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GGGDickson

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Ok this has morphed into a completely different thread. For what it is worth I will reach out to providers I like and introduce myself and my interest in a date.

My name is Greg Dickson. I am 59 years old and I have never been married. I live in Europe but travel to North America often. I gave up on the dating game years ago and I enjoy my time with my providers. I am 6'3" tall 220 lbs. I shave my head and I own a number of companies and travel a great deal. I am on the road almost all the time. I do have a place in Helsinki and one in Berlin and one in Granada.

I am big into role plays. I like older providers ladies in their late 40's. I like ladies I can dress up and take them places and see things they never thought possible. I do have references. I have a number of ladies who are on my waiting list to play roles for me like my wife, my girlfriend, Stewardess, etc... I have lots of experiences to give you examples of events I put on. I enclosed a couple of examples. I am always looking to find new ladies. Not sure if these kind of adventures are what you had in mind.

I liked your look and I should tell you I like either dinner dates, overnights, or travel dates. I am not into one or two hour dates.

Care to join me for an adventure? Tell me what you are like or what fantasy or dreams you might like. I could share a few of my adventures with other providers and if you like it we could book a meet and greet. I will pay you your normal hour fee for us to meet in a lounge of my hotel. We can determine over a drink if we could be a good match.

Then I will book a future dinner date to explore further.

Greg Dickson


I normally do it in advance as I travel a lot and I know if I have a free night. I book for a meet and greet. Unless I have a specific role and in that case I will describe the role. to see if they have an interest.

So ladies will respond others do not. Recently I have had my providers who's fantasy we will play out to reach out to other providers to book them. Even then providers will not respond. A number of my past providers will reach out to me to introduce me to other providers who are getting into the game. I had a few agencies who would call me to tell me they had new ladies that I just had to meet. This has reduced my failure rates. They know what I like so it has worked out well.

I like the meet and greet as it is done in a public place so she can be safe and I am safe. We are both very respectful and some result in dinner dates and a few over nights. Then there are some that just die a very quick death. I have even done a few speed dates booking multiple ladies every hour and a half to find the right lady as in the case of Helene years ago in Toronto.

We just need to treat each other with a little kindness and respect and it works out. I don't think it is that difficult. Just know each person is different. Not sure that helps.
 
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uchual

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I have always been concise and to the point when contacting SPs for inquiries. Not rude, but sparse with words. About 70% of them respond politely. The rest...well, they get flagged or blacklisted. Simple.
 

kstanb

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2 cents:

1) Read her website before contacting her,
2) write a brief, to the point, introductory email with your request. Be careful to avoid asking for services or interests she has clearly stated she won't partake (refer to step1), be careful to include all what she is asking (refer to step1)
3) avoid long essays/ play by play scenarios, avoid sending her many back and forth emails
4) if she is still rude in her reply, then move over to another provider
 

explorerzip

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What's with these new members that start threads and you don't hear from them again?

We have to remember that people can be easily be misunderstood in text. If someone seems rude in text then just ask for clarification before assuming the worst.
 
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Thank you! Perfect intro text. I also suppose that if you read the website you won't ask for details and go straight to the point. You will get the sex of your life.

Mental foreplays are as important as the physical ones. How you treat someone, your tone and manner ect. Is so important for us. We need to feel safe. If we do, we are more willing to go above and beyond for you.
Thank you! Perfect intro text. I also suppose that if you read the website you won't ask for details and go straight to the point. You will get the sex of your life.

Mental foreplays are as important as the physical ones. How you treat someone, your tone and manner ect. Is so important for us. We need to feel safe. If we do, we are more willing to go above and beyond for you.
For sure. Asking about rates/ services assumes that info is not in website or ad.

Agree about the mental foreplay as well.Need to remember that SPs are first women, then SPs. Treat with respect as you would any other woman in the rest of your life, and it will pay off and you will likely have a great relaxed time, with no stress. Remember this is their job tho and don’t waste time, or try to flirt overly or make them your girlfriend! Treat them like an object, or commodity or less than human, you will get a negative response, and even if you are able book an appointment with them, it will start on the wrong foot, with stress and tension, which is not good for either party.
 

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Ok this has morphed into a completely different thread. For what it is worth I will reach out to providers I like and introduce myself and my interest in a date.

My name is Greg Dickson. I am 59 years old and I have never been married. I live in Europe but travel to North America often. I gave up on the dating game years ago and I enjoy my time with my providers. I am 6'3" tall 220 lbs. I shave my head and I own a number of companies and travel a great deal. I am on the road almost all the time. I do have a place in Helsinki and one in Berlin and one in Granada.

I am big into role plays. I like older providers ladies in their late 40's. I like ladies I can dress up and take them places and see things they never thought possible. I do have references. I have a number of ladies who are on my waiting list to play roles for me like my wife, my girlfriend, Stewardess, etc... I have lots of experiences to give you examples of events I put on. I enclosed a couple of examples. I am always looking to find new ladies. Not sure if these kind of adventures are what you had in mind.

I liked your look and I should tell you I like either dinner dates, overnights, or travel dates. I am not into one or two hour dates.

Care to join me for an adventure? Tell me what you are like or what fantasy or dreams you might like. I could share a few of my adventures with other providers and if you like it we could book a meet and greet. I will pay you your normal hour fee for us to meet in a lounge of my hotel. We can determine over a drink if we could be a good match.

Then I will book a future dinner date to explore further.

Greg Dickson


I normally do it in advance as I travel a lot and I know if I have a free night. I book for a meet and greet. Unless I have a specific role and in that case I will describe the role. to see if they have an interest.

So ladies will respond others do not. Recently I have had my providers who's fantasy we will play out to reach out to other providers to book them. Even then providers will not respond. A number of my past providers will reach out to me to introduce me to other providers who are getting into the game. I had a few agencies who would call me to tell me they had new ladies that I just had to meet. This has reduced my failure rates. They know what I like so it has worked out well.

I like the meet and greet as it is done in a public place so she can be safe and I am safe. We are both very respectful and some result in dinner dates and a few over nights. Then there are some that just die a very quick death. I have even done a few speed dates booking multiple ladies every hour and a half to find the right lady as in the case of Helene years ago in Toronto.

We just need to treat each other with a little kindness and respect and it works out. I don't think it is that difficult. Just know each person is different. Not sure that helps.
Now see, this is personally too much for me. I am not being rude at all, and I apprecaite that for the type of dates you are looking for this may be a good intro for ladies that will spend time with you, but personally I don’t need to know that you have a shaved head and own properties and travel. This, to me, is all stuff that can be discussed and learned during our dates, but for a first time email, it is personally too much for me.

I do agree with stating your expectations of role play and much longer then “normal” dates, and I do like the offer of an hour meet and greet because for this type of arrangement to work, meeting prior would be required. If that line was not in there, I would automactically decline your request. Understanding that seemingly small but actuyally huge componet of this type of companionship shows that you do truly know what you are doing in search and not some random guy with far out expectations he came up with one night while piss drunk, watching porn and falling asleep with his dick in hand. Pardon the graphic visual there, but you get my point I think. LOL
 

NotADcotor

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I try not to ask questions but sadly no ads answer the important questions like.

"What is the minimum number of dimensionless physical constants from which all other dimensionless physical constants can be derived? Are dimensional physical constants necessary at all?"

I mean come on be reasonable here.
 

Josephine Grey

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I try not to ask questions but sadly no ads answer the important questions like.

"What is the minimum number of dimensionless physical constants from which all other dimensionless physical constants can be derived? Are dimensional physical constants necessary at all?"

I mean come on be reasonable here.
At least you don't ask for a complete reenactment of Caligula with full script, costume and videos!
 

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I try not to ask questions but sadly no ads answer the important questions like.
"What is the minimum number of dimensionless physical constants from which all other dimensionless physical constants can be derived? Are dimensional physical constants necessary at all?"
I mean come on be reasonable here.
Or "what is the air-speed velocity of an unladen swallow?"

Which come to think of it might be relevant information!!
 
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Jasmina

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I understand the difference and I stick to my point and wording. If one dude sends, "Hey I'd like to see you" and another dude says, "Hey I'd like to see you" there is no physical or nuanced difference between the two, yet, there were times I KNEW it was going to be trouble for no explicable reason. And I was not wrong.

You weren't born with that ability; it was acquired through experience. You needed to learn what a predator is before you could be wary of them. Animals with that instinct, like a squirrel, are born with that ability. A dog doesn't have that instinct; little puppies want to be friends with everyone. Little kids that grow up in a loving home have to be taught to not immediately trust an adult whom they don't know. You know the red flags in a text or phone conversation because most predatory people have a similar modus operandi.

Many women, (and feminine men), interpret language based on keywords, tone of voice, or body language in face to face conversations, or the other person's emotional reaction to a verbal stimulus. Masculine man to masculine man conversations tend to be exchanges of information where the content of what's spoken is much more important than the presentation. Knowledge is power, so a masculine man will listen to another, if the other is sharing useful information. He'll tune out the other guy if he doesn't know anything of value, or just wants to share his emotional state. Guys really don't care how other guys whom they don't know are feeling, but they'll prick up their ears if a stranger tells them how to unclasp a bra with one hand, provided that they didn't already know.
 

onomatopoeia

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Here's somebody with no predatory intuition, booking appointments on her personal Facebook page.


Ashley.jpg

You are joking right ?

This cannot be serious, do people not care about personally safety for both parties
That's a real picture from thedirty dot com, around December, 2016, (see logo at lower right). I was somewhat of a legend writing gossip in the comments section for six weeks, when Nik Ritchie still ran the site. I even wrote a few front page stories, about people I've never met.

They don't have comments on thedirty anymore, and the site was kicked off disqus shortly after my stint. Most but not all of the old comments have been removed, but I have screen captures of some of my better material. I'll post some eventually in the Jokes of the Day thread.
 
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onomatopoeia

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I understand the difference and I stick to my point and wording. If one dude sends, "Hey I'd like to see you" and another dude says, "Hey I'd like to see you" there is no physical or nuanced difference between the two, yet, there were times I KNEW it was going to be trouble for no explicable reason. And I was not wrong.
You learned that through experience, hence not an instinct. What you described in this post is called a hunch.
 

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You learned that through experience, hence not an instinct. What you described in this post is called a hunch.
Who cares what it is called.

It is “something” that some escorts have to be able to avoid bad dates. Period.
 

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A rude response comes from a perceived rude inquiry. I've said this before, the receiver is the perceiver. No matter what the intent is, if you're perceived as rude you're done.
Look at it this way- what do you want the outcome of your inquiry to be? If you want to spend time with someone, your communication needs to be polite and tailored to the style and format she wishes to be spoken to. Easy peasy! I've turned down dates for various reasons but never had a situation where I've been declined at the initial contact. There's a difference between "Hi, I'd like to fuck you for half an hour" and "Hi XXXX, my name is XXXX. I'm a fan of a torrid 30 minute tryst and wondering if that's something you'd be interested in?"
So, why reply at all? Just because you want to argue and get involved in fruitless conversation with a person whom you do not like and do not want to see?
 
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GGGDickson

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Now see, this is personally too much for me. I am not being rude at all, and I apprecaite that for the type of dates you are looking for this may be a good intro for ladies that will spend time with you, but personally I don’t need to know that you have a shaved head and own properties and travel. This, to me, is all stuff that can be discussed and learned during our dates, but for a first time email, it is personally too much for me.

I do agree with stating your expectations of role play and much longer then “normal” dates, and I do like the offer of an hour meet and greet because for this type of arrangement to work, meeting prior would be required. If that line was not in there, I would automactically decline your request. Understanding that seemingly small but actuyally huge componet of this type of companionship shows that you do truly know what you are doing in search and not some random guy with far out expectations he came up with one night while piss drunk, watching porn and falling asleep with his dick in hand. Pardon the graphic visual there, but you get my point I think. LOL
Thank you for your response. Some providers do not need the details and other like to know what they are walking into. I had been told by others that they like to know a little about me and where I am from. Some want more like what I do for a living and what I am into. I guess to give me what I want. I was told after reading it they will decide to respond or not.

I will give the lady a few days to respond. If I do not hear back I will move on to the next lady. I might send one more email but after the second I am done and move on. I am not a stalker. I have had a few who refuse to see me based on my reputation. One was pissed for what I do to providers. She claims I try to change them into what I want. Some do not do longer dates or role plays. To each his own. I just know what I want out of my providers and either they are in or they are out.
 

GGGDickson

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Just to put it in perspective I have had some shit shows show up at my door. One high on something, one dunker than a shrunk. I have had girls who are mentally unstable and those in need for financial and relationship counseling. I have my own problems and am not paying for more. So it goes both ways. I feel bad for them but life goes on. Sorry for being so rude.
 
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