How about marrying an escort?

[geokar]

clarifications

Ok. May be I wasnt clear enough, or didnt choose my words correctly. I didnt say that I am going to propose right away. But I was probing whether if it is even worth going that route.

So essentially,
part 1 - can somebody really marry and live their life with an ex SP?
Yes, it is possible. We have cases, rare though. Also how much of a maturity do you expect from an 18-19 year old before she started doing calls. And once u r in, its easy money and everybody loves easy money as Fuji rightfully pointed out. There is no quarantee that the so called elegant non SP woman was not screwing around before you ended up with her. The way I see it, all of us are in the same boat, only difference we pay money to have sex with a woman of our choice, while she gets money to have sex with somebody who might not be her choice in a normal situation ( I know guys will beat me up for this).

I have read reviews about some SPs "This SP has a bad attitude, doesnt want to do what shes doing, not into it". Isnt that a good indication that if she had a good enough choice she would have moved out of this?

part 2 - agreed that 1 hour is not enough for a good decision, but 1 hour is good enough for a thought. The entire marriage thing was a bit rushed.

 

[fantasiafan]

Posted earlier on but havent been keeping up....the thread is so long I was wondering if you married the girl yet?

 

[fuji]

Ok. May be I wasnt clear enough, or didnt choose my words correctly. I didnt say that I am going to propose right away. But I was probing whether if it is even worth going that route.

OK. Now it sounds like your feet are only 20 or 30 feet off the ground and at least your head is out of the clouds.

can somebody really marry and live their life with an ex SP?... We have cases, rare though.

Not only that, some guys actually marry and live their lives with a current SP. I don't think it is all that rare for an ex-SP to be happily married. I bet if someone could do a survey of ex-SP's, almost all of them eventually get married. But an SP is going to meet hundreds or thousands of guys during her career, the odds that YOU are going to be the one she falls in love with are low.. But this is the same with any woman situation, so really, if you can handle the heat, it won't hurt you to try.

I have read reviews about some SPs "This SP has a bad attitude, doesnt want to do what shes doing, not into it". Isnt that a good indication that if she had a good enough choice she would have moved out of this?

No. That's just means she's not as good as some other SP's at faking orgasms. Despite what they may say on TERB, there aren't any SP's who love having sex with their customers. What there are is SP's who love having lots and lots and lots of money.

I will say this again:

You don't accept who she is. You don't think she has made a valid choice with her life. You don't respect what she does for a living. You think there is something wrong with it, and you talk about wanting to "rescue" her and give her a "better" life than what she has because you think it must be a horrible choice and she must be pretty stupid or desperate to have done what she is doing.

Why would you want to marry someone you don't accept? Later if she does quit how are you going to have any respect for your wife at all if deep down inside you, you don't believe she makes valid choices? Will your marriage survive if she decides to go back to work for awhile? News flash: She MADE a valid choice, that's her, her life, and what she is, and wants to be, and you better like it if you want to love her.

She is going to be better off if she marries some guy who doesn't have such a big problem with her job, honestly. It sounds like that might not be you. You have some serious thinking to do about whether YOU can accept HER before you go ask her out on a date, because, what happens if she says yes?

Here is another thing:

An escort agency is not a dating service. There are lots of dating services out there, though. Have you tried lavalife or some other service? I mean, you are a bit more likely to find a woman looking for a relationship on lavalife than on the redzone.

 

[sizziler]

Geokar,

I am in a similar boat as you right now, except for the marriage part which scares the crap out of me. For me, my biggest goal here is to go out on a date with this SP and basically get to know more about her. She just captivates me and makes me feel alive and this feeling does not include when we get to the bedroom.

Just find your own way of telling her how she makes you feel and see what happens. This is just like the dating world, either you make it or you don't. Forget about the future and deal with the now and see if she is interested. If she is, then treat it like a regular relationship. You are a smart guy, all the questions posed here will be answered in due course. You will find out if she is into you are your wallet soon enough and you willl also find out if you are cool with her lifestyle/job.

The one thing you should think about is what will happen when these questions are answered. Just prepare yourself for the heart break or the gold digging or your jealous feelings. Hopefully you will keep yourself in check and continue to be a nice guy to her no matter what the outcome.

As far as the prenump and safeguarding your money, in this world today, I do not think it matters if she is a SP or not. If you got some money, get the prenump anyway. Greed plagues all of man kind not just SP.

Good luck Geokar.

P.S. Thank you for making this thread, making my responce has helped me to deal with my own situation.

 

[Don]

So essentially,
part 1 - can somebody really marry and live their life with an ex SP?
Yes, it is possible. We have cases, rare though. Also how much of a maturity do you expect from an 18-19 year old before she started doing calls. And once u r in, its easy money and everybody loves easy money as Fuji rightfully pointed out. There is no quarantee that the so called elegant non SP woman was not screwing around before you ended up with her. The way I see it, all of us are in the same boat, only difference we pay money to have sex with a woman of our choice, while she gets money to have sex with somebody who might not be her choice in a normal situation ( I know guys will beat me up for this).

It's more common than you think. Just look at the sheer number of SP's in not just Toronto but around the world. And I'm betting that many of these women have relationships and get married... simply because for the most part they are no different than women who aren't SP's. So it can easily work

I have read reviews about some SPs "This SP has a bad attitude, doesnt want to do what shes doing, not into it". Isnt that a good indication that if she had a good enough choice she would have moved out of this?

yep. But that kind of attitude is distressing because it means that their need of $$$ is so great that they are doing something that they do not want to do. That type of SP might be worse to get involved with than one who does it more willingly

part 2 - agreed that 1 hour is not enough for a good decision, but 1 hour is good enough for a thought. The entire marriage thing was a bit rushed.

One hour is not even enough for a thought. I've met SP's that make me feel like I am #1 and could totally fall for if I didn't know better.

 

[baltimoron]

This thread...

...should be moved to the Lounge, IMHO.

 

[Eli]

I think this thread is competing with the "Holocaust Deniers" thread for long windedness.