"My Daughter Has Rejected All Our Family’s Wedding Traditions. I’m Considering a Drastic Response"

[Jenesis]

How can I prove this? I don't know them personally.

Why would the fiance buy her a ring and tell he not to wear it?

Maybe she doesn’t have a ring. Maybe she told him not to buy her one because it would be a waste of money. I wouldn't want a ring. I wouldn't wear it. It would be wasted on me.

You said the red flags were for the fiancé but you don't know what he does or doesn't personally agree with. Their values together could be inline with each other.

 

[Patron]

Maybe she doesn’t have a ring. Maybe she told him not to buy her one because it would be a waste of money. I wouldn't want a ring. I wouldn't want it. It would be wasted on me.

You said the red flags were for the fiancé but you don't know what he does or doesn't personally agree with. Their values together could inline.

A lot of doctors apparently don’t wear rings.

They take more gloves on and off than a massage parlor lady who specializes in prostate massages.

https://www.reddit.com/r/MedSpouse/comments/13c32rb

 

[richaceg]

fuck that...spend the day however you want...it's your wedding...

 

[Sonic Temple]

 

[DesRicardo]

Maybe she doesn’t have a ring. Maybe she told him not to buy her one because it would be a waste of money. I wouldn't want a ring. I wouldn't wear it. It would be wasted on me.

You said the red flags were for the fiancé but you don't know what he does or doesn't personally agree with. Their values together could be inline with each other.

"She won’t wear an engagement ring because diamonds are “ugly” and not “politically correct.”

Based off this comment, it sounds like a her thing.

Is she's with a man that will separate her from her parents that again is on her.

 

[DesRicardo]

Red Flag on the Play.

 

[Jenesis]

"She won’t wear an engagement ring because diamonds are “ugly” and not “politically correct.”

Based off this comment, it sounds like a her thing.

Is she's with a man that will separate her from her parents that again is on her.

You said it is a red flag to her fiancé. Based off a second hand opinion from a pissed off mother. Just seems seriously judgmental with no real facts at all.

That is more of a red flag to me about someone's character. Just my opinion.

 

[DesRicardo]

You said it is a red flag to her fiancé. Based off a second hand opinion from a pissed off mother. Just seems seriously judgmental with no real facts at all.

That is more of a red flag to me about someone's character. Just my opinion.

We have no other option but to take the story at face value.

We don't know if this story is even real. We just go off what we have.

If the advice columnist is taking this as truth, then why cant I?

 

[Jenesis]

We have no other option but to take the story at face value.

We don't know if this story is even real. We just go off what we have.

If the advice columnist is taking this as truth, then why cant I?

Because you are judging a person based on hearsay while the columnist is judging a person based on their own words. Just as I am making my opinion based on your words. You painted this girl as trouble for her fiancé. That is what you said. My opinion stands.

Have a good day.

 

[that6969]

I got married because at the time I believed in the concept of god without following any religion. Now I stand behind being an atheist and think the concept of any god is highly outdated and religions are just used to scare and control folks. Religious debates are cringy. If I'm with someone long term in a relationship I wouldn't cheat on them and don't care about rings or even doing a wedding again. I'm fine with some dinner get together with 2 or 4 more folks than some party. Traditions and cultures get annoying. A ring means jack all in terms of showing to others you're taken and you'll stay loyal.

 

[DesRicardo]

Because you are judging a person based on hearsay while the columnist is judging a person based on their own words. Just as I am making my opinion based on your words. You painted this girl as trouble for her fiancé. That is what you said. My opinion stands.

Have a good day.

That's even worse, because the mother has be trying to help her.

Do you know how many people would love to have their wedding paid for? Some people don't even have a father to walk them down the aisle.

You as well, Best Regards.

 

[that6969]

The mother in the article needs to back off. This is 2025 not 1927 or some other BS. My ex-wife and I agreed to things we wanted to do for our wedding because it was about us. Lots of people are even skipping weddings today and using their savings to buy a house. It doesn't matter if the parent(s) have the funds to pay for the entire wedding. I paid for 90% of my wedding in Toronto and kept it small and within budget. And I've been to bigger weddings which I found to be meh. My ex-wife paid for a bit also, but I was the one with the funds which I didn't mind using. Personally I find the whole wedding thing like they show on tv meh. I'm extremely simple these days.

 

[shack]

That's even worse, because the mother has be trying to help her.

Do you know how many people would love to have their wedding paid for? Some people don't even have a father to walk them down the aisle.

You as well, Best Regards.

Then let the mother give the cash she would have spent on a wedding that lasts 10 hours.

A down payment on a house looks like better use of the money.

 

[DesRicardo]

Then let the mother give the cash she would have spent on a wedding that lasts 10 hours.

A down payment on a house looks like better use of the money.

You can't even give them a gift on a registry.

They are doctors. So I assume they don't care for the money.

 

[Jenesis]

Then let the mother give the cash she would have spent on a wedding that lasts 10 hours.

A down payment on a house looks like better use of the money.

People are damned no matter what. Accept gifts by making a registry with a wish list, you are greedy. Want no gifts and that is a problem too. People just can’t win now-a-days

 

[that6969]

Not everyone wants gifts or money. The mother needs to understand that. What if they wanted to have some gothic wedding? Would she cry a river? Lady needs to get over herself. Let people do and live how they wanna unless they are causing unnecessary harm. It's the daughters choice how she wants her life she doesn't need to please her mom often.

It's extremely annoying even as a guy when I told past girlfriends I wanted nothing for my bday or Christmas and they annoyed me asking. I'd rather have cuddles and affection and sex would be a bonus.

 

[richaceg]

You can't even give them a gift on a registry.

They are doctors. So I assume they don't care for the money.

Nothing wrong with breaking tradition. If the couple doesn't like hat type of celebration why is it wrong? what if they're trying to make their own tradition of not having a lavish celebration for them and their next generation? some people prefer simple celebration.

 

[Knuckle Ball]

My impression is that the mother in this story is controlling, overbearing, and uses money and gifts to manipulate her family. The daughter, knowing this, has decided that she is not going to accept anything from her mother and is not going to allow her to control her this way.

The mother, having her control taken away, is now throwing a fit and writing a letter to an advice columnist. It sounds to me like the daughter is handling it well and if her mother decides to boycott the wedding then that may be for the best.

 

[DesRicardo]

Nothing wrong with breaking tradition. If the couple doesn't like hat type of celebration why is it wrong? what if they're trying to make their own tradition of not having a lavish celebration for them and their next generation? some people prefer simple celebration.

They don't even want food at the wedding.

You guys are so locked in on dismantling tradition that you're ignoring the anti-social behaviour and the rejecting of loved ones. And you know what that's fine. She can have her wedding her way.

I'm just saying this person isn't someone I'd want to be attached to because when it's her time to disagree with me how will she act? That's all.

 

[that6969]

Her sisters come off annoying too. Must run in the family. The whole bridezilla thing gets annoying because people like that don't understand how real life works and want perfection and control.