It’s not about what hobby they do. As long as they are passionate about it and aren’t assholes or gatekeepers about it, everything is good.
The hobby isn’t unattractive, it’s the way they talk about it. Gatekeeping is unattractive for instance.
it's generally either 'hobbies aren't the problem' or just people riffing on problematic addictions.'
Its one thing to like it, but its another thing to make it your whole personality.
Yes. I used to play video games with my friends on Friday nights. But Covid killed that, it was good for us to relief the week. But it was not to the detriment of those around me or us or our finances. Like all hobbies, if it consumes your time/energy/money and leaves nothing left for your SO, then it's a big problem. Everything in moderation. I'd never cancel a date. I hang out with my friends to game once in a blue moon but we do more pizza nights now 4 times a year to talk.
If you can make money out of it go for it. But there must be a timeline.
I can boil this post down to XXXX things
| Hanging out too much time on social media | Addictions are destructive and bad, |
| Overbearing obsessiveness is toxic, | Being unnecessarily absent/neglectful is awful, |
| Gambling, or Degenerate "investing" aka gambling all our fucking money away. | Baseless Astrology |
- Switching hobbies yearly. Fine if you get rid of stuff and not keep till death. Better have money for it and not throw it out.
- Tarot card reading - Anything to do with the zodiac
- Fake hair, nails or buying/selling them
- Listening to ratchet music
- Excessive partying
- Putting their whole lives on social media
Compulsive shopping for made in china crap
No hobbies. That’s a problem, because they will start complaining at you for having things to do, when they don’t.
- Addiction to attention, social media, endless selfies.
- when girls sit around to gossip behind peoples backs.
- Reality dating shows, Game shows ( Wheel of fortune and Jeopardy are fine )
- Clubbing - co-worker over 45 separated because of this. Her and comrades at work from same island started to hang once a month, then twice, three and four time a month. He said , stop !!! her EGO said No I could do what I want, out she went. Now she sees a hard life.
- Fangirling. e.g. ‘Swifties’, it’s fine to like someone’s music, but weird and boring to obsess over the singer and go on and on about them
- Vibes based support for political policies without bothering to research the logical implications and empirical evidence
- Anything celebrity culture related.
- Those CLONE Entertainment Tonight shows.
- triathlon training routine ( Exercising to be healthy or cheating, FWB? ready to dump )
- Taking diner home after within 5 dates on man account
- Religion already mentioned
- Day drinking. Being married/in love with a high-functioning alcoholic is soul crushing.
- Extreme Sports fan - the kind that screams at the tv, can’t miss watching a game etc. I think the aggressiveness over a game is just a turn off. I found getting demonstrably angry over sports unacceptable and it really helped me realize how toxic it can be for me or people who isn't into sports. Olympics is fine or a Final cup game but the whole season?
Vaping, as in they make their own flavors and modified devices and then blow smoke rings everywhere to look cool.
Cow tipping.
