Okay... I might get bit in the ass for this as you guys seem pretty narrow minded but wtf.
I guess my situation is the anomaly. I have been with my boyfriend for 8 years and have happily been an SP for a year. I love my boyfriend, I love my job as an escort and I love sex. He loves all that about me. I don't think having a boyfriend would be the determining factor that makes an escort hate her work unless she was lying to him day after day about what she is doing, I myself could not do that. I would not be okay lying to my boyfriend and most importantly putting him at risk when he has no choice in the matter.
My boyfriend and I do not believe in sexual monogamy and neither of us expects that we will only fuck each other for the rest of our lives. We do not believe that one person can meet all the needs of their partner. I thought about being an escort for a while before starting, he knew that it was always a fantasy for me. We discussed the situation and possibilities that would surround the job and I did research for about a year before contacting an agency, all which he has been supportive of. He doesn't force me to do this, or anything else in our relationship, he is not my pimp, he is not a low-life who just doesn't care nor is he pussy whipped. He is an open-minded, confident and direct person.
He likes what I do because I like it. He likes that it has made my confidence boost immensely, that I know how to suck and fuck better than ever and he likes it when I enjoy meeting and spending time with clients. My boyfriend didn't want to restrict my life experiences like never having a one night stand so he supports that I choose to explore in any manner I choose as long as I am safe and enjoying myself. And in my case I get paid to do something that I am enjoying.
He does not view me as a possession therefore there is no question about "allowing" me to do anything. I am my own person and make my own decisions, he decides if he wants to support those decisions or not. We are adults.
He is proud that his girlfriend is attractive and interesting and that gentlemen want to pay her for spending time with her. When you are proud of something and love it, you show it off. He is turned on when I tell him about how hard I got a client and how much fun we had or how hard the guy spanked me. He knows that I am a sexual person and is proud that other people see it too. And just like you guys enjoy the fact that you are fucking another man's woman. he enjoys that you are doing it and then that woman goes home to him.
Why is okay for men to have the desire to fuck a variety of women and it's not okay for the lady to? I really appreciate that my boyfriend is secure enough in himself to know that if I love him and that I come home to him. There is a difference between having sex with people and having relationships. He is secure enough to let me be who I want to be and do the things I want. If he is not okay with something he says so, and if he is not okay with my decision he decides what is best for him to do. He is not worried about me falling for my clients or anyone else because if I do, than I loose him. And that goes both ways with the ladies that he chooses to sleep with.
As for my clients who know about my boyfriend, sometimes at first they are surprised and ask repeatedly, "and he's okay with it". But after I explain they appreciate the situation and see that it is a part of why I am good at what I do. And is assures them that I do genuinely enjoy my job and spending time with them. Some clients say that my boyfriend and I are lucky to have the openness that we do and that they wish they had a partner who was like us.
Are there complications? As in any relationship of course there are. Sometimes I'm too tired when I come home, sometimes I have a bad day and he has to listen to me bitch. We talk about the situations that cause friction and we both work on it.
At the end of the day we go home to each other and love each other. We are individuals in a relationship. That is what is important to us.
