...if SP's get some emotional attachment to their clients...
Sydney, either he was just saying that in the afterglow, or was indecisive or too scared later to take up your offer (not that there's anything wrong with you darling).lol I don't even drink coffee - I think it was actually ice cream and a swim or something... hehe
My general rule is to never say yes to invites to dinner/lunch/coffee/sushi etc but this time around, I told someone that we could chill and I didn't want to see bills on the table... and then I never saw him or heard from him again!
I know that you didn't ask him to date you, per se. I think he was very lucky for you to be okay to meet off the clock for ice cream or wherever. C'est la vie. I'm sure there are plenty of guys (client or not) who would like to hang with you.lol it's not like I was saying I wanted to date him - he had mentioned the idea of hanging out with me over the many months he had been seeing me. I'm not looking for a bf at this point in my life, just very selectively keeping a few good friends nearby to battle the boredom of lonely days
Oh well, as they say: you win some you lose some!
good advice for life in general.Don't get the wrong message as to whether it is serious or just hanging out. Been there on both - both are fine. Was in a serious one only once, and it was a long once (rarely happens, I think) - it was positive - and hung out many a time.
My advice is to think realistically and just to enjoy anything for what it is. Make the best out of what is happening now.
Bella, lemme ask u this, what's the difference between a SP and a girl with many exs (lets call her a slut) To that point, it doesn't really matter no more..hahaha especially I bet you a SP is cleaner than a slut cause at least a SP won't do BBFS to clients, but a slut there are chances. So to tie the point, I will just see a SP as a normal girl with her own past. How would I ever explain to family/friends?? just lie to their face, met them at a bar, club, library, whatever lol
OHHH madonna!! I hear ya! I have seen a particular client for 7 years now? I can honestly say Yes I fell in love and yes I fell out of love when he opened his big mouth with the sharp sword tongue of his...then the same cycle over again...for 7 years now I can tell he felt the same periodically...We have been close, lol...but yet for REAL? not in our cards.I've met more than a few clients who I could've easily been attracted to in real life... and just when I'm thinking "this is what it could be like if this particular person was my bf and I wasn't alone"... they usually say something that reminds me that I'm just the "quick fix" while their gf is sitting at home or out with friends, etc.... And when they do the nice things that I don't get in real life (since I'm kind of lacking a bf and I don't date) like stroking my hair and telling me I'm beautiful... Unfortunately it's only when their dick is also in my mouth. The last client I saw as Lora Croft never called me back for that coffee.... Admittedly part of the reason why Lora Croft died and Sydney Fox was born to replace her.
SPs have feelings too.
Italians & Chinese ain't that far part when it comes to traditional & nosy. It just depends on how smart you are and keeping that poker face with your stories lolI'm going to be honest with you here (SINCE YOU ASKED, lol), Mr. Doggystyle with all due respect, MY opinion of the differences are...a "slut" would sleep with everybody and to go along with that would more than likely have "daddy issues", have low self esteem, not protecting themselves (not that I am putting down, GOD loves us all. NO offense to those people)..and in the SP world, it's not ALWAYS about sex hun. There are plenty of people who would rather just enjoy the companionship over anything else. I have never pushed for anything although I am very open minded
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AND I take precautions. ...the difference with me is...this "business" isn't all about business for me, although it hELPS. But this is not a full time thing for me, I am a professional in other areas. This to me is a balance of sorts The perks of this is I get to choose who I want to see also. Having many ex's doesn't necessarily mean they have SLEPT with all of them..it doesn't necessarily mean anything, except that they are not willing to settle for just anybody....or it could mean a fear of commitment?...or possibly just experimenting a bit before they settle down??...I don't know about your family, but mINE? lmao...they see through all the lies. Italians are quite nosy
Unless you're over 5'10"... they fall for tall clients all the time.
ANytime hun as for the P-P-P-Poker FAce, lmaoItalians & Chinese ain't that far part when it comes to traditional & nosy. It just depends on how smart you are and keeping that poker face with your stories lol
I agree your point, but what I'm saying from your previous post is..will it stuck in the back of my mind that she's a....well yes to some extend, but I believe that when you really in love with that someone, I don't think it will bother you (especially the "honeymoon" period), but once it turns ugly, SP or not everything always come crashing down hard.
And as long you capable to map a well decent story, I'm pretty sure your family will buy it. If you need help let me know. We'll talk privately lol
Would it be hard for you to sit at home waiting for your wife to come home from an outcall?As “open minded” as we all claim to be on here, it’s hard for me to understand.
Does your lawyer or accountant charge you for their services even if they are good friends?
This is business. Love don't pay the bills.
Well said (in theory I guess).LOL, I've done the "wife" thing before, I doubt that title will ever be awarded to another woman in my life, lol.
To be honest, I think if I had a true understanding of why she continued to work (in my case, money would not be "reason"), and we had a certain understanding about how she handled her business, I think it's something I could accept. I would have an issue with her doing a dozen half hour, $100 calls a day, but if she wanted to keep a few of her regular clients, put herself in more of the "high end" catagory so she can be selective and still work for whatever her reasons were, who knows.
I guess what I'm saying is, if we were happy being together, I would be open to almost anything, provided it's handled in a way that is open and fair to both of us. Sex only causes problems when your not having any or when you are having it and your partner doesn't know about it. If everything is on the table and you're not affraid to talk about it, people can accept alot.
Hell, is it hard for the married guys on here to go back to their wives after an incall??
In any event, you're basically talking about honesty and openness as the best way to approach such a relationship. You have to empathize as well.At some point "theory" is all we have.
I learned a long time ago that traditional relationships and social convention don't work for me. I'm not saying I want my partner to escort, just that if she could make me understand why it made her happy, I would get it.
I have my own ideas of why some women enjoy this business (more than the money or any sexual pleasure). I know there are things I do that don't fit into the traditional relationship concepts, so I would be more than ignorant to enforce a standard I don't agree with.