Finally, someone who had a worse day than I did!!!
I guess that you never entertained the idea that you might just enjoy being a Dad to Mao Jr.?
I guess that you never entertained the idea that you might just enjoy being a Dad to Mao Jr.?
Cassini said:Oh, and get a good lawyer. ASAP!
Captain Fantastic said:Quite honestly MTT, you sound like a borderline evil, totally selfish POS... either that or a scared little boy masquerading like a man.
Sorry, but you did the deed - to say it isn't fair that "five minutes of fun isn't worth 18 years of obligation" is the voice of a coward - or a child. Man up to your obligations - you stick your uncovered dick in a girl's pussy and this can happen. As men, we all know that. You're certainly not a teenager any more.
To knowingly want to make this woman twist in the wind to try and shame her into having an abortion because YOU want it so makes you an evil, manipulative POS. To declare "war" on her makes you a sick fuck.
I hope to God the child isn't yours because your moral compass is so fucked up that the kid is doomed to failure. Not to mention the fact that your hatred of this woman is so great that it will be palpable to all, including your potential child.
Shame on you.
And yes, I've been there before. However your vile thoughts never even crossed my mind. "Oh shit, I might have fucked up.", "Is it really mine?" and "What the fuck am I going to do?" definitely entered the equation. But until the girl had made her choice or later (luckily it never got that far for me), until I knew (meaning the inevitable potential paternity test), I shut the fuck up and was supportive to her and my possible child's plight. I was always honest with her with regard to my feelings (I was not ready to be a father, but I would fulfill any obligations if the baby was mine - if it got to that.)
Your childish "my dick made me do it" excuse is tired and played out. We all have dicks. But with dicks (big or small) comes HUGE responsibility. If one's dick gets you into trouble, a real man would accept that as the price for pleasure and deal with the consequences like an adult. To try and slough it off on "dicks will be dicks" shows incredible immaturity and absolutely no sense of duty or obligation. It is a cop out of the worst kind.
Listen, I know that you're scared and totally freaked out. But playing games and trying to hurt someone who did nothing wrong (certainly no more wrong than you) is the stuff of an immature brat or a psychopath. I implore you to just suck it up and wait and see what happens. No commitments or obligations, just STFU and wait & see. Be honest with the woman about your feelings, but do not, under any circumstances, go ahead with your attempt to mentally or emotionally fuck with the possible mother of your child.
Just keep in mind that you're not the only one going through something in this situation.
If my post makes me an idiot, yours make you a barely-functional retard.themexi said:You sir are an idiot.... did you take woman's studies at Berkley perhaps?
Te same thing could be said about her....
What the fuck was she doing opening up her legs bareback with a guy that will likely not want to support their shared mistake?
The mistake was made... both parties made stupid decision.... She decided to keep baby the father does not want to support.... whether for moral or medical reasons she decided to keep it. Her Right %100 so from this point on it should also be her RESPONSIBILITY %100.
er deciding to RAISE a child that se had zero expectation of the father wanting to help support is fucking insane.... SHE SHOULD WOMAN UP & give the kid to a family with some goddamn sense.
You "the woman is right even when they're wrong" guys are a fucking joke
That high price is the very reason condoms were invented....be thankful it is 'just' a child you may have caught,,,,there are a lot more dangerous and life altering after effects from having 'a few moments of frail human pleasure'.Mao Tse Tongue said:Interesting question for you: when you made that mistake, did you have sympathy for yourself at the time?
I'm not asking for sympathy, and I can take the judgement, it's just funny coming from johns and hookers (god bless us all). I'm only pointing out that this particular mistake seems to have an awfully high price for a few moments of frail human pleasure. Every single person on this board has made a similar mistake, but we can't wait to hang someone else out publically.
Mao Tse Tongue said:I've thought about just about every scenario, which is why many of these righteous posters don't have a clue. Women can scheme, especially when they sniff a meal ticket.
STASH said:Hey we know what are are horny fuckers of woman....danger and all.
No Gen...... we're more really your second option. The examples are all around you. Famous examples.....Bill Clinton is a good one. And, he the most powerful man on the planet ( Prez you know ) and yet what's he doing.....playing around with a lady. Knowing full well the consequences of his actions and how easily he could be found out.
nope sory Gen i vote for men doing stupid thing with there cocks. Oh sure we refuse some woman but sooner or later one of ya's get us....right.
you know all the games to play Gen. You were taught them as a little girl and have been honing those skills ever since. Hell you even make aliving out of our compulsions Honey. look at the cash in you wallet. That didn't come from your Daddy did it. Men take all kinds of life destroying risks just to fuck you....don't they. You bet they do ! We love it
Mao Tse Tongue said:Yes, but they don't end up in 18 years of hard labour and child support payments because we chase their pussies.
Unless they choose to. And there's the rub.
Dude,,,,,,think for a minute,,,,,yes we have the ultimate choice but we also have the ultimate responsibility after making that choice. Men get to walk away regardless of the decision made, yes you may have to throw some money her way to help raise the child but that's the extent of your comittment.......regardless of her choice she has to live with it for the rest of her life.......how fair is that for a 2 minute joy ride? IT suck for both of you, stop trying to make it sound like you are the victim of some elaborate plot to rob you of your almighty dollar.....It is not an easy decision to terminate a life and it is not an easy decision to take on the responsibility of raising that life either......Mao Tse Tongue said:Well this is where you and a few other people will not like me, because I find it horribly manipulative when a woman takes what is an equal mistake, kicks the man out of the castle, ignores his every protestation, and for her own reasons, and without any input or discussion, decides to have a baby entirely on her own terms. Until you are on the other end of this, and at the mercy of someone you just slept with, you will never understand incredible frustration. But you are a woman, so you don't have to experience this.
I'm not saying abortion is a simple thing for a woman, or that there aren't profound decisions, implications for the women, but in the end, SHE is the DECIDER, not you, and that is very, very frustrating to men. It is the price we pay to have safe and legal abortions and for woman to choose their body's course without being threatened by men, but we can't pretend it's not a very, very unfair reality for the men involved.
Everyone of your posts makes you seem that much fucking hotter. Oh god...genintoronto said:Me, 4 times.
I'm thinking of using the hooker angle next time. I'm assuming they will be more willing to sterilize me if they know I'm a dirty girl who fuck random men for money.
Whatever you say Pvt Funtastic ; )Captain Fantastic said:If my post makes me an idiot, yours make you a barely-functional retard.
OK then please explain how the above nonsensical insult applies to an argument that holds both sexes to the same level of reponsibility based on the amount of executive decision making power.Captain Fantastic said:Well, they actually make you a mouth-breathing, knuckle-dragging Neanderthal. Or just
another in a long line of TERB misogynist asshats.
Captain Fantastic said:The fallacy or mistake the majority of men make is falling back on the excuse that our dicks do our thinking for us.
That somehow "the heat of passion" means we don't have to take responsibility for OUR actions.
The laws are unfair to men & many who practice those scary black magic practices as "reason" "fairness' & "common sense" believe this to be hhe case. Just because something is legal does not make it right. To enforce or obey an unjust law is to foster injustice.Captain Fantastic said:We know the law.
Again, wrong is wrong..... I'll bet you're just the right type of self righteous asshole that would be making an equally retarded argument in favour of female circumcision in africa. You'd be just as wrong being a follower there.Captain Fantastic said:We know how society looks at this.
My god, Pvt....... WE AGREE ON SOMETHING & IT ACTUALLY MAKES SENSE!!!Captain Fantastic said:A woman has the right to her body. Period.
We should also have the right to legally separate ourselves from any offspring that are a result of a non committed sexual action.Captain Fantastic said:So we have to exercise OUR rights, which are 1. to say "No." or 2. to use protection.
Captain Fantastic said:End of story.
Is the woman not equally at fault in all of this? You slogn types always say "2 to tango" right?Captain Fantastic said:If you fail to do either and then complain after the fact, you as a man are an idiot and a failure.
I believe that such determinations should be made by better qualified personnel in a higher paygrade there Pvt.Captain Fantastic said:In your case, I'd say that you're both.
Spelling is not my strong point........independent, reasoned thought isn't yours......Captain Fantastic said:PS - even with your edits, your argument is still a "fucking joke."
Let me know when you are ready to take a trip and meet her. I will get your back.a 1 player said:This is another time I should just shut the fuck up, but since I have never been good at doing that...
I have a grown daughter I have never met. Ever, not even the day she was born. I have never seen a picture of her, I have no idea how she is doing in life, absolutely no knowledge of her except she exists.
I have tried to be in contact with her and her mother, and have spent thousands of dollars on legal fees, but since she is not in this country, it seems my efforts have been futile. I still pay child support for her too, as I have since the day she was born. I have tried to get out of this, but the government won't let me, and the 'family responsibility office' keeps deducting from my cheques to support my child who I have never met, and is not even in the country where I have access to her.
My situation is exactly like the OP's, (I think), only I pray his has a happier ending than mine.
The woman was a short relationship, and I had no idea that she had another man on the side. The other man as far as I know, had never held a real job, and was a flake in the true sense of the word. My girlfriend assured me that she was on the pill, hell we even went for STD tests before giving up the condoms. So imagine my surprise when she comes to me and says that she is pregnant, and was never on the pill to begin with. That she never wants to see me again, that I will have to submit to a blood test, and to quote her... "thanks for the child support". "If you try to get in contact with me, I'll throw myself down a flight of stairs and have you charged for abuse and I will say that you raped me". As you can imagine, I was devastated.
About a month or two after the baby was born, she moved out of the country with her family (and my child), to a country where the legal system is nowhere near as robust as it is here in Canada, and the cost of living is substantially lower. Despite many attempts to gain access to the child, all of my attempts have failed. I am certainly not going to go to a radical Muslim country and try to stir shit up there either, as I have a strong feeling I would just 'go missing'. I do know she has many family members there that are government officials, and hold predominant positions in business.
The hardest part for me is not paying the support, but knowing I have a child who I will never meet, and who will never get to meet their 'dad'.
To all you folks who think that it is a 'man's responsibility' to suck it up, not be a deadbeat father, and that a man should have no say, you have no god damn idea what you are talking about. I'm not saying that I should have the right to force her to abort, not at all. But to be given a life sentence (I'm talking emotionally here, support will soon end) by some bitch who has used you in the truest sense of the word is just evil, not to mention unjust.
It takes two people to make a child, therefore there should be some sort of legal preceding to figure out where the onus lies with regards to the pregnancy. If it was an accident, that is one thing. If it was planned to milk the man, or the social system, that is entirely something else altogether and the 'man' should not be to blame in a circumstance like this.
Walk a mile in my shoes, then spew your shit.
You're not paying attention. What I am suggesting, through experience, is that we as MEN have to accept that if we make a mistake, there are serious consequences and ramifications.themexi said:My dick doesn't do the thinking for me.... I have no bastards kicking around because I am very careful with my choice of partners, use of birth control & I make it very clear where they stand in case something should happen pregnancy wise.
Are you actually so stupid as to suggest that somehow "the heat of passion" means women don't have the same requirement to take responsibility for their actions as much as we must take ours?
Why are they unfair? Because a man could not cover his cock up? A simple act can avoid all of this. A woman should have to bear ALL of the responsibility because of both parties' "mistakes"? A woman should be forcd to have an abortion or raise a child on her own because the man could not control himself? How is that fair, reasonable or exhibiting common sense?themexi said:The laws are unfair to men & many who practice those scary black magic practices as "reason" "fairness' & "common sense" believe this to be hhe case. Just because something is legal does not make it right. To enforce or obey an unjust law is to foster injustice.
Nice leap in logic there, oh enlightened one.themexi said:Again, wrong is wrong..... I'll bet you're just the right type of self righteous asshole that would be making an equally retarded argument in favour of female circumcision in africa. You'd be just as wrong being a follower there.
Again, how dare you (in the role of "man") make the decision for both people? Just because a guy was careless, does not release him of his obligations. The woman still has to go through the stress of pregnancy vs. abortion and all of the pros and cons for her. If she chooses to keep a baby, why on Earth should the man who stuck his uncovered dick in her not have to pay for his part in this?themexi said:My god, Pvt....... WE AGREE ON SOMETHING & IT ACTUALLY MAKES SENSE!!!
Btw A man should have a right to HIS body as well as far as what the fruits of its labours go towards & NOT be put int indentured servitude to support a child because the mother is too selfish to let it go to a WHOLE & PROPER family. Period.
We should also have the right to legally separate ourselves from any offspring that are a result of a non committed sexual action.
Well, you did not make a reasoned argument in your first post, which is why i refuted it. In fact, all you did was make it personal, which is why I responded. You edited it to make a little more sense, but you still defaulted to the equivalent of "tough luck bitch, I don't wanna pay so I'm outta here" so I would not consider that particularly useful. But that's beside the point.themexi said:Actually I made a very reasoned argument based on total equality of the sexes & holding both accountable for the decisions they make at every stage along the line. Allow me to explain in detail in hopes that some part of your brain can comprehend them...
Your logic baffles me. As a final non-sequitur "responsibility" example: to me you're basically saying if my dog attacks your child or pet, I'm not responsible for its actions, because you should have looked after your child/pet better. Forget the fact that my dog is big, wild and untrained, you should have protected your child/pet better...?themexi said:If the mother decices to Keep & Raise the child & the father has made it clear from the start he wants no part of supporting the child, then the mother should understand that since she is now making all of the decisions in the
situation that she bears all of the reponsibility. She should understand that she has the power to alleviate the burden of parenthood trough adoption. If she cannot support the child & she brought it to term with the knowledge that she won't be able to count on the father for support then in the best intrests of te child she Should give the child up to those that can support it.
Deciding to keep a child you cannot support & forcing the father to pay for a child he gave no indication of a desire to support is WRONG.
It is as wrong as a man forcing a woman to bear or abort her child.
The only time a mother should feel secure that the father ill stick around & assume responsibility as a parent is when the child was conceived in a marriage or oter committed relationship OR if she made sure he made some other legally binding voluntary agreement to do so. If se is not sure of a man's intentions she should not put herself in that kind of position unless she is willing to support it on her own.
Is the woman not equally at fault in all of this? You slogn types always say "2 to tango" right?
So you're either saying that as women the women are failures as well or you don't truly believe in equality of the sexes at all.