Ever had a friend with benefits?
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Of course I like my friends but if it’s a friend I’m fucking I keep it as casual as possible if I’m not interested in a relationship. A fwb IS a booty call. You can be friends with your booty call. You have to understand that friends are normally platonic, if you’re having sex with them it’s no longer a platonic friendship.
We would go over each other’s houses, watch some movies, share some drinks, talk and then fuck each other’s brains out. And then we talk and enjoy each other’s company some more before round 2 and 3. We don’t just fuck and leave, we actually hung out. Because I don’t want to send or receive mixed signals, I do NOT go on dates, hold hands or kiss in public or do anything extra special with them that I would do with a boyfriend or even a platonic friend. We have sex, we hang out, have more sex and then have conversations etc. Doing things that feel like dating with someone you’re only having sex with can and will complicate things. Always best to keep it as simple as possible when fucking your friends.
but hey I guess that’s why fwb IS complicated, period. Sometimes catching feelings is unavoidable. Especially if the sex is amazing.
And this is how you keep a fwb without complications. This is why I was able to have a fwb for 4 years. No extra stuff. Just sex and conversation. Doing the dating thing with them is a guaranteed ticket to complicationville.
I’m still friends with that same fwb to this day. We just no longer have sex and we’re still super cool with each other. Even if we can’t have a conversation without picturing each other naked lol
One good thing about FWB it does get the sex thing out of the wy so you can be friends
I think we just fundamentally disagree here.
A friendship is a relationship.
It just isn't a romantic one.
A booty call is primarily about the sex. That's the point of going over and the driver of the relationship.
You can be friendly with a booty call. A friendship is different.
Maybe we have a very different idea about what constitutes "going on dates".
Are you saying once you fuck them you never hang out in public again?
Because I go on movie dates with my friends all the time, whether or not I'm fucking them.
I think we just have very different language about this.
I think if the parties at hand can just keep it sex and that’s it nothing wrong with that sometimes your partner isn’t into same fantasies or does have the same sex drive as you. In my mind sex is just sex if your not expecting commitments and that’s spoken of up front.
No, no, nothing to be jealous about, for me at least. I am just saying that it's more a rare myth rather than usual thing in real life.
Not meant to be...... FWB are rare, but craved by many. Would love to have had one or be involved in 1. Kinda like because I've never had 1 & always wanting it. Or the GND type you have in real life that loves to sun bath in skimpy bikini or topless, etc. & catches you looking, then invites you over or comes over. Dreams to happen from time to time.
Dreams are what makes life tolerable.
I wonder where people are still finding FWB? You can PM me if you want.
Yea I definitely disagree here. It seems the girl that fell for you also disagrees. In my opinion this is why fwb situations don’t normally work out in the end and why it either ends up turning into a serious relationship OR the destruction of the friendship. When you try to do regular friend things outside the bedroom it feels more like dating because sex is involved. It builds intimacy and connection. Sure you go to the movies with your other friends but you’re not fucking them so you’re not in danger of building a closer bond with them. There is no denying that when having sex there is an exchange of energy. When you’re passionately entering her body and looking into her eyes, her heart beats faster and that connection grows stronger especially if you’re someone she already cares about on some level. Even worse if your dick game is crazy and you’re making her squirt that girl is going to fall hard because you’re hitting a part of her pussy that she LOVES and in turn that is going to make her love you. When a man can make a woman squirt she is HOOKED and she’ll want you all to herself. A lot of people get emotionally confused by this and one person almost always ends up falling for the other and in some cases even both fall for each other. Your friend falling for you is clear evidence of that. But hey nothing wrong with disagreeing. Thats what makes the world more interesting.
SPs are literally the closest thing to a fwb that you can find. Especially if you see the same girl(s) regularly. There are gents that have been visiting me for years and stuck by me through every rate increase. I’ve gotten to know them so well that we certainly have developed some sort of friendship. We text once in a while just to see how we’re doing too. And when in a session sometimes I give them a little bit of extra time just so we can talk some more and share some jokes and laugh. This may be a “transaction” but at the end of the day we are all still humans who feel something. I like to view them as friends that support my business now.
This is just a clearly different language issue.
Those people you're fucking aren't your friends in my world.
They are people you're friendly with.
But that's just the problem that the word "friend" is really broad and means different things to different people.
You keep bringing up "the one that fell for me" but I haven't mentioned anything like that in the thread.
