For those who haven't seen the Seinfeld take:
that's how I'd like to experience 1 some dayHad one once that developed after long friendship. We both wanted to try out various kinks and it was great while it lasted....still friends.
you do everything you can and most of it fits into an envelopeFriend with benefits is a two way street, it works best when you will do everything you can to better their lives and they will do the same for you.
That's how my current one started. We've been friends for ages and knew we were attracted to each other, but neither of us was going to fuck up our primary relationships over that.that's how I'd like to experience 1 some day
Boom
Yup, pretty much. If she shows annoyance or agression, it means it was never a pure FWB from start to end, and then you will know feelings are involved. This gives you the choice to stay or leave. Ehhhhhum, unless you really like her, leave for an actual FWBHow do you get out? Just say you want to stop and she says "Cool"
The vids answer your concernsI think she misses a key point
The emotions involved such as:
Rejection because of bad sex performance where a committed relationship
would work through such issues
What happens when only one party falls in love?
Only one party gets bored with other person's body and wants to stop FWB relationship?
All kinds of issues
Has anyone had one? How did it work out? I think it would have to be two special people for it to be a
successful relationship
Had a friend whose on/off fwb at uni was getting married within her religious/ethnic group...a group of which he was not. She called him 2 days before the relatives were flying in from overseas asking to pop over. Shows up at his flat wearing a long coat. Whips it off she's totally nude underneath except her boots. Says "you got 24 hours". Bang, pow, zoom, oomph...then after a rollicking 24 hours it was over. She marries and stays true to hubby, as best as he can estimate.Years ago I worked in a retail environment and a good friend who wouldn't date me because she only dated people of the same faith. One night she asked for a ride home and I said yes but ask for gas money as she lived a little far--- she said how about a BJ instead.... This lead to a 20 year FWB relationship where we would meet a couple times a year until she told me she was feeling guilty about cheating on her husband for so many years. There were things she ask me to do that her husband would never do. They are still together and we sill chat but have never met up for FWB again
When FWB ends so may friendship so is it worth that risk?The vids answer your concerns
Communication is the key before it even starts
Some of the topics may be:
the first thing you need to communicate is the idea that communication is vital to FWB working
your getting bored is a concern and she has to accept that possibility or the FWB idea is off the table
BTW that is a two way street
all topics are open to discussion such as sex desires , kinks, threesomes etc
your/ her are allowed constructive criticism of your /hers performance and sex skills as no one is a mind reader
such criticism would be educational so request tt
who picks up any expenses
emotions and feelings must be tabled and if one party is falling in love then that needs to be addressed
and may mean it is over, after all, FWB can end any time because
anyone can stop the arrangement at any time and/or limit encounters
Any other ideas of what should be discussed with a FWB?