told to change

When you are 70+ one cannot change. My dad is 76 and you can tell him something a 1000 times, and he won't change. You have to accept at that point, not tell them to change. We'd be the same way at 70. It's just how it is. IMO.
Reminds me of trying to change overspending women.
 
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Let me do a bit of parsing here. Based on the last post, she still wants you and would go diving. That's pretty cool if you're into each other.

The other issue is the "dobbie". As a long time reformed doper, now that's it legal, I find the smell of marijuana everywhere and it triggers the same reaction in me as tobacco smoke... I personally find it a disgusting odor/aroma...whatever. So I can see how others might have the same reaction. Smelly second hand smoke.

But if it's an important part of your lifestyle, identity, health benefits, etc. this might be irreconcilable.
I am wondering if they put perfume in the hash back in the day.
 
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WOW!!! just goes to show you.. I sent my friend an email telling her I would drop off next week some garments she had left at my place.. also mentioned the word US, " THERE IS NO US, NEVER WAS< I AM MOVING ON BY MYSELF. please drop my stuff off next weekend" I said ok but next weekend I am off on a dive trip for a week..Something I booked the day after NO US.. "WHAT!! she said, why didnt you tell me, I could have gone with you" 🎪🎭 Blow my mind
SO do you think she was going to pay her share of the trip? if she didn't get dump?
I know old couple that pay their shares, they don't mind their own companies when traveling.
 
Let me do a bit of parsing here. Based on the last post, she still wants you and would go diving. That's pretty cool if you're into each other.

The other issue is the "dobbie". As a long time reformed doper, now that's it legal, I find the smell of marijuana everywhere and it triggers the same reaction in me as tobacco smoke... I personally find it a disgusting odor/aroma...whatever. So I can see how others might have the same reaction. Smelly second hand smoke.

But if it's an important part of your lifestyle, identity, health benefits, etc. this might be irreconcilable.
“dobbie” can’t stop laughing. I almost feel like the original post is trolling.
agree. I used to smoke and vape and smoke marijuana. Now I can smell it and I’m that person waving it away andasking people to stop. I get shamed for this which is insane. It causes migraines and also just triggers bad memories and body responses. It’s all over people. Also if you’re always high you likely aren’t attentive to the person and the conversation and so maybe you’ve had the same fight for years but don’t recall and it’s annoying.
learn to compromise.
or build a man’s den outback somewhere with a shower and spare clothes so you can have a designated time to do that and come back inside smelling better and maybe coordinate your high time. Or plan to do it only on weekends and then once a month.
 
SO do you think she was going to pay her share of the trip? if she didn't get dump?
I know old couple that pay their shares, they don't mind their own companies when traveling.
I don’t think the money is the issue. Going on a trip diving likely would mean he wouldn’t have access to “dobbies” and thus could experience the partner she wants to be around and can tolerate emotionally and physically smell wise
 
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I don’t think the money is the issue. Going on a trip diving likely would mean he wouldn’t have access to “dobbies” and thus could experience the partner she wants to be around and can tolerate emotionally and physically smell wise
Your right, going on my trips, usually 4 times a year, I don't smoke anything. Last thing I need is trouble in another country.. I make sure before I go out I smell normal.. Your handle sez it all