FYI to SP's

[vtech763]

Story sounds like bullshit. Sounds like you are being a drama bitch

oooooookaaayyyy! I didn't want to start any kind of crazy shit. First off....story is not bullshit.

Secondly, yes, I could do more to ensure that I don't get burned and I acknowledged that. For example (as Sweet Jessica pointed out) informaing of a best time to message would be helpful, I'm sure. But I do understand (as Alona pointed out) it can, at times, be difficult to know exactly when texts were sent.

All I was saying was that if SP's can be a bit more vigilant and ultra careful about when they are sending their texts, it would be most appreciated. To Femme Fatale...no I don't expect the ladies to know when I'm with family or married (but you have to understand that many of your clients can be, and probably are married). As far as caring and knowing better....I did assume that. Becuase if you don't care about your cleint's discretion then I shouldn't care about giving you my business.

 

[Kyra.Graves]

I think it basically comes down to if you are concerned about when a text will be coming in, if that message could have serious consequences for you, then don't book by text. If a lady you wish to see only books by text and you don't feel comfortable texting because the reply may be received at a time that might be inconvenient for you and thus have serious consequences... don't text. You don't actually need to see any particular lady that badly and if you do then you need to understand there are risks and consequences. The lady may be out of town, your text may be delayed because of an issue on the server or perhaps you missed a statement in her website (or ads or whatever) where she states she will return messages within 24hrs unless otherwise requested thus she feels it's reasonable to reach out to you several hours later as you did not request otherwise.

There are many things that can go wrong or be misunderstood and as each lady has her own booking policy and procedure you need to find what you are most comfortable with and mitigate your own risk, if text message is risky for you call, if however you do not wish to field phone calls try email, etc. In this world of quick and easy communication your options are not limited and you should be able to find a number of very wonderful, intelligent and attractive companions that will have a booking policy that suits your needs.

 

[Ms.FemmeFatale]

To Femme Fatale...no I don't expect the ladies to know when I'm with family or married (but you have to understand that many of your clients can be, and probably are married). As far as caring and knowing better....I did assume that. Becuase if you don't care about your cleint's discretion then I shouldn't care about giving you my business.

I totally agree. If they don't care, you should not care about giving them your business. 100%

But they are not the ones who have something serious to lose because you don't care. They will have another call and give them cash. You lose your wife, kids, family respect, etc plus more.

I also get that most clients of SPs are married or have family, etc and discretion is the key. I totally get that.

My point is simply this, you are the one at risk to lose something so you need to take the responsibility and not leave it the hands of others.

I use to know an SP who had no problem taking the money from a client and at the same time, setting him up for his wife to find out. Why? Because she thought all men were worthless dogs and if they are cheating, they deserve everything they lose because of it. She was a nasty piece of work. A true man hater if I ever saw one. She didn't care if she lost a client because of it. Why? She had a another line up guys waiting to pony up the cash to see her.

We all have things in life where we say "if this happen, then it would be so much better for me" and while true, this is the real world. It just doesn't happen that way all the time. With something as risky as this, I would not reply on other people making it easier for me.

It is the assumptions that someone is professional, discrete or as I said, even cares about your situation that caused you the possible outting first and foremost before the SP's who did the actual delayed text reply.

That is all I meant. I hope you were not offended.

 

[vtech763]

I was not offended at all. And I hope you didn't take offence either. I wish to leave his discussion as is and it would be reasonable to say that there things on my end to avoid bad situations, and also there are things and SP should take into consideration. Good conversation everyone! The input was most appreciated.

 

[Ms.FemmeFatale]

I was not offended at all. And I hope you didn't take offence either. I wish to leave his discussion as is and it would be reasonable to say that there things on my end to avoid bad situations, and also there are things and SP should take into consideration. Good conversation everyone! The input was most appreciated.

Agreed and no offense taken either hon.

A good lesson on both sides for all who read it.

 

[Nate1]

I totally agree. If they don't care, you should not care about giving them your business. 100%

But they are not the ones who have something serious to lose because you don't care. They will have another call and give them cash. You lose your wife, kids, family respect, etc plus more.

I also get that most clients of SPs are married or have family, etc and discretion is the key. I totally get that.

My point is simply this, you are the one at risk to lose something so you need to take the responsibility and not leave it the hands of others.

I use to know an SP who had no problem taking the money from a client and at the same time, setting him up for his wife to find out. Why? Because she thought all men were worthless dogs and if they are cheating, they deserve everything they lose because of it. She was a nasty piece of work. A true man hater if I ever saw one. She didn't care if she lost a client because of it. Why? She had a another line up guys waiting to pony up the cash to see her.

We all have things in life where we say "if this happen, then it would be so much better for me" and while true, this is the real world. It just doesn't happen that way all the time. With something as risky as this, I would not reply on other people making it easier for me.

It is the assumptions that someone is professional, discrete or as I said, even cares about your situation that caused you the possible outting first and foremost before the SP's who did the actual delayed text reply.

That is all I meant. I hope you were not offended.

I was not offended at all. And I hope you didn't take offence either. I wish to leave his discussion as is and it would be reasonable to say that there things on my end to avoid bad situations, and also there are things and SP should take into consideration. Good conversation everyone! The input was most appreciated.

Agreed and no offense taken either hon.

A good lesson on both sides for all who read it.

Yes, and thanks to the female members for offering their perspective.

 

[explorerzip]

Thanks for everyone on this thread that didn't turn it into a typical 'black hole' of mud slinging about what SP's and clients should and shouldn't do. Way too many people bitching about these kinds of things.

 

[d_jedi]

Damned if you do, damned if you don't.
The counterpoint to "she replied to my text message when I was with my SO!!" is
"she never bothered replying to my text message!!"

 

[Celticman]

well just know that I for one will be mindful of how long it's been since receipt of a text before I respond. This thread was helpful.

Alona makes a good point... if you text an inquiry and get no response what do you do? ... do you try that lady again another time? or do the majority of you move on to someone else? just curious ...

I only text once, BUT I specify respond anytime as no SO involved. Otherwise I would specify a time to respond and then if no response I would try again, assuming she could not call within that time frame.

 

[wigglee]

I think your wrong. You started by texting her first, which to me gives permission for her to respond back. If you needed her to respond in a certain amount of time then you should have made that clear in your first message. How is she supposed to know when its save to respond. Whenever I text someone I see it like sending a private message, sorta like leaving a voicemail message. I assume you will respond whenever you get the message which can be who knows how long. If I needed a response within a certain time frame, I would make it clear in my message.

As far as I am concerned these ladies didn't just message you out of the blue, they were responding to your message. Just because you weren't prepared for it shouldnt be their fault. Next time phone them direct and not leave a message or just send them another message if they take to long letting them its been too long and ask them not to respond.

If your playing with fire then you need to protect yourself. You can't expect people to do it for you.



Thanks


Nicole

wrong..............any pro with class knows better than to message a client unless it is within an hour of his messaging you. You are also playing with fire if you make a living sexing married men behind their wife's back and the men expect and require discretion.

 

[Celticman]

wrong..............any pro with class knows better than to message a client unless it is within an hour of his messaging you. You are also playing with fire if you make a living sexing married men behind their wife's back and the men expect and require discretion.

I would say that it is primarily the married man who is playing with fire. He should be organised, anticipate all eventualities, and have a tried and trusted system that does NOT include a personal phone.

 

[dondada]

well just know that I for one will be mindful of how long it's been since receipt of a text before I respond. This thread was helpful.

Alona makes a good point... if you text an inquiry and get no response what do you do? ... do you try that lady again another time? or do the majority of you move on to someone else? just curious ...

well for me...if I pm someone and get no response within a time frame that i suggest...usually factoring in travel time and possible traffic delay...i do look to make alternative arrangements...

Unless someone has absolutely no plans for the day and wishes to wait...they may try again...txt being the quickest and most discreet method (speaks the guy with nightmarish logistics... being the last of the phoneless hobbyists)

 

[pignickbb]

I usually text when I feel I'm in a safe time frame for me and whoever I'm texting, then make sure I turn off my phone when I'm with my SO. Mind you it's easier when your SO works nights and you work days, but if I am ever worried about getting a text that I might have to answer for I just make sure my phone is turned off. Emails work well too.

 

[Nate1]

Alona makes a good point... if you text an inquiry and get no response what do you do? ... do you try that lady again another time? or do the majority of you move on to someone else? just curious ...

When I want to see a woman I will continue to want to see her even if I can't schedule something that day/week. I will reach out again. Don't worry about lost opportunities I expect it is net neutral as you will get dates when other girls can't respond equal to the ones you loose as you can't respond.

In most cases I use email for dates that are for some time in the future. For me texting is for more immediate dates and I would usually phone for that. In the text/phone instances I will usually mention a phone by time.

 

[Catherine St.Claire]

And people wonder why I'm an email only kinda girl...

cat

 

[groggy]

Am I wrong? Please share your thoughts.

Yup.

I agree with the ladies here.
Its up to you to cover your own ass, its up to them to reply when they can unless they have instructions otherwise.
Learn your lesson and move on.

 

[Art Mann]

And people wonder why I'm an email only kinda girl...

cat

You're my kind of lady, Miss Cat.

 

[milehigh]

I say if you text someone, and want a response in a certain time frame, you should say so. SP's might be booked/ busy at work or any other normal functions and not have the ability to get back soon.

When I text an SP, I realize she might not get back that same day or whatever, but I do like them to get back. Otherwise you would get into the thing when you are texting all the time.

Personally, I don't mind a text at any time. And, if I have texted someone and it takes them a while to get back to me, it is no problem.

If there is someone I want to see, and they don't get back to me, I usually don't bother to send repeat messages. I figure they are unavailable or whatever.

I haven't even minded a text from someone I've seen previously saying that they are in town and available in the next week.


TO ANSWER THE QUESTION:

Depends.... a real regular, I'll text back. Otherwise, there's a pretty good chance I'll move on to another number if I get no response.

 

[massman]

Rule should be that a delayed text response should only happen if invited. And NEVER "advertise" innan unsolicited fashion by text. Similarly by phone, the only time to talk to the client is a)when he has called you or b)during a time when he has asked you to call back. I called a girl the other day, asked to book at a specific time, she offered a later time, and i said no i will be busy after "X". So then she calls me back after time "X"!??!! Wtf. Not a big deal for me, but what if i was like the op at thanksgiving dinner with the folks!!!
I have also had travelling sps and agencies text out of the blue, months after the last visit announcing their arrival back in town. Silly, whether or not the client has a hobby phone.

 

[Medman52]

Alona makes a good point... if you text an inquiry and get no response what do you do? ... do you try that lady again another time? or do the majority of you move on to someone else? just curious ...

To me an unreturned text means "not interested", I move on.