papasmerf said:WHO THE FUCK ARE YOU TO DEMAND A CHILD NOT BE BORN
MichaelZzzz said:I agree with the legal answer provided by oagre.
I would add, that if you refuse to submit a sample for a DNA test, the court will draw an adverse inference and presume that you are the father.
As for a non-legal answer, I think you are the luckiest guy in the world no matter what happens, your view of the situation needs to shift a little bit.
If she has an abortion – you are in the clear, done and finished, give thanks to the good lord for getting you out of that.
If she has the child and DNA proves it is not yours - you are in the clear, done and finished, give thanks to the good lord for getting you out of that.
If she has the child, and it is healthy and DNA proves that it is yours – then you are blessed with a son or daughter that you can love, care for beyond anything you have yet imagined was possible, help that child grow into a wonderful man or woman that will speak your praises long after you have left this earth.
If she has the child, and it is not healthy and DNA proves that it is yours – then you are going to learn more about love and compassion then you ever dreamed of, if there is the smallest bit of humanity in you, your life will be powerfully changed for the better in ways you cannot yet imagine.
On the other hand, you could, and I’m just talking out loud here, you could, just tell her “o.k. I’ll be the Dad don’t bother with the DNA test at all.”
No one cared in post 10 no one cares now.Cycleguy007 said:Like I said a WAAAAAY back in post #10... As a society we really need to STOP talking about "RIGHTS" and START talking about taking responsibilities for ones actions!
If the child is yours BE A MAN ABOUT IT, and by that I don't mean be a typical man... BE A REAL MAN! In other wards take example from A 1 Player and Master Muse...
(Is that what "man up" means?)
I thought the exact same thing right down to the amount.escortsxxx said:If your realy want her to abort and your well off, and dont want a kid, offer her a contract for just that- 10 k or some such. A nice number ot make it worht her while.
Pretty much, if she has made up her mind. This has only dawned on you now? Course, if you really were Mao that would be different. Fucker knocked up all kinds of girls and got away with it.Mao Tse Tongue said:Well this is interesting topic which is sure to inflame many people, but here's my very politically unpopular belief:
I have no fucking say in whether she has the child, even though we both made the same mistake. Is that right?
escortsxxx said:If your realy want her to abort and your well off, and dont want a kid, offer her a contract for just that- 10 k or some such. A nice number ot make it worht her while.[/QUOTE
If that works it says a lot of more about both of their characters than I care to think about.
Assuming he is given any opportunity to do that. Note that "full responsibility" implies more than writing cheques. Dads are not often given by the courts an opportunity to take full responsibility.ahahooper said:do the right thing by taking full responsibility for the child
True. As I mentioned in an earlier post, I dated a girl who only saw her father once when she was 15. He did take responsibility in that he sent the cheque every month for the prior 15 years, but he had said he wanted nothing to do with the child and went 15 years without makig any effort to see her, even though the mother wasn't oppoised to his seeing the kid. That he saw her at 15 was only becasue the teen went looking for him and found him. After a day with her he said "We'll have to see each other again" but never called back and never saw her again. Not seeing the child and having the lawyer send a cheque is legal responsibility and that is good and fine - better than being a deadbeat - but not "full responsibility". Full responsibility the courts can't enforce and comes from sharing from within (if one has the choice).fuji said:Assuming he is given any opportunity to do that. Note that "full responsibility" implies more than writing cheques. Dads are not often given by the courts an opportunity to take full responsibility.
Lol, this thread won't go away even though I have.ahahooper said:mao i gotta say that you RELINQUISHED your right to the "lifestyle you enjoy and have become accustomed to" when you made the irresponsible mistake of having unprotected sex and getting her pregnant (if it ends up being yours). you wont like to but you have to accept that as a truth. period. full stop.
if you have an ounce of morality and ethics inside you, you will gradually figure that out and you will do the right thing by taking full responsibility for the child. it will take time to come to this full realization...