solitaria said:
thinking you are in love with the escort you are fucking because she feels good on your dick and looks hot is silly.
Welcome to Being Human 101, no need to take notes, since hand outs will be provided. Lesson One: Instinctual Behavior trumps Rationality, or, Why Most People Get Together.
It shows that you are lacking something meaningful which is a real relationship
"Real", "meaningful", sound like blinded ideology. By "real" you presumably mean something loaded up with all sorts of value judgements, by "meaningful" you mean something that fits a certain ideological standard. Well I prefer to pay attention to the actual world, rather than the "real" one.
Here are some ugly facts that beat up on your beautiful theory of relationships: It is possible to be in love with more than one woman. Most relationships that last start out as irrational lust. It is possible to have close, intimate companionship with someone while cheating on them.
Essentially you're saying it's impossible to fall in love with someone if you already have a "real" relationship, and that is sewage. People who are in real relationship fall in love with other people every day.
We can't help it. We're human,
Developing feelings towards the person you are fucking is the product of a few million years of evolution. You can control yourself when it happens, you can avoid situations that cause it. You can see it coming and dodge the bullet, but you can't help that it will happen sometimes.
for those people who haven't learned to interact with women (or have forgot)
Do you have some issues that you're working out? My experience is that people who are that judgemental are actually judging themselves in some way, rather than the people they purport to be pointing fingers at.
Is it hard to believe that someone can have close companionship and love with their SO, but still like to fuck other women?
It is the height of stupidity to proclaim that you are in love with an escort.
It's the height of stupidity to point fingers at other people's behavior when the truth is you yourself haven't comprehended the way the world works. I know someone who married an escort, they have a good strong relationship still going strong after ten years. Was it the height of stupidity for them to have those feelings, to still have them?
Splash some water on your face and see the world as it is.