Needed advice and wanted to see if anyone has been in a similar situation – i’ll try and be brief:
About 2 months – back in Feb ago my co-worker told me that she would have gone out with me if she was single. I thought nothing of it and ignored her comments however after 2 weeks i started developing feelings for her. The thing is that we sit right next to each other at work and we know each other extremely well (think of it as a work-wife/husband sort of role). She has a boyfriend however and they’ve been together for approx 2.5yrs.
Toward the end of Feb i asked her about the comment she had made earlier and we had a long talk where we expressed our feelings for each other however we left on the note that she couldn’t leave her bf and she had more feelings for him. After we had the conversation where we opened up to eachother her feelings for me increased tremendously to the point that there was sexual tension. We started going out for dinners etc etc.
3 weeks ago she told me that all she now has feelings for me that are far greater than for her bf and how she wanted to get intimate. She also started telling me she wanted to leave her bf and was really confused. At this point i told her that getting physical was not a good idea and we’d hang out until she made up her mind to leave her bf (whom she was planning on marrying eventually).
Fast forward to last night – i caved in and slept with her. She also told me that she’s compare me to her bf and she wants to leave him based on certain things that she’s not getting out of her current relationship (her bf however is not a bad guy according to her and treats her well). She wants a long-term partner and we discussed the possibility of a long-term relationship together (it helps that we’re extremely good friends).
Some of my buddies have planted the seed of doubt in me – here’s my dilemma...if she can dump her bf of 2.5yrs what’s stopping her from doing the same to me??? She’s already cheated on him but she feels extremely guilty and she’s gonna tell the bf that she wants to break up coz their long-term values are not consistent. She wants to do this over the span of the next 2-3 weeks. Also next week she’s going on a cruise with the bf but is not sure if she wants to bring it up during the cruise.
I’m not sure what to think of this coz i really like the girl but a part of me thinks she’s cheated once and she could do it again.
Any input is appreciated.
About 2 months – back in Feb ago my co-worker told me that she would have gone out with me if she was single. I thought nothing of it and ignored her comments however after 2 weeks i started developing feelings for her. The thing is that we sit right next to each other at work and we know each other extremely well (think of it as a work-wife/husband sort of role). She has a boyfriend however and they’ve been together for approx 2.5yrs.
Toward the end of Feb i asked her about the comment she had made earlier and we had a long talk where we expressed our feelings for each other however we left on the note that she couldn’t leave her bf and she had more feelings for him. After we had the conversation where we opened up to eachother her feelings for me increased tremendously to the point that there was sexual tension. We started going out for dinners etc etc.
3 weeks ago she told me that all she now has feelings for me that are far greater than for her bf and how she wanted to get intimate. She also started telling me she wanted to leave her bf and was really confused. At this point i told her that getting physical was not a good idea and we’d hang out until she made up her mind to leave her bf (whom she was planning on marrying eventually).
Fast forward to last night – i caved in and slept with her. She also told me that she’s compare me to her bf and she wants to leave him based on certain things that she’s not getting out of her current relationship (her bf however is not a bad guy according to her and treats her well). She wants a long-term partner and we discussed the possibility of a long-term relationship together (it helps that we’re extremely good friends).
Some of my buddies have planted the seed of doubt in me – here’s my dilemma...if she can dump her bf of 2.5yrs what’s stopping her from doing the same to me??? She’s already cheated on him but she feels extremely guilty and she’s gonna tell the bf that she wants to break up coz their long-term values are not consistent. She wants to do this over the span of the next 2-3 weeks. Also next week she’s going on a cruise with the bf but is not sure if she wants to bring it up during the cruise.
I’m not sure what to think of this coz i really like the girl but a part of me thinks she’s cheated once and she could do it again.
Any input is appreciated.
