What’s with all the attitude by SP’s

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My thoughts on this there has been times where I may have replied rudely to people in my DMs.

Lots of guys here ask me for nudes and lots of guys ask me stupid questions like my personal IG, personal number and some generally waste my time.

I think the SPS here get so much dms of the exact same thing that's why some may come off rude.
 

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Question for you. Should I pay providers for their time when I book them into the spa for the day before our 'date'? Just a question?
Again, that is a part of your “booking”, is it not? Or how you do your bookings anyway? I’m sure you throughly enjoy flaunting these and other things/gifts so maybe escorts don’t add their time in when you make these arrangements but I would think that each companion would/should quote a rate that encompasses all that time because it is all a part of it. A day in the spa is nice but that is a whole day of income she could be losing for your joy of treating a spa day because again, that is what fuels your ego.

Or at least that is how I would take it but I don’t do your kind of appointments so I can’t say for sure. I’m not easily swayed by throwing money around or buying over the top gifts. I like just being a regular companion and your expectations are just far beyond that so again, maybe because your type of sought services are not attractive to me that I have a bias opinion. It just seems very centred around hugely stroking your ego which is just not game I play in my type of companionship. Not saying that is wrong, find what you want but it is not for me so if I was in a date where it was so high maintenance like this, I would charge for every minute. That’s me personally. Which is why I refuse these types of appointments in general.

But if you are trying to make this “360” thing you have talked about, add it into your over-all experience sought and then you will get it without feeling like you have had to pay extra for it.

General rule of thumb, outside of the agreed payment and services, extra payment is required for extra time and service put in. That is just what I know for any business. My mainstream business included. I don’t charge clients for each chart, paper or PowerPoint presentation for quotes, but the consultation fee covered that preparation. There are even out of scope pricing schemes that are presented to clients at the consultation because I am so use to clients “adding-on”. Your requested erotic “review” of you and your “session” is like an add-on. Hence why I personally think extra should be paid and may explain why some providers simply won’t do it.
 
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My thoughts on this there has been times where I may have replied rudely to people in my DMs.

Lots of guys here ask me for nudes and lots of guys ask me stupid questions like my personal IG, personal number and some generally waste my time.

I think the SPS here get so much dms of the exact same thing that's why some may come off rude.
I think most genuine clients would completely know the difference on how to engage with a sp via dm

Also i am sure those who have gotten a rude response before learned the reason why and hopefully dont do it again

Tbh those who ask for personal anything can just be blocked
 

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I think most genuine clients would completely know the difference on how to engage with a sp via dm

Also i am sure those who have gotten a rude response before learned the reason why and hopefully dont do it again

Tbh those who ask for personal anything can just be blocked
I’m big on the block game. This is after I offer my texting package of course. Once that is offered, they usually leave my DMs on their own. LOL
 
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I’m big on the block game. This is after I offer my texting package of course. Once that is offered, they usually leave my DMs on their own. LOL
I was never one for blocking before but have started to use it as of lately
Atleast your dms are somewhat quieter now
😂😂😂
 

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My thoughts on this there has been times where I may have replied rudely to people in my DMs.

Lots of guys here ask me for nudes and lots of guys ask me stupid questions like my personal IG, personal number and some generally waste my time.

I think the SPS here get so much dms of the exact same thing that's why some may come off rude.
I wonder if this is an advertising thing and even an agency girl thing. Or a non-advertising thing I should clarify

Since you are not an advertiser but are posting a lot in the lounge and drawing attention to yourself, guys are making contact randomly because there is no direction for info and contact.

Add to that, they then think some of the rules and etiquette should go out the window because there is no advertising personally.

I mean I get that you work for an agency if I’m recalling correctly, so I assume there is also that thing where guys try to get the agency girl off the agency time and get to you more personally.

None of this is an excuse but I can see those two things being reasons why some guys think they can act the way they have.
 

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Again, that is a part of your “booking”, is it not? Or how you do your bookings anyway? I’m sure you throughly enjoy flaunting these and other things/gifts so maybe escorts don’t add their time in when you make these arrangements but I would think that each companion would/should quote a rate that encompasses all that time because it is all a part of it. A day in the spa is nice but that is a whole day of income she could be losing for your joy of treating a spa day because again, that is what fuels your ego.

Or at least that is how I would take it but I don’t do your kind of appointments so I can’t say for sure. I’m not easily swayed by throwing money around or buying over the top gifts. I like just being a regular companion and your expectations are just far beyond that so again, maybe because your type of sought services are not attractive to me that I have a bias opinion. It just seems very centred around hugely stroking your ego which is just not game I play in my type of companionship. Not saying that is wrong, find what you want but it is not for me so if I was in a date where it was so high maintenance like this, I would charge for every minute. That’s me personally. Which is why I refuse these types of appointments in general.

But if you are trying to make this “360” thing you have talked about, add it into your over-all experience sought and then you will get it without feeling like you have had to pay extra for it.

General rule of thumb, outside of the agreed payment and services, extra payment is required for extra time and service put in. That is just what I know for any business. My mainstream business included. I don’t charge clients for each chart, paper or PowerPoint presentation for quotes, but the consultation fee covered that preparation. There are even out of scope pricing schemes that are presented to clients at the consultation because I am so use to clients “adding-on”. Your requested erotic “review” of you and your “session” is like an add-on. Hence why I personally think extra should be paid and may explain why some providers simply won’t do it.
Yes you are correct it is part of the booking or negotiation before the event. I do enjoy the discussion of the provider sharing her fantasy adventure before hand. Together we work out her fantasy date. Then we agree on the rate for our encounter.

You are correct about her fee encompasses her lost revenue. That is why I do not agree to see ladies for free. A number have suggested that I do not have to pay to take her to her bucket list city. Yet I feel even if I am going to put on such an event with them that they need to be compensated. We do agree on a fee that I pay them. I do not want any complications later on. It is a pay as we go.

Now I do not normally see high volume ladies. However, I have enjoyed a few who see 5 or 6 clients a day. Each client for an hour with half hour between to change sheets and clean up. So she would make about $2000 a day. Now that is a lot of work cleaning the bed, bathroom any glasses or condoms that need to be discarded washing up and then doing laundry towels, sheets, changing clothes. Or she might see me and make the same $2000 that includes going shopping for new clothes, having lunch or dinner, going to the spa or to an event. Yea she has to put up with my ego and smiling. But then again fucking multiple guys can be draining as well.

However, you are correct different stokes for different folks. Each provider is unique like each client. I am a different animal who normally sees older more mature ladies who are low volume. They are less about the sex and more about emotion. Both have their place and cater to unique clients. In my early years I was more about the hour or two hour dates fast fuck and move on. As I got older I now enjoyed the 'relationship illusionist' or 'romantic magicians' types. I want my providers to say 'Wow best date ever.' I want to feel special and in order to do that I need to make them feel special.

You are correct there is a lot of "add-ons" with me. I like to pay for the full meal deal vs ordering la cart. I agree neither is right or wrong it just is. I think we can agree that is why I do not book ladies like you. I am not your kind of client nor are you my kind of provider. The beauty of this business is there are different kinds of providers and different kind of clients. Thank you for your insight.
 

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Yes you are correct it is part of the booking or negotiation before the event. I do enjoy the discussion of the provider sharing her fantasy adventure before hand. Together we work out her fantasy date. Then we agree on the rate for our encounter.

You are correct about her fee encompasses her lost revenue. That is why I do not agree to see ladies for free. A number have suggested that I do not have to pay to take her to her bucket list city. Yet I feel even if I am going to put on such an event with them that they need to be compensated. We do agree on a fee that I pay them. I do not want any complications later on. It is a pay as we go.

Now I do not normally see high volume ladies. However, I have enjoyed a few who see 5 or 6 clients a day. Each client for an hour with half hour between to change sheets and clean up. So she would make about $2000 a day. Now that is a lot of work cleaning the bed, bathroom any glasses or condoms that need to be discarded washing up and then doing laundry towels, sheets, changing clothes. Or she might see me and make the same $2000 that includes going shopping for new clothes, having lunch or dinner, going to the spa or to an event. Yea she has to put up with my ego and smiling. But then again fucking multiple guys can be draining as well.

However, you are correct different stokes for different folks. Each provider is unique like each client. I am a different animal who normally sees older more mature ladies who are low volume. They are less about the sex and more about emotion. Both have their place and cater to unique clients. In my early years I was more about the hour or two hour dates fast fuck and move on. As I got older I now enjoyed the 'relationship illusionist' or 'romantic magicians' types. I want my providers to say 'Wow best date ever.' I want to feel special and in order to do that I need to make them feel special.

You are correct there is a lot of "add-ons" with me. I like to pay for the full meal deal vs ordering la cart. I agree neither is right or wrong it just is. I think we can agree that is why I do not book ladies like you. I am not your kind of client nor are you my kind of provider. The beauty of this business is there are different kinds of providers and different kind of clients. Thank you for your insight.
I’m glad that we agree on a lot of things and that you recognize that time = money. A nice spa day is great but I wouldn’t take off work (my day job) for a day at the spa. I can do that on my own. I make enough money and would do that when I didn’t need to work. However paying for the day on top as well as lost revenue is the proper way to go. Now I get you only thought escort income and I should have clarified. Some in day jobs will make less then your quote but in my day job, I can easily make more then $2K in the day and that could be repeated income for the future as well so again for me, a day at the spa might not be the right thing because I could lose out on some serious current and future income. So it all depends on the companion.

I agree that a day stroking one ego can be work but a regular shift at as a busy escort could be daunting as well. However don’t let volume fool you. I say this with upmost respect, your ego needs are huge and your time allotment is long. That can be very emotionally taxing. Some escorts, myself included would find that much more draining then physically popping a few guys off. This is the exact reason I wouldn’t do the date. The emotional drainage would be too much. That would also have to do with what I deal with in my “real” life as well. I find my time with my clients to be relaxing and I don’t have to force smiles. It is a natural flow. I just know there is no way that could be done with you and the fact that your egos needs are tied to her happiness, it would be wrong for any provider you see to just be “putting on a smile”. It defeats your goals and your service requirements really. Authenticity is a huge part of what strokes your ego. I assume anyways.

One thing I find funny is on paper, I am your type of escort. I think I recall you saying so once in a thread. I’m low volume, mature and I like to build relationships. Based on that, you would think we are a match but we couldn’t be furthest from it. LOL.

Anyway, I have highjacked this thread enough. I wish you all the best in your future events.
 

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One thing that bothers me are Ads without important information. I don't want to have to call someone and bombard them with questions and come across as some sort of time waster who just wants to hear a girl talk but...
An ad without prices [not on terb but it does happen]
An Ad which talks about normal and VIP pricing without really explaining the difference or explaining it well.

I'm hesitant to call because I don't want to get my head ripped off asking questions that perhaps are answered in another ad somewhere I don't have access to or considering the girl can't write an ad have my head ripped off by someone who is just unreasonable.
 

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One thing that bothers me are Ads without important information. I don't want to have to call someone and bombard them with questions and come across as some sort of time waster who just wants to hear a girl talk but...
An ad without prices [not on terb but it does happen]
An Ad which talks about normal and VIP pricing without really explaining the difference or explaining it well.

I'm hesitant to call because I don't want to get my head ripped off asking questions that perhaps are answered in another ad somewhere I don't have access to or considering the girl can't write an ad have my head ripped off by someone who is just unreasonable.
I hear you! I am looking for a lady to reduce my stress not increase it. I have enough drama in my life I do not need her issues as well. I have enough people who think I am an ass and a bastard not sure I want to pay a lady to attack me. I am not into that shit. I want harmony and romance for the time we are together. I do not mind paying but I do not want to pay her to treat me like a human ATM.
 

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One thing that bothers me are Ads without important information. I don't want to have to call someone and bombard them with questions and come across as some sort of time waster who just wants to hear a girl talk but...
An ad without prices [not on terb but it does happen]
An Ad which talks about normal and VIP pricing without really explaining the difference or explaining it well.

I'm hesitant to call because I don't want to get my head ripped off asking questions that perhaps are answered in another ad somewhere I don't have access to or considering the girl can't write an ad have my head ripped off by someone who is just unreasonable.
If the infos or the place to find the infos are not there, there are no reason for you to inquire about it and receive a rude answer. Also make sure you check that she is not text only, a call would be problematic in that case. ❤
 

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I think most genuine clients would completely know the difference on how to engage with a sp via dm

Also i am sure those who have gotten a rude response before learned the reason why and hopefully dont do it again

Tbh those who ask for personal anything can just be blocked
So we see it the same way finally. You don't answer every Hi guys.
 

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What I really do not understand is what SPs want to achieve by rude response regardless of what kind of communication they received. If they potentially want to see that person as a client, rude response will more likely turn him away and they will lose a client. If they do not wan to see him, why they respond at all (or say something other then "sorry, I am not accepting new clients in the near future") instead of simply put him on ignore for future communication. The only reason for SP to give a rude response is to show her frustration and, possibly, get involved into future rude communication with the same person. IMHO, it shows lack of professionalism and it is irrational. And, given that this hobby involves trust that neither both party will do crazy things, it would be wise to avoid SPs that behaves irrationally. Which, naturally, leads to a conclusion that we should avoid SPs who are rude in their communication even if such rudeness was provoked.
More importantly, SPs need to avoid rude potential clients they never want to know. Original point: rude communicator is 100% a fellow who's likely to turn the SP full on lesbian.
 

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In my job I deal with numerous clients on a daily basis, existing and new. Since I am in a service related job, it is imperative that I remain professional at all times BUT I have had some instances where the client had said the wrong thing (swearing) or has been too pushy or doesn’t listen. My demeanour then changes and they know there is an issue. Frankly I don’t care if they escalate to management because they were wrong. If an existing good client I am more tolerant but when they are obnoxious and rude, I never accept that behaviour. And this is with people I know or have their full info! Just think of some of the things the women in the industry have to put up with guys who remain anonymous and think they can say or ask whatever they want. Just like the women in the industry I have blacklisted individuals more than a few times for their behaviour and/or business practices.
 
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