everyone wants to go out afterwards and do stuff that's where I kinda decided I'd rather deal with a SP than a SB. As an introvert I don't mind going to trail walks and hikes, but nobody is really worth a large amount just to join me for that. I could get a dog again and meet ladies at parks or for walks just to chat up a bit. And I enjoy going out for meals and stuff, but some are highly extroverts. I tried the whole club and bar scene in my early 20s and didn't care for it. I don't mind concerts here or there.
If you're gonna provide a certain service and at a certain price then put in the effort when chatting with someone before even meeting them first. I know some can be a lot more open in person than over chat/text, but generally that doesn't always happen. I went on a few just dinner dates or coffee to meet up and I didn't wanna even take things further. I've taken a break from the sites for a few months now and see how it goes later on. From the few I met and we got intimate the experience wasn't worth repeating similar to some SPs. They lack certain spice or are too boring lol. And I get bored when I'm doing the bulk of the work eventually. The session gets stale and I'm sure some guys/ladies prefer that or a balance. I prefer a balance. A good SP a few times a month for a H is well worth it. I've met some who ended up charging me less than what they asked for and spent longer than a H with them just talking too and they were perfectly fine with it and not trying to rush me out.
@GeeBee what issue did ya end up having with the secret site? It's the only one I've used in the past and doesn't require a phone number IIRC or pics to be uploaded or you can upload and blur them (hide) and show who you wanna show to. Plus I never did the whole verification thing.
