I know a few people started to get into relationship in their 50's and 60's. Having said that , you wouldnt know who's taking care of who in their old age. It may be a burden on yout part.
Marriage Is Out, But Who will Care For Me In Old Age?
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I've thought the same thing myself. But then I figure, why should I live in a situation I don't like for 20 or 30 years so I can have someone who will look after me for 2 or 3.
It sounds like "long term pain for short term gain" which is the opposite of how it should be.
Maybe go back to school, make some new friends, and share a house; sort of a house dad.
Nursing homes do suck... There are some nice "adult lifestyle?" luxury retirement homes I would assume.. (never been in an Amica building).
If getting married, I would do it young when you don't have a high paying career and net worth.. Much scarier doing it later in life when you have a lot of $$$ to lose, unless she also has her finances in great shape too, your money and the lifestyle you can provide is too much of the reason she is marrying you..
If getting married, I would do it young when you don't have a high paying career and net worth.. Much scarier doing it later in life when you have a lot of $$$ to lose, unless she also has her finances in great shape too, your money and the lifestyle you can provide is too much of the reason she is marrying you..
And some people die without warning. 2-3 years is a good "on average" guess.
And then there's the scenario where your spouse dies before you need help, when the whole purpose of getting married was for that help.
Ooookay.....sooo.....from your thread and from what everybody else posted/commented on I totally see what's coming for you... You'll meet a wonderful woman (sp or not?) then you'll just choose for yourself saying..."Marry me!! I dont want to die alone in some old age home :-( Quick we gotta have have kids because we are gonna move in with THEM so they can wipe our butts." ...but here's the thing with kids...treat em well, cuz they are the ones who'll chose your nursing home if you piss em off
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...or you could just wait for the right one ( no B.S> messy divorces) . Patience and don't worry so much. 
Sorry hon, even if you find the "right one" people change and after 10 or 15 or however many years they will not be the same person you married. Maybe you will be lucky but it seems more often than not that is not the case for most people....or you could just wait for the right one ( no B.S> messy divorces) . Patience and don't worry so much.
After having had to wipe my dads ass for the last couple months of his life, I can tell you it sucks to get old.
Save and invest your money wisely, then at least you can afford to hire private care and not put such a burden on your family. Consider critical illness and long term care insurance.
If you get sick go to a good hospital in the states or outside Kanadastan. Both of the GTA hospitals I took my dad to in the months before he died could not kick him out the door fast enough. Our socialist medical system cost him his life.
In history there are exactly 3 solutions for this:
1) Have children. (Lots. At least one of them should be OK with taking care of you if you aren't a complete bastard.)
2) Have money. (Then you can be a bastard and py soomebody to put up with you.)
3) Rely on a decent social saftey net in you jurisdiction. (An incresingly bad bet in Canada for now.)
Lots of little old ladies seem to have live-in Pinay caregivers. Probably a lot cheaper than a decent oldpeople home, even cheaper if you get a roommate and split the cost.
Failing that, you get your meals from mealsOnWheels, have a housekeeper come in once a week, and arrange for a VoN homecare nurse to come around periodically. Don't budge until they force you out.
Failing that, you get your meals from mealsOnWheels, have a housekeeper come in once a week, and arrange for a VoN homecare nurse to come around periodically. Don't budge until they force you out.
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You could get married and still end up alone in old age. Outliving your spouse, divorce, neglected by adult children are some ways that could happen. It's probably best to build up a solid financial portfolio now like some have suggested than to rely too much on marriage. Not saying marriage is out, but I think it's not a guaranteed solution to this question.
I don't think its so much about money or who is going to take care of you.
Fact is you can't go hobbying forever... There will come a time when you will slow down. Having a wife you love will keep you busy and its been said you live a longer life. You're more likely to fall into depression or get some disease like alzheimers because your brain isn't as active like when you have a partner around you.
Do you want to spend your time in an old age home, or do you want to spend time with your significant other who you love?
Fact is you can't go hobbying forever... There will come a time when you will slow down. Having a wife you love will keep you busy and its been said you live a longer life. You're more likely to fall into depression or get some disease like alzheimers because your brain isn't as active like when you have a partner around you.
Do you want to spend your time in an old age home, or do you want to spend time with your significant other who you love?
