Looking for advice on how to stop seeing esorts

[CaveHobbit]

Move.

Move to a part of the country where it's very impractical to see providers. Find a little town or small city that is far enough away from a larger centre that it's impractical to go there just for a 45 minutes date.

I used to spend many thousands of dollars a year when I lived out in Vancouver. Now I am living in a little podunk town in Ontario and it's a 2 and a half hour drive into Toronto. It's really cut back on my play time because it's hard for me to justify the hassle of going into the city.

 

[HentaiRanger]

Take the red pill , go MGTOW then foucus on your self and life goals

-porn
- masturbation
-fleshlights
-love dolls
-slowly cut down how often you see escorts
-hobbies and interests that keep your mind off sex

 

[roxyfan]

Hi



Are there sex therapists in Toronto that people would recommend?
Should I try replacing the behaviour with some other productive hobby? Any advice would be
greatly appreciated.

Thank you!

https://mentherapytoronto.com/toronto-counselling-services-for-men/about/eric-pierni/


I used Eric Pierni as per link above.

First thing you should do is stop looking at porn and terb.

pM me and I can guide you through the counselling proces

 

[skoose]

I once thought that I should quit, it’s a waste of money, it’s risky for my marriage, it’s possible to contract an STI. I’ve rationalized all these concerns and I am now at peace.
1) waste of money: Fuck me! What is discretionsl money for if not to enjoy life. Are you going to wait until your retired? maybe sick? No! If you can afford it do it!
2) I finally came clean to my spouse (and oddly enough to the kids) . It was accepted and understood that I do this, but I still keep it very discreet
3) STI concern: I’ve studied the data and I’m pretty comfortable with the very, very low risks involved when you play safe. Sex also gives you a decent workout and unlike squash, the injury rate is almost zero.
4) Finally I come in contact with young hotties all the time at work and I cannot engage due to professional reputation risks.
The hobby keeps me from doing something stupid that can destroy my reputation and possibly my career.

I think 2-3 x per month is a totally reasonable hobby frequency. Guilt is not a rational reason to stop what you enjoy.


And let’s stop calling it an addiction if it’s not hurting your health, your ability to engage in normal relationships, and is not a financial burden.

I can totally understand that viewpoint. I'm reluctant to call it an addiction, too, as there's no withdrawal symptoms and does nothing bad to your health.
I think compulsion or 'impulse control issue' is more accurate. The result is the same, though: it's something I greatly enjoy doing but know I should stop
and I haven't been able to stop, at least so far.

 

[drlove]

You could also consider the legal risk of getting caught... the threat of a criminal record and jail time
has worked as a deterrent for some.

 

[bmwquay]

Move.

Move to a part of the country where it's very impractical to see providers. Find a little town or small city that is far enough away from a larger centre that it's impractical to go there just for a 45 minutes date.

I used to spend many thousands of dollars a year when I lived out in Vancouver. Now I am living in a little podunk town in Ontario and it's a 2 and a half hour drive into Toronto. It's really cut back on my play time because it's hard for me to justify the hassle of going into the city.

That has got to be the worse advice ever. That would also mean giving up on everything else a big city has to offer. Slice off your arm to get rid of that wart on your finger.

 

[CaveHobbit]

That has got to be the worse advice ever. That would also mean giving up on everything else a big city has to offer. Slice off your arm to get rid of that wart on your finger.

How badly do you want to solve the problem? Becuase it absolutely solves the problem. What do big cities offer that small ones don't? Grocery Stores? Movie Theaters? Pubs? Sports? Box Stores? Smaller centers have all of those. So what exactly are you giving up, other than access to your addiction?

 

[shack]

How badly do you want to solve the problem? Becuase it absolutely solves the problem. What do big cities offer that small ones don't? Grocery Stores? Movie Theaters? Pubs? Sports? Box Stores? Smaller centers have all of those. So what exactly are you giving up, other than access to your addiction?

As long as there's a Timmies, LCBO and Canadian Tire any hoser should be happy, eh?

 

[y2kmark]

Not seeing escorts? I understand doing a session blindfolded can be quite interesting...

 

[spraggamuffin]

We live in very carnal, self interested and Instant Gratification times.
It's not impossible to change this learned evolutionary response but it takes a commitment from you and it will take time.
Maybe aim towards thinking and doing for others instead of yourself.
Imagine how many poor kids that money for an hour of pleasure can help for instance.
Eventually you'll end up looking deeper at yourself and figuring out why you needed escorts in the first place.
why the satisfaction only lasted for a short time before you needed another fix, and why it will never truly satisfy beyond the flesh.
you'll not stop cold turkey but maybe gradually wean yourself off of it maybe by looking for deeper relationships with others beyond the physical.

 

[harryass]

try going from 1 to 2 visits a month to 1/month.
from 1 month go to 1/ 2 months
from 1/ 2 months go 1 / 3 months and so on.


Also start reducing going to Terb and other review sites.

 

[anon1]

Run out of money.

 

[glamphotographer]

Hi

I realize asking for advice on how to stop visiting escorts on TERB is the ultimate irony, but here goes.

I have been visiting escorts once or twice a month on average for the past 13 years. It's cost me
tens of thousands of dollars in that time. My health appears to be totally fine, but there's always
the possibility of contracting something, as we all know.

I have been trying to stop the hobby almost since day 1. I will tell myself 'this is the last time I'm
going to do this' but it never is. The reason, if I'm being honest, is that I love everything about it.
I love searching for beautiful women on TERB, reading the reviews, the anticipation of seeing the
lady and the session itself. The reality that sex with a beautiful woman is a mere few texts away
is incredibly hard to resist.

So, how do I stop this? Are there sex therapists in Toronto that people would recommend?
Should I try replacing the behaviour with some other productive hobby? Any advice would be
greatly appreciated.

Thank you!

Give all your hobby money to me.

 

[knob&tube]

Jerk off 3 or 4 times a day. Pay yourself $5 each time. End of the year decide what to do with the $6 or 7Gs

 

[legmann]

start reducing going to Terb and other review sites.

You'd think this one should be obvious.

Give all your hobby money to me.

Lol...

 

[Lancelot]

If you are having trouble discontinuing any behavior, it is best to see a therapist to assist you. I do not believe it necessarily has to be a sex therapist since your problem is not sexual in nature, but rather habitual. There are ways to work on resolving the issue. But like any habit or addition, like gambling, it is hard to go at it alone. So you should look to get some help. As part of that, you may want to install site blocking software on your computer and smartphone. But for that to work best, someone else will need to hold the admin password, not you. This may be something a therapist can assist you with. Best of luck to you.

 

[lumenon9]

I love this hobby. I love Toronto. I love Canada. Where else can you have sex with young, hot girls for a modest fee.

Please stop with all this "I have too quite nonsense"

thank-you.

L

 

[lumenon9]

I love this hobby. I love Toronto. I love Canada. Where else can you have sex with young, hot girls for a modest fee.

Please stop with all this "I have to quit nonsense"

thank-you.

L

corrected spelling.

 

[Mazzi]

I love this hobby. I love Toronto. I love Canada. Where else can you have sex with young, hot girls for a modest fee.

Please stop with all this "I have too quite nonsense"

thank-you.

L

OP is talking about his issue, stop talking about yours you inconsiderate self centred lumenon.

 

[Mazzi]

Start having bad experiences in the industry.
No better teacher than experience.