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illusionrulez1

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Thanks for starting this interesting thread-
As a newbie in indulging into this “hobby”, I noticed that bare back oral (both bbbj and daty) is very sought after. Now, I am so nervous about STIs I would only chose CBJ and daty using Lorals ( look it up if you don’t know it).
As a provider, would you enjoy providing CBJ more and receiving using a product like Lorals or bb is always better for enjoyment? Would you be able to make covered as enjoyable to a client as a BBBj?
 

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So these days screening requirements is becoming more and more common amongst sp's and many gents think that some of the info being asked for is very intrusive(I.e. personal ID, LinkedIn profile, work info etc). As a gent who may just be starting out in this hobby who is reluctant to provide a lot of personal details what assurances can sp's give him that his personal info doesn't fall into the wrong hands mistakingly? Do sp's have any kind of cyber security protocol where they protect client info that is provided and to not get hacked and prevent a situation like the AM scandal that broke out a few years ago?

I see where these clients are coming from, but I would follow up your first question with what other assurances can a new client give a the provider that they aren't going to rape, murder, or otherwise hurt us? New clients wouldn't have references as on option, so what is a provider supposed to do besides ask for these other options? For these clients the immediate fear is being exposed, whereas our immediate fear is for our lives and physical safety, so we're not starting out on an even footing here.

The good news is we don't want to be outed either, and discretion is very important to protect our personal lives as well as our business model. It's literally in our best interest to protect your details. The other good news is if you're talking about seeing an indy provider, the chances of anyone being interested in hacking her for that info compared to a mega site like Ashley Madison, is extremely extremely low. It's just wouldn't be worth the hackers effort for the small amount of data they could possibly get.

I can't speak for everyone, but I use encrypted email and file storage for my admin, I think this is pretty common as I learnt to do that from the advice of other providers. Some clients will find it easier to text me screening details, and when they do I delete them from my device once I've finished with my process, and anything I think I need to keep is safely stored in my encrypted drive.
I can see and respect both perspectives as well on this issue. To answer your question I don't think ANY new client can give assurances to an SP that they won't do something to harm her. It's an inherent risk that comes with seeing someone new and unfortunately it's part of the job. I do fully accept that the sp's safety comes first before anything else. On the other hand I would say that just because a client provides screening info it doesn't mean they won't harm an SP. If a guy has the intention of harming an SP they are going to do it regardless of what info they provide to her. Sure the sp can out him and expose him for his wrongdoings which she totally should but at the end of the day the damage has already been done if that makes sense? From a gents perspective I can understand and do agree that screening info being requested is intrusive especially for those that have SO's and are worried about being exposed. I have always thought that anonymity, discretion, secrecy, and safety have been the foundations of this hobby from the very beginning and some of these have eroded over time. I have been seeing sp's long enough to remember a time where there was more trust between client and sp and things were just a little more safe, anonymous, and discreet i guess? A time when the majority of sp's didn't request any kind of screening info and literally just used there natural instincts to figure out if a client would be "safe" or not. I am happy to hear that some sp's use encrypted email and some sort of file storage system where client info is somewhat protected and discarded promptly.
 

Josephine Grey

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Thanks for starting this interesting thread-
As a newbie in indulging into this “hobby”, I noticed that bare back oral (both bbbj and daty) is very sought after. Now, I am so nervous about STIs I would only chose CBJ and daty using Lorals ( look it up if you don’t know it).
As a provider, would you enjoy providing CBJ more and receiving using a product like Lorals or bb is always better for enjoyment? Would you be able to make covered as enjoyable to a client as a BBBj?
I will do whatever it takes to make my client comfortable. I do have flavored dental dam, female condom and non lubricated condom for bj. BUT the line is thin between being safe and projecting your stress on your provider. If you really try to be safe go see an all safe provider (no fluid exchange at all) or masturbate home.
 

Fred french

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Here is my question
I'm a man that is looking to book
I email them questions not on their site
I'm trying to understand if what I request they can fulfill
And I get ignored and I feel not treated fairly and honestly
I'm not looking just to chat but seriously book them
 

LC18

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Here is my question
I'm a man that is looking to book
I email them questions not on their site
I'm trying to understand if what I request they can fulfill
And I get ignored and I feel not treated fairly and honestly
I'm not looking just to chat but seriously book them

I'm a man that is looking to book
I email them questions not on their site
I'm trying to understand if what I request they can fulfill
And I get ignored and I feel not treated fairly and honestly

I'm not looking just to chat but seriously book them
Are you trying to book an independent companion? Because if so, I would strongly recommend that you read my thread on “booking an indy”. If after that you still have questions, please do not hesitate to send me a direct message.
 
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Josephine Grey

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Here is my question
I'm a man that is looking to book
I email them questions not on their site
I'm trying to understand if what I request they can fulfill
And I get ignored and I feel not treated fairly and honestly
I'm not looking just to chat but seriously book them
You ask for an outfit request that is essential for you in order to book and you wont buy it if we dont have it.

For most provider you are not interested in spending time with them but more or so with your outfit.

I would take their silence as a no and move on.
 

Fred french

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You ask for an outfit request that is essential for you in order to book and you wont buy it if we dont have it.

For most provider you are not interested in spending time with them but more or so with your outfit.

I would take their silence as a no and move on.
Actually it wasnt about an outfit
I was responding to her plea for financial help after she was left almost homeless by an ex
I just think it's rude to not respond at all to someone serious
 

star003

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what is something on ur wishlist about ur profession, romance, dating, sex life that is not fulfilled yet?
 
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Uncharted

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A hypothetical scenario.

Somehow you have managed to do the Cobra Commander "Citizens of the World" thing where you take over all TVs all over the world for like 5 minutes.

What would you most want to say to the world about Sex Workers and this industry?
 

harryass

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Thanks to the ladies who have participated in this post. Thoughtful, honest and insightful info from a providers personal POV.

I dont think this applies the the ladies who has responded to this post already but why do some ladies advertise showing their face?
 
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Josephine Grey

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Thanks to the ladies who have participated in this post. Thoughtful, honest and insightful info from a providers personal POV.

I dont think this applies the the ladies who has responded to this post already but why do some ladies advertise showing their face?
It's a choice. Some rather be more private and others don't I guess. Marketing also.
 
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LoveFord

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It's a choice. Some rather be more private and others don't I guess. Marketing also.
But every choice leads to its consequences. There is a deep down social stigma to your profession. As you fully reveal you face, how do you deal with your family? I mean not your own family, I mean your dad and mom and your siblings. Have you ever worried about how they look on you?
 

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A travel date. I would love one, one day. I dont advertize them because I couldn't do it with a stranger BUT with the right person...
I’ve never met you, but I’d bet you’d be a great travel companion. But the lucky guy better be in good health from a cardiac point of view, just saying. 😊
 
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LC18

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what is something on ur wishlist about ur profession, romance, dating, sex life that is not fulfilled yet?
what is something on ur wishlist about ur profession, romance, dating, sex life that is not fulfilled yet?
I think I’ve fulfilled most of my goals:

• I have a good reputation (I think)
• raised my rates to a comfortable point
• 60 mins booking are rare
• I’m busy but not overbooked
• I have good regular clients



On a materialistic aspect, I’d like to be gifted jewelry (that we pick together). I’m ok if it never happens.
 

Josephine Grey

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But every choice leads to its consequences. There is a deep down social stigma to your profession. As you fully reveal you face, how do you deal with your family? I mean not your own family, I mean your dad and mom and your siblings. Have you ever worried about how they look on you?
They know what I do. I mean I am stable financially, I have no substance abuse problem, nobody put a gun in my head to do that (I started at 28yrs). I have no apparent signs of trauma other than a light aprehension in front of an unknown foreskin and a ptsd in airport. I mean what do you want them to say? Its my life.
 
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