I don't get some comments here. OP has a serious issue on his hand and some comments are poking fun at his situation.
Unhappy wife 100% of the time
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MAny of us have offered excellent advice to this serious topic. We have shown concern, asked questions and provided options. THE OP certainly understands that a little levity might just help his mindset.
For you to step in here (your first and ONLY comment to the thread) , a serious topic, and add nothing, to then JUST CRITICIZE the rest of us who have been there for the OP. ..you have some nerve!!!
And as for my last post..Certainly seems like its in the ballpark...I see no one capable of beating it !!!!
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what issue? the guy lives with her for 14 years, he is either happily married or fucked in the head, in both cases he has no issue with the wife.
Sometimes joking about things or having a sense of humour about the situation makes it more bearable. People are empathizing in a way.
I would hate for an S.O. to hold out or use sex as punishment to get her way (it's okay if the guy pissed her off and ruined the mood for her). For better or for worse, never go to bed angry.
I empathize with you guys out here, and that's why I broke it off a few short years ago with an Italian gal (a good woman by most standards) who made me feel like I was walking on egg shells all the time.
Well, if you read my sentence correctly, can you please point to me where is the REAL criticism ? I am not even referring to your post. Just because it is after you, YOU seem to be very UPSET.
I didn't comment because I don't know fully OP's situation. Neither do you, nor anyone here. What he says is highly likely part of a more complicated issue. Have never been in one and therefore have nothing to say.
"And as for my last post..Certainly seems like its in the ballpark...I see no one capable of beating it !!!!" and what is your point of mentioning it ?
John..you came into a thread. Did not say anything about the OP situation. You completely ignored his plight, offering not even a word of encouragement to the poor fellow.
You rather went on the attack, and only attacked other posters, bitching out those who might make a little levity of the situation.
Lighten up lad!
You rather went on the attack, and only attacked other posters, bitching out those who might make a little levity of the situation.
Lighten up lad!
Do not blame the OP for his situation. Being in a bad or abusive relationship for a long time can destroy your confidence, self esteem, and drain you of the courage that you need to have to make the decision to split. Extreme cases can even be a form of traumatic bonding. If there are other factors, such as children, or property and financial issues, it can be much more difficult to separate.
What a long thread. As someone who has been married over 20 years and has gone through every symptom you have had I thought I would add my fifty cents.
First of all - one single cardinal rule - "Happy wife happy life!"
Second rule - "The wife is always right"
Third rule - When in doubt go back to rule one.
Lets tackle each issue professionally one by one
My wife is always angry too. Turns out its her work. Talk to your wife find out what makes her angry and address it. Its ok for her to be angry, sometimes its that time of the month. Sometimes its you. Accept it.
Dude, never tried to get your wife served. Women need love not sex. Find someone who can seduce your wife. Introduce the person as a friend. get him to take her dancing. Once he has seduced her she will throw a blind eye to you hobbying and be happier. Remember happy wife happy life. PM me for more tricks and techniques on this.
Idleness is the workshop of the devil. The worse thing in this world is a woman with nothing to do. Her mind is constantly revolving around what your doing or who you are fucking. Find her something to do - get her doing community stuff, get her pregnant, casino or just find a capable lover to seduce her. So many options. Whatever you do, do something before its too late.
Money is the root of all evil, but its also an enabler. It enhances your worse traits but gives you lots of flexibility. Your wife sounds like a princess. TREAT HER LIKE ONE. Tell her she is the most beautiful thing in the world (lie if you have too!). Remember the three cardinal rules.
Bottom line bro is that if you keep her happy she will be off your back and you could do your own stuff.
Discretely find her a part time lover to keep her occupied and handle her crap while you remain the hero.
Women need love. Men need sex or a good fuck and the occasional love.
I feel for you. In this case I am willing to make an exception and toftt. PM me!
:Eek: :Eek:!!
Getting her pregnant is not a good option. Once you have a child with someone, you are tied to them for life. Even if you divorce, you will still have to deal with her regarding Kid Issues. Forever.
Sounds like a lot of work. Personally, I would (and have) prefer(ed) a divorce.
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I agree that in some situations one should not blame oneself. Having been raped is an example.
But if you don't blame yourself for your loss of self esteem and confidence and courage, you will probably never get any and will remain ball-less for life. Which is not abnormal either, in fact it's pretty common to have no balls.
I think he meant for her to get pregnant AGAIN to keep her busy. He's already a father, so there are kids involved even if he divorces her now.
BTW, I know what he's talking about WRT idleness (some women cheat as a result), although I wouldn't recommend having another child as the best way to keep her occupied.
If women need love, then they don't need to be seduced. I think you mean that women need to be romanced. This is true.
oops, I missed the part where there are children involved. Yikes, that makes it all so much worse. Or better, since at least he will have gotten kids out of the relationship.
I'm not clear on how he's supposed to get her occupied when she won't get out of bed.
Yes of course, but challenging blackbrt's claim. BTW, I do know a married woman that needs sex, and she's also idleSome of us need sex too.
(Honestly though, and it's a long story, she's a jealous, emotional type, and needs love, but that's what her husband is for, although I can be compassionate and respectful).
I'm assuming that he already has kids lol.
Yes, it can make things worse, but perhaps he should ask what she thinks. Maybe she would welcome it?
I say find her a job or a hobby.
