Buddy, instinctual behavior is what gives us the urge to fuck not fall in love. Most people with an ounce of common sense know the difference. Reading your posts you would think that every girl I fucked I would have to fall in love with and that I don't have the intellectual capacity to differentiate between an orgasm and love.fuji said:Welcome to Being Human 101, no need to take notes, since hand outs will be provided. Lesson One: Instinctual Behavior trumps Rationality, or, Why Most People Get Together.
By real I mean you at least know her first name. It's silly to proclaim your love for someone you don't even know. How can you love someone if all the experience you have had with them is her servicing you sexually in a paid for environment? These guys that think they are so in love with escorts have no idea who it is that they are falling in love with.fuji said:"Real", "meaningful", sound like blinded ideology. By "real" you presumably mean something loaded up with all sorts of value judgements, by "meaningful" you mean something that fits a certain ideological standard. Well I prefer to pay attention to the actual world, rather than the "real" one.
Sure it is possible to be in love with more than one woman. I'm saying it is silly to think you are in love with a beautiful woman whom you don't even know that fucks you for money.fuji said:Here are some ugly facts that beat up on your beautiful theory of relationships: It is possible to be in love with more than one woman. Most relationships that last start out as irrational lust. It is possible to have close, intimate companionship with someone while cheating on them.
No that is not what I am saying. I am saying any guy that has a real relationship or has dated at all would probably have the judgemental skills to know that you can't love someone without even knowing the first thing about them and they would probably also understand that the environment that you fuck an escort in is contrived and phoney where she puts up a sexual facade for you to have your fantasy. Basically if you think that is an intimate situation or that it is love it is because your sense of reality has become warped because you have not had enough intimacy in real life situations with women.fugi said:Essentially you're saying it's impossible to fall in love with someone if you already have a "real" relationship, and that is sewage. People who are in real relationship fall in love with other people every day.
Yes you can. You can't help having the biological urge to want to fuck beautiful women but that doesn't mean you don't have the ability to ground yourself in reality and deconstruct your feelings to understand on a deeper level what they mean afterwards. Basically it is not that hard to understand being "in love" with a beautiful woman that you only know on a paid for sexual level is infatuation not love.fugi said:We can't help it. We're human,
You make it sound like love is just a biological instinct. You keep mistaking love for the biological imperative to procreate.fugi said:Developing feelings towards the person you are fucking is the product of a few million years of evolution. You can control yourself when it happens, you can avoid situations that cause it. You can see it coming and dodge the bullet, but you can't help that it will happen sometimes.
I am not going to respond to the rest because it is just you playing rank amateur psychologist and being defensive probably because you have thought you were in love with a million escorts too.