How about marrying an escort?

[Guy7]

One Dick

Hey folks,
Wanted to bounce this thought off to the forum. I have been knocked over by an escort - she sweet early 20s, blonde, and me 28, successful in life, handsome(though not the traditional model type), gentle, fun guy to be with(but I was so nervous and self conscious when I met her), never had a girl friend cauz I was so busy building my career and being a good son to my parents(recently buid them a new house). But this girl I just cant forget and want to spend my life with her if shes willing, quite strange ,eh? I am not crazy, she didnt appear to me like somebody who was in the business for sex, but some circumstances due to which she wanted more money. I am very curious to know about her, want to ask her "I will love and protect you my whole life. Will you leave all this and marry me?"

Folks, what do you say? How do I go about this? I am not somebody who quite understand women psychology.

Will she be satisfied by just having same old dick every day?
As SP's are so used to Variety & # game is their life + $$$'s in their wallets while enjoying & having fun?

 

[twobigo]

the last few lines say it all...you may be a "rescuer" a "saviour" and after you rescue her and save her then what happens?

 

[our_kid]

wow, a lot of good things said in this thread. I think the big thing is you said you never had a gf and already want to marry some girl -- you seriously need to examine your emotions at that point -- that's a like a blind man picking porn

but, there is really no hurt in testing the water with her -- find out if she is already involved, what she's like outside of the job, etc. also, in this country, women generally like to be whinned and dinned, and loved and romanced before marriage -- I don't know how much "saving", "rescuing", and "protecting" they really seek (I'm not a woman, so I could be wrong)

personally, I don't think I could ever date and sp (or dancer) just because I could never trust their intentions; e.g. are they really interested in me, or my repeat business/money? and you too should be careful of that

 

[homonger]

personally, I don't think I could ever date and sp (or dancer) just because I could never trust their intentions; e.g. are they really interested in me, or my repeat business/money? and you too should be careful of that

I tend to agree, but you could flip this question around and the female could be asking, is he really interested in me as a person, or because I give him really hot sex? Frankly, the money/sex transaction has been going on since time began, so there are worse reasons to get involved with someone.

Even though I am skeptical, I agree with those who think that if this fellow is truly smitten, that then he should act upon it. There aren't that many opportunities in life, and one should not go through life with regrets.

 

[NetSpy]

Question

I just wanted to pool in my 2 cents:

How would you react when someone says that he paid to spend 1/2 hour or 1 hour with your WIFE in the past. What if a couple of people say the same? How would you feel about this fact and would that not cause a rift between you two? Would you be able to put this fact behind and move on?

Step back for a minute, maybe you think you are able to say "no problem" to my question above. Now spin the situation a bit and imagine that your best pal says now that he had a great time with your Potential GF last week. How would you feel about that!

If you still think or say "No Problems", than you have my blessings!

 

[Travis Bickle]

who cares?

Marry the girl. what the hell......

As socrates said, 'By all means, marry1 If you marry well, you willbecome happy! If you marry badly, you will become a philosopher!'



Some would say that marrying a hooker is like buying a used taxi, however, having had serious relationships with a couple of working girls, I can truthfully say that they can be as delightful as any 'straight' girl, with the added benefit of having a woman who (being bi, as most of them are) will ogle passing hotties along with you!

Had one of my dulcineas not slipped and gone back to her crack addiction I would have gladly made a go of it with her.

 

[ivanatinkle]

My deductions:

Geokar is from India. Or a country culturally similar. He has seen the movie Bollywood Hollywood. And is wondering if he can have the same ending as that movie.

Jokes aside geokar, if you are honest with yourself about your feelings, are honest and accepting about her background, and reality, go for it. If you don't pursue what you really and truly want you will regret it for the rest of your life. Take it from someone who has already made that mistake and regrets it everyday.

Movies like Pretty Woman and Bollywood-Hollywood are just that - movies, fantasy, make belief.
Get back to reality - the SP business is just that, a business, the SPs primary reason is to make $$. Guys like the SP experience for the services (fantasy)they provide as well as the variety. There are dual standards when it comes to this sort of thing, guys want a lady in the street but a freak in the bed. From a cultural and society perspective, - if you can take your future wife home to meet your parents (meet the parents another good movie) - and not have to lie to them about her past, your past, or where you met, then proceed.

As some of the other posts have mentioned, if you're comfortable with who she's slept with and she with whom you've slept with, then you may be able to make this work.

What you do is up to you, but my recommendation is remember the fantasy and snap yourself back to reality.

(And I say this as a single guy whose been with many an SP and also dated a few women outside the business).

 

[homonger]

Is it possible there is someone even more random than maryland?

Hey, buddy, if you are going to shill, at least put it in the right place.

Really, isn't it time we start putting some kind of requirement on who can be on this board?

 

[wooly110]

....
by the way...you do realise along with a ring comes NO BJ'S...its all part of the marriage contract

annalee

Shhhh...not so loud. Mrs. Wooly might here you. After 17 years, I don't want anyone jinxing it.

 

[ivanatinkle]

??

So Geokar, what did you decide???

 

[Luv4Myself]

Can I still book this chick after you marry her? She is good....

 

[fuji]

Geokar, two things:

First, it is just NUTS to talk about getting married with a woman you don't know. This has nothing to do with her being a prostitute. This has to do with her being a woman. You gotta go out on dates and get to know her for, oh, a year or two, before you can even START to think about marriage.

Second, you gotta accept who she is RIGHT NOW. If you want to date an SP or marry one it is my personal philosophy that you had better be prepared to take her AS IS. Meaning, you have to be comfortable with the idea that she will STILL BE WORKING while you are together, that she is going to stick with this job for the long run.

Your talk of "rescuing" her and "supporting" her sends up a massive red flag. Dude, she has more money than you, she does NOT need your support. She's the one with the cash and no matter how successful you are, you don't have the kind of cash she has. She does not need your help, she has a better job than you do.

Now, SHE might decide that she would prefer to quit her job in order to make the marriage work better. SHE might do that, and in many cases, that is what happens. But that has to be HER choice, and she has to be FREE to make that choice. She has to be free to change her mind about it later too!!!

Why do I say this? Because here is why: If you cannot accept who she is right now today then you will NOT accept who she WAS later. You will sit there rolling around with jealosy every time some guy smiles at her on the street. You will think, "did that guy fuck her?" It will wreck your marriage.

ONLY if you accept who she is TODAY should you think about being with this woman. And, since you don't know a bloody thing about her, you are not in any position to be thinking this anyway.

But, by all means, call her up and tell her you thought she was nice and ask her out on a date. Treat her like an ordinary woman. That's what she is, down deep. Just one who fucks for money and maybe ALWAYS will.

 

[ruck]

The most sensible but hilariously crude post regarding this thread.
Cudos to you fuji, my respect for you has been noted.
Ciao

 

[steviewonder]

Another useless thread!

 

[niplust]

Geokar, two things:

Treat her like an ordinary woman. That's what she is, down deep. Just one who fucks for money and maybe ALWAYS will.

Is anyone married to a woman who does not fuck for money?

The difference is that with an SP you pay up front with cash in an envelope and you can chose whether you want to repeat or save your cash. With a wife you pay for their lifestyle and keep paying even if you decide to split up.

Wish I understood this relationship 30 years ago.

Cheers,

NL

 

[fuji]

Is anyone married to a woman who does not fuck for money?

The difference is that with an SP you pay up front with cash in an envelope and you can chose whether you want to repeat or save your cash. With a wife you pay for their lifestyle and keep paying even if you decide to split up.

Wish I understood this relationship 30 years ago.

Cheers,

NL

My wife works and pays her own way. I rather suspect there are qutie a few of us in the modern world where both spouses work and earn good incomes. I have a much better lifestyle owing to my wife's working than I would be able to afford if I lived alone. Having someone to split the mortgage really help!

As for the "they are all just lazy", you know what? If I coudl make that kind of cash for that little work, I would be lazy too! If I were a hot young chick with an awesome body I might do that job too, it's a lot less work than what I have to do to earn money! Who wouldn't do it, if they could? Tell me you wouldn't rather live a lazy lifestyle too.

 

[fuji]

You could retire at 30. Who needs a fall back?

I don't buy this "My life sucks because I can't save money because I can't open a bank account because I won't pay my taxes because it's too expensive" it's BS. Pay some taxes for crying out loud, the CRA doesn't care or need to know what you do, and it's not a crime anyway, so pay up! You don't have to report EVERY dollar you earned, but again, if you report a chunk of it, you can have savings!!

Ya there are labels. You really would BE a prostitute. Get used to it, you don't earn that kind of money for absolutely nothing at all, you earn it because people will call you a prostitute, which you are. A rich one, that retires at 30. Cry me a river.

If I were a hot young chick I wouldn't WANT to fuck everyone who showed up at my door either, but you know what? For $200/hour I would, and for $200/hr I wouldnt' care what other people thought about it either.

 

[niplust]

You could retire at 30. Who needs a fall back?

I think this is a bit optimistic. Yes, in theory, a busy independent SP can clear $200,000 K or more a year tax free. In 5 years of work she can (in theory) save a million and retire. However, this is almost never the case. Most girls work for agencies and they clear less than $100 K a year (still tax free). Also, they almost always get addicted to spending. They drive BMWs or Mercedes, buy expensive condos or houses and spend money like water thinking that it will always be there.

Over almost 25 years of hobbying I have had this disucssion with many SPs. Very few have any plans beyond the next weekend party. I know that sounds steroptypical. But in my experience it is common.

Also, most of these girls burn out quickly. You can see it yourself as they come on the scene with great fanfare and drop out after a year or so.

Cheers,

NL

 

[massman]

Back to the original topic. Ther are two issues here. This first is that of a serious relationship with an SP. the second is that of jumping into a serious relationship (ie marrieage) too soon.
Issue 1. Basically has been discussed here and many times in this forum. While ther are rare cases where SPs becom einvolved with clients ( after all they are human too, and many of us form relationships with those we meet at work) but it is massively complicated. Will you expect her to stop escorting? Will she always wonder if you are continuing to hobby? Will always worry that she is comparing yourself to past / present clients? What about when she turns you down for sex? Will you say - "well if I was paying you'd do it" etc etc etc...... I've been infatuated a few times, by some fantastic ladies, but soon relaized it would go nowhere. But if you really want to, start slow....which brings us to #2
Issue 2. To put it in perspective, you've met this girl once, for an hour or so. Say you get married, and live togheter till you die in 50 yrs. Thats 438000 hours by my calculation. You know nothing about her. Love at first sight? Bollocks. Doesn't happen. Sure we all know people who fell in love the first time thay met and knew it was right bla bla bla. The problem is we only hear about those. Nobody writes a romantic comedy the 99.9999% of people who fall in love at first sight, and when they go on a second date 1/2 way through they realize they cant stand each other. You met her in a fantasy world. On a movie set. It's like an actor falling in love with his co star's character. You need to get to know her in real life. How she is when she's had a bad day. How she is when you've been away for a week and she has had to deal wiht paying all the bills, cooking meals , doing laundry cleaning house etc with no support from you. How she is when you come home late from work. How she is when you want to go out wiht the guys. How she is when you are in the mood and she isn't. This is what you need to deal with over those 400000 plus hours, so you need to do some homework to learn about her. By all means, if she wants, date her, take her to dinner, watch a vid at home. Go to wonderland. YouNEED to find about her as a person. And furthermore, if she wants to marry you after onehour, dont walk away.....RUN. No offense, but if she wants to spend the next 400000 hours with you after knowning you for 1, she's messed up. And finally if you are getting married because of family pressure, how will your family react if they find out she was an escort? Remember its you marrying her not your mom and dad. ...

 

[homonger]

Thats 438000 hours by my calculation.

438000 hours? As Charlie Brown would say..."AUGH!!"

Quite possibly the most frightening post I've read in a long time.