Is it possible for a provider to develop feelings for a client?

[lunaseraphim]

Hmmm. Yup, very true. I guess I just assumed the escort would think of me as a friend the exact same way as I do. I mean in a sense that she pretends we only ever met in the civi world. I definitely see the issue with my logic. Im
Slow, damn

I think of it as a friendship with boundaries. I'm fond of most of my clients but that doesn't mean I'll spend time for free or give away my real identity

 

[xmontrealer]

That's one of the very few advantages of me being super-old.

While I've had several regulars, say in the past 10 years, with whom I had a great time, and felt we really enjoyed each other's company "in the room", there is no world in which I could imagine a woman half my age, or much less, actually falling for me.

It sure kept things in perspective, and kept me from developing feelings for them beyond the true nature and limits of our relationships.

To name a few examples: Scarlett ex-HPL (my all-time fave), Daisy DD, Rebecca DD, Savannah ex-TGF and now DD, Cassie DD, Sarah ex-Mirage, and Zoey ex-TGF. Lots of laughs and fun together, and mutually enjoyable oral-only sex. And always an expression from them that they were looking forward to our next session (which I fully understand must have been standard operating procedure for most clients they liked).

La vie...

 

[IM469]

This topic seems to resurface every year or two. Your service provider is friendly, really seems to enjoy your company. I don't want to burst any fragile egos but has occurred to your that your attention is repeated for the next gentleman after you have paid your bill and left ? That is what makes her a good SP. Return business is based on that feeling you have that you are special. I can understand that you would like the same attention 24 hours a day without paying for it - wouldn't we all ?

What's in it for her other than losing a client for a stranger that she knows nothing about ? Your prime motivation to visit her is sex - enough that you would pay for it. You could have a wife or girlfriend that you are cheating on - not the solid foundation of successful relationships. If you don't have a girlfriend - why not ? Are you so socially awkward that the only approach you have with a woman is paying for sex ? Will she have to move into your parents basement ?

Maybe she is there to find the right guy to settle down with .... I can't knock the optimism, after all, I'm still buying lottery tickets.

 

[Sa10]

Well said ^

 

[Sa10]

This happened to me back in the old country - down in Melbourne on bizniss from Sydney and got an urge...rang up a cupids-like agency (outcall only) sent along the 23 yr old ebony lovely (I was a spry 54 at the time) I selected...and although not the lady in the pics she was lovely. We hit if off well, ended up knocking down the half size bottle of red, lots of laughs, and I mentioned how much I fully enjoyed her company and that if I were to date again I'd date someone like her. She then said "I'd date you for real." I laughed said something like "are you serious?" and she said yes. Thus I asked if she was up for catching another drink in the pub across the street and she said yes let's go. She rang her agency saying she wasn't feeling well and would get home from the hotel.
I joked to her once we got across the road "we'll, we're off to a ripper start here as I reckon we already know each other's deepest darkest secret" lol. She worked a few nights a week at this agency, had a medical supply company by day. Turns out she was 38, not 23 lol. We dated a few months, but she down in Melbourne and me in Sydney then heading back to NYC...so the distance did us in.

On our next night/date she popped into my hotel room, had a shower, plopped onto the bed spread her legs and said "I need you to eat my pussy and arse just like you did yesterday." Lol

OK enough humble brag (she said it was the best dato of her life lol). To bring it back around - during our dating it never occurred to me to ask her to stop escorting. I reckon to date her meant I either accept her as she is, or move on. If she wants to quit fine. If she doesn't, fine. But its her business. She had financial and other security issues as she (and her sister) were an orphans (half sudanese/half egyptian) who was adopted at age 6 and 7 and raised by white Aussie parents. Escorting was her way of being in control and not relying on others.

Don’t mind me asking sir.

Would you say you’re extremely handsome (objectively speaking) ?

don’t be modest.

 

[Sa10]

I, somewhat briefly, dated one of the highest rated SPs on this board. I saw her a couple times and she pursued me. I thought I could handle it but the jealousy (from me) was too much. It's a mindfuck to read reviews about them. Of course the solution would be to stay off terb, but curiosity gets the better of you.

Anyway, I don't think most people can handle it. I don't think you should entertain the idea.

You too sir. Same question.

 

[iceberglemon]

My situation with my friend is the exception not the rule.

SPs who help their clients retire from the hobby deserve the biggest props!

 

[Robert Mugabe]

 

[S1natra]

No matter how much rapport you build (e.g., staying longer, exchanging real names, socials, photos, details of personal life, etc.) you’re just a paycheck. Same as the guy who walked in 30m before you and 30m after you. In the very odd chance it’s more than that, why would you even want that?

 

[kherg007]

That’s a great story - it really does happen
Maybe it was the DATO that kept her back

Lol funny you're likely right!
About a year after we decided to go our own ways I shot her an email saying I was back in Oz and popping down to Melbourne for a day and she responded asking when and where... I told her my hotel and schedule and that i had about a 4 hour block in the arvo and she said " i'm baby sitting for my sister then." Oh well. I was in my hotel room later preparing work stuff and i get a text saying "still free?" I said yes are you going to pop over? And she said yes I'll be there in 20 ...whoa OK I time a shower and quickly tidy up the place - just in case - get out right before she shows up and i meet her in the lobby. She has her big boobies bouncing all over the place and says her sister got back early. i ask "wanna come up" she says sure, and she asks to have a shower once we get in the room. We're having a few laughs and reminiscing and I'm chatting with her whilst she's in the shower but still giving her privacy. She pops out and is physically facing me whilst drying off. I tell her "wow you still look fantastic" and she tosses the towel over a chair and hops over to the bed where i was sitting and says 'we got 2 hours.." Lol...i pull out some condoms and wave it around and said "i was hoping for this" and so we go at it. At the end were laying down cuddled then she says "now - I need you to be absolutely silent" and she goes over to the corner and rings someone and I heard muffled words but did hear "leaving my sister's now"...and then she tells me yes, that was her boyfriend, "he's nice, but he doesn't do those those things you do" lol. I gave her $100 to cover take a taxi vs public transport and she said thanks. I tried an email or two over the year and texting the following year to contact her but...nothing. oh well. It was a fantastic treat.

 

[kherg007]

Don’t mind me asking sir.

Would you say you’re extremely handsome (objectively speaking) ?

don’t be modest.

But I am modest. It is a tough question. I think i just look average. I keep in good nick, was a former athlete, healthy and been told I look younger than I am.
Hard to ask my fave ladies to comment due to the commercial component that might influence opinions lol.

 

[rockinglad]

Thank you for this

I don't want free money but I never knew it's possible for women to buy men gifts and food. I thought it felt unnatural to them biologically

And yeah I don't like dealing with women who hate men. It's such an unfair and dehumanizing mindset

So I have 4 questions:

1. Why do they hate men?

2. What's the level of hatred - is it like wanting to hurt us and cause us hardship in life or is it just not liking us?

3. Any way to tell if an escort does not hate men?

4. Could you elaborate more on the lonely part?

Thank you

You do realize that you're overgeneralizing and that sex workers differ as they are individuals. Can't just lump all together into one category, just like how clients can differ.
You should watch that "Us Vs Them" attitude that is so transparent in this post. If I were a sex worker, seeing as how you don't seem emotionally aware enough to handle her, having to come to a board to talk about this instead of conversing with her - I wouldn't date you either.

 

[Jenesis]

You do realize that you're overgeneralizing and that sex workers differ as they are individuals. Can't just lump all together into one category, just like how clients can differ.
You should watch that "Us Vs Them" attitude that is so transparent in this post. If I were a sex worker, seeing as how you don't seem emotionally aware enough to handle her, having to come to a board to talk about this instead of conversing with her - I wouldn't date you either.

I'm convinced it is a troll account.

 

[rockinglad]

I'm convinced it is a troll account.

Or someone who is so delusional about women... Not all that uncommon these days, sad to say. He needs to go out and touch grass.

 

[KenzieValentine]

I've heard somewhere that escorts don't have many options since most people wouldn't want to date a former escort. They can of course always lie about their past. However I was wondering if they would prefer a man who is a client since he may not judge her, and might accept her fully. Thus she sees him as a potential BF?

Never had an issue finding love lmao, I don’t know where you heard that but they’re most likely upset that an escort won’t see them so they have to create this lie that she’ll never find love to make themselves feel better

 

[Robert Mugabe]

It is indeed. My ATF developed feelings of total hatred for me. My mom used to say Hate isn't the opposite of love. Indifference is. So at least my ATF wasn't indifferent.

 

[lunaseraphim]

Never had an issue finding love lmao, I don’t know where you heard that but they’re most likely upset that an escort won’t see them so they have to create this lie that she’ll never find love to make themselves feel better

Same, I never had an issue finding love. People are more open minded than everyone here thinks

 

[tvi]

It does happen. It has happened to me... It took some time to develop but it was real. But as with many other kinds of relationships it came to an end. And no, I was/am not the "hot guy", though she was a super-hot woman, gorgeous. I'm also quite a lot older than she was. But over time a true friendship did build, I think it was beneficial to both of us at that time. Our personalities were quite complimentary, similar caustic sense of humour, similar smarts (yes sex workers can be highly intelligent - she was.) We had great sex, best ever for me, tons of laughs, lots of great conversation, emotional support when times became tough for each of us at different times, typical relationship stuff. It definitely hurt when it was over but I don't regret anything about it.

 

[rockinglad]

Hmmm. Yup, very true. I guess I just assumed the escort would think of me as a friend the exact same way as I do. I mean in a sense that she pretends we only ever met in the civi world. I definitely see the issue with my logic. Im
Slow, damn

Yeahh. Part of a provider's job is to sell you the fantasy from the moment they greet you to the moment they're out of your line of sight and out the door. It's up to you as a client to self regulate boundaries knowing that it is a service you hired and paid for. It's incredibly unfair to put that kind of expectation on a provider given that this is their job.

 

[kherg007]

Yeahh. Part of a provider's job is to sell you the fantasy from the moment they greet you to the moment they're out of your line of sight and out the door. It's up to you as a client to self regulate boundaries knowing that it is a service you hired and paid for. It's incredibly unfair to put that kind of expectation on a provider given that this is their job.

So true. And check out my signature below...says it all. Hence my surprise at that one time interaction by a lady to escalate. (Although I had a regular who we'd go have lunch after and she never charged any time but of course the meal was my shout). But as I indicate below - don't ask if it's real, only ask if you were entertained. And leave it at that.