So Ladies

[fun-guy]

Hell, if she would have said to me, "you know what baby, I want to continue escorting becasue I like it and I make tons of money, and if you like, you can be a part of it, or even continue to enjoy VARIETY yourself"; things may very well have worked out far differently, but it didn't work that way.

She might have agreed if you also saw other ladies and they paid you for your services, if she didn't agree to that, then good thing you both separated. You can't be hypocritcal about this, either you both see the opposite sex to make money, or you both see the opposite sex as a hobby.

ps, had no idea Kareena was attached, who knew????? Makes no difference to me, just a bit surprised, but I'll get over it knowing that she's taken, lol.

 

[afterhours]

Are you trying to say that Kareena's man is not a REAL man because he is open minded enough to have his women work in this industry ?

I am not familiar with this woman or her man, but if you think that a man pimping his woman is a real man, then we have a different understanding of what being a man is all about.

 

[Brill]

I am not familiar with this woman or her man, but if you think that a man pimping his woman is a real man, then we have a different understanding of what being a man is all about.

Don't be ridiculous, where do you get the idea a highly regarded escort isn't in control of herself and her business?
Having a relationship doesn't mean she's owned or being pimped.

 

[Kareena]

Kareena's been attached for quite some time. Her man is totally fine with it.

What are you talking about?

 

[PolishGirl]

Okay... I might get bit in the ass for this as you guys seem pretty narrow minded but wtf.


At the end of the day we go home to each other and love each other. We are individuals in a relationship. That is what is important to us.

That's the most brilliant thing I've ever read on TERB. Precisely why and how I want to get into this business.

 

[lovedoc]

Depends on how strong the relationship is.

It may start out as fun and games, but throw love into the equation then jealousy starts creeping in.
I think it starts with the SO, if he's really fine with it then no need to worry about who's fucking who at the moment.

 

[whobee]

Maybe she loved all the sex and attention or maybe like many of us she valued the intimate level of human connect.

Enjoying variety and sexual escapes with sp's is a different conversation (IMO).

Aside from the fact that she is being remunerated for her time I don't see how these motivations are different. Is her pursuit of sex more noble than the hobbyist?

 

[Molly Robinson]

The men in their lives are most often:

a) Their pimp
b) Low-lives who don't care
c) Pussy whipped and agree to her doing it because she wears the pants
d) Completely unaware that she works as an SP

Normal men (definition: majority) simply wouldn't stand for it if they knew about it.

This is a prime example of the Naivety in the industry. I for one have been close firends with many girls in the industry and their SO's over the years and their SO's are none of the above. Come on!

 

[VikkiBlue]

When I worked phones at a massage parlour in Mississauga years ago the gals there all had or mostly had boyfriends. It seemed that some of them had husbands who drove them to work because they agreed that she was doing it for future plans and then there were some who just had lazy ass boyfriends who would come in mid-shift and take their tips to go get high...
Completely mixed bag.
The one thing I found that was funny was all of the girls at this place were firm that they were not doing "prostitution" and that there was a big difference between them and an escort.
I found that to be a bit delusional.

 

[freestuff]

The one thing I found that was funny was all of the girls at this place were firm that they were not doing "prostitution" and that there was a big difference between them and an escort.
I found that to be a bit delusional.

Some guys think the same way -- he's not cheating if he's getting a massage with a happy ending as oppose to seeing an escort.

 

[VikkiBlue]

Denial is not only a river in Egypt.

LOL and they will gossip if one of the gals is doing "extras". Isn't the idea to make as much money as you can?

 

[james t kirk]

Okay... I might get bit in the ass for this as you guys seem pretty narrow minded but wtf.

I guess my situation is the anomaly. I have been with my boyfriend for 8 years and have happily been an SP for a year. I love my boyfriend, I love my job as an escort and I love sex. He loves all that about me. I don't think having a boyfriend would be the determining factor that makes an escort hate her work unless she was lying to him day after day about what she is doing, I myself could not do that. I would not be okay lying to my boyfriend and most importantly putting him at risk when he has no choice in the matter.

Snip

Are there complications? As in any relationship of course there are. Sometimes I'm too tired when I come home, sometimes I have a bad day and he has to listen to me bitch. We talk about the situations that cause friction and we both work on it.

At the end of the day we go home to each other and love each other. We are individuals in a relationship. That is what is important to us.

I’m in complete agreement with you on the notion that open relationships are stronger relationships.

I’ve given this a lot of thought and I’ve come to the conclusion that monogamy is not natural for humans and we place too high of a value on it. (Though that said, if 2 people want to be monogamous and CAN BE monogamous – excellent for them.)

I used to be pretty traditional (very traditional actually) in the idea of forsaking all others if I was seeing someone. However, as I’ve gotten older, I’ve realized that life truly is “shades of grey”. At the very least, I no longer believe that sexual infidelity is reason enough to pack in a relationship. (If the relationship is terrible, that’s a different story.) On top of that, I’ve discovered the joys of “Swinging”. I have been to Swinger’s Clubs and I can see how they are perfect in so many ways. They allow you to have your fun, but at the end of the night, you go home with your partner. You experience very intense sexuality – as a couple. Things tend not to get so complicated that way as they do with affairs (when the individuals start falling in love). On top of that, I find it a turn-on to be with the proverbial “hot wife” or “hot girlfriend” – a woman who enjoys having sex with other men. (Not quite the same as cuckolding where the guy is not involved sexually – just watches or knows his wife is out having sex with other men.)

I had it put to me that in Swinging, a strong relationship will be even stronger, but a weak one will get torn apart in no time flat. So if you’re looking to salvage a shitty relationship (for all those other reasons other than sex) you will still have a shitty relationship only now you can add your partner having sex with someone else.

Anyway, I would argue that only a truly confident man would be open to such a lifestyle. I’m not threatened by other men. A confident man never attempts to exert his will over a woman. Such a man is not confident.

 

[lovedoc]

I had it put to me that in Swinging, a strong relationship will be even stronger, but a weak one will get torn apart in no time flat. So if you’re looking to salvage a shitty relationship (for all those other reasons other than sex) you will still have a shitty relationship only now you can add your partner having sex with someone else.

Are you referencing this to a normal relationship (non SP) or an SP who's with 5 to 18 different men every day and is involved in a serious relationship? Usually couples who go to Swinger's parties do it together as to stimulate each others fantasies.

 

[VikkiBlue]

If I was in a relationship I would do things to incorporate the fantasies my lover would tell me and if it meant multiple partners...np...just make sure NO SLEEP OVERS....LOL!

 

[goalie000]

Should the SP tell the SO about her schedule? If she has clients coming, when etc. or is that none of the SO, boyfriend, husband's business? Should information be freely given between the 2 or is some of it none of the business of the other? Any help here would be appreciated.

 

[lovedoc]

Should the SP tell the SO about her schedule? If she has clients coming, when etc. or is that none of the SO, boyfriend, husband's business? Should information be freely given between the 2 or is some of it none of the business of the other? Any help here would be appreciated.

Less you know the better off you would be. The only issue you should be concerned about in this type of relationship is, are you getting enough sex?

 

[dreamblade]

The men in their lives are most often:

a) Their pimp
b) Low-lives who don't care
c) Pussy whipped and agree to her doing it because she wears the pants
d) Completely unaware that she works as an SP

Normal men (definition: majority) simply wouldn't stand for it if they knew about it.

As this is coming from someone who's been around for a while, you truly are clueless. Any of you who share the same opnion are equally as idiotic and narrow minded. WTF exactly is a normal man anyway? Does he dress in bearskins, watching the game on tv while swilling beer and eating raw meat?

I guess a normal man would not be able to feel confident in his masculinity and his relationship to accept a significant other who has sex for a living. He couldn't love her for who she really is, instead of an image he has created of her. He couldn't be part of the same scene himself, so they can share an industry-related pun and have a good laugh.

He would never be able to hear what a crappy or happy call she had, or how she is able to explore different fetishes and bring something new and fresh into the bedroom (or diningroom table, or bathrrom, or roof of the house, or that dark alley in Kensington Market). He would certainly never be able to give her support on those off days, when she doesn't feel very pretty, or take her away to somewhere no one can reach her for the day so she can get a brain break. He could never be a sounding board for her if she's active in the community, helping girls that are dealing with drugs or abuse.

No, I guess a normal man would just simply be incapable of doing such things. The normal man seems kinda lame to me.



Gosh! I'm so glad I'm not normal.

 

[zardoz]

Are you trying to say that Kareena's man is not a REAL man because he is open minded enough to have his women work in this industry ?

If a REAL man likes to give oral to a pussy where 10 other dicks have been that day! then I am not a REAL man.

 

[amber-jade]

Should the SP tell the SO about her schedule? If she has clients coming, when etc. or is that none of the SO, boyfriend, husband's business? Should information be freely given between the 2 or is some of it none of the business of the other? Any help here would be appreciated.

funny thread
I sometimes forget most people are not as open minded .(not you, just in general)

it HAS to be open like that .
he always told me his work schedule too

don't you do that when you are in a relationship ?

 

[scarlet6969]

As this is coming from someone who's been around for a while, you truly are clueless. Any of you who share the same opnion are equally as idiotic and narrow minded. WTF exactly is a normal man anyway? Does he dress in bearskins, watching the game on tv while swilling beer and eating raw meat?

I guess a normal man would not be able to feel confident in his masculinity and his relationship to accept a significant other who has sex for a living. He couldn't love her for who she really is, instead of an image he has created of her. He couldn't be part of the same scene himself, so they can share an industry-related pun and have a good laugh.

He would never be able to hear what a crappy or happy call she had, or how she is able to explore different fetishes and bring something new and fresh into the bedroom (or diningroom table, or bathrrom, or roof of the house, or that dark alley in Kensington Market). He would certainly never be able to give her support on those off days, when she doesn't feel very pretty, or take her away to somewhere no one can reach her for the day so she can get a brain break. He could never be a sounding board for her if she's active in the community, helping girls that are dealing with drugs or abuse.

No, I guess a normal man would just simply be incapable of doing such things. The normal man seems kinda lame to me.



Gosh! I'm so glad I'm not normal.

I so agree with madison doll! i love you too!