You don't want that diet....and you don't want to listen to deezed. Just do a bit of basic health science research and you will realize that while changing your diet is great, working out is truly where it's at when it comes to body transformation. I'm not denying you can lose that weight by a diet change....but you'll just be a smaller version of your weak self. You won't look good, just thin. It will also leave a ton of health gains still on the table by way of increase cardiovascular and strength capacities. Also, lifting weights and gaining more muscle mass will increase metabolic rate and with it resting caloric consumption, so you'll burn more while doing nothing, win win. I know because I'm on the journey myself and have done more than enough research on the topic, have family members who are health science majors and personal trainers etc.
SO gaining weight :(
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@OP, as has been said, no one likes everything about their SO, but if weight is the worst thing in your relationship (assuming you don't have an unhealthy obsession with weight) you should count yourself lucky.
How to address it? Well, I would say don't listen to the obviously jaded married men here. And the one woman who suggested you be completely supportive and somehow that will magically communicate your concerns, yeah, I wouldn't listen to her either. Listen to yourself....chances are you know what you have to/want to do and came here for validation/confirmation of your concern and what you feel you should do. You know your wife best, what type of motivation she responds to and doesnt't, her ability to commit to change, he desire to change, and so on. All of these are significant factors in the success of a long term change, but none of which we as board members know anything about. Look up some habit changing techniques such as doing a purge, i.e. get rid of all junk food in the pantry, fridge, freezer, and stock up with healthy stuff. Start a routine of introducing activity slowly into your relationship (morning walks if schedules permit - or make them permit it). Be honest. Tell her you want to want her like you used to, but you don't with the extra weight gain and for the survival of the marriage you want to work on it together. Ask if there's anything she wants you to work on and agree to make the changes together. If she can't accept how you feel and doesn't want to change for you, her, and the marriage, then address that problem first, not the weight, and likewise if you react negatively to what she says about you. My 2 cents.
How to address it? Well, I would say don't listen to the obviously jaded married men here. And the one woman who suggested you be completely supportive and somehow that will magically communicate your concerns, yeah, I wouldn't listen to her either. Listen to yourself....chances are you know what you have to/want to do and came here for validation/confirmation of your concern and what you feel you should do. You know your wife best, what type of motivation she responds to and doesnt't, her ability to commit to change, he desire to change, and so on. All of these are significant factors in the success of a long term change, but none of which we as board members know anything about. Look up some habit changing techniques such as doing a purge, i.e. get rid of all junk food in the pantry, fridge, freezer, and stock up with healthy stuff. Start a routine of introducing activity slowly into your relationship (morning walks if schedules permit - or make them permit it). Be honest. Tell her you want to want her like you used to, but you don't with the extra weight gain and for the survival of the marriage you want to work on it together. Ask if there's anything she wants you to work on and agree to make the changes together. If she can't accept how you feel and doesn't want to change for you, her, and the marriage, then address that problem first, not the weight, and likewise if you react negatively to what she says about you. My 2 cents.
You know Absalom, I'm genuinely curious to know why you continue to go to see escorts since all you do on this and on the other boards is bash them and you seem like you're actually angry about going to see them.
But hey, maybe you can get your little lapdog in here to defend you. But the only reason she doesn't speak up and essentially throws other SPs under the bus is because she's admitted that she's too chickenshit to tell you what a complete piece of shit you are. Now please, go run along back to 411 and dance like a good little puppet for your master the trust fund baby.
But hey, maybe you can get your little lapdog in here to defend you. But the only reason she doesn't speak up and essentially throws other SPs under the bus is because she's admitted that she's too chickenshit to tell you what a complete piece of shit you are. Now please, go run along back to 411 and dance like a good little puppet for your master the trust fund baby.
) Hope you resolve it and continue with her. Lots of good advice on here.I'd invite his spineless little lap dog to read this and continue to defend that PoS.
He probably goes to see the "just doing it for the money" girls because they'll be willing to put up with his abuse. Hopefully he'll be on the receiving end of some lady's security staff's fist.
And will probably go down without a fight since he admitted once that away from his computer, he's a little chickenshit who's afraid of confrontation.
