I got the same issue. I have given up. If she into the wine, or starting to get snaky, I disappear. Always find chores or some etching to do. Dont get me wrong, I more than carry my share of duties around here. its not a workload issue.
I don't leave the house, just the area, but women like to argue.....if you light the fuse....she loves it.
i think I actually make her madder by not fighting....Ironically. I'm way past it bothering me.
If divorce is an option....NEVER LEAVE YOUR HOUSE until you have served her papers. I know it's hard, but try to have a third party present, or better still record your conversation on a phone. But be definite. Have your ideas, custody, support ideas all planned. Play fair.
Sometimes women do a lot of self loathing. Image issues. Low self esteem. They may hate some girlfriends whom they feel are better adjusted, richer, prettier. A whole raft of possibilities. They might hate that we as men roll with the punches soooooooo Much easier.
You often hear its money issue. Or sex. Maybe it is. My better half makes almost 200k a year....and she still ain't happy! MONEY DON'T BUY HAPPINESS!