Well, except for the fact that she outed Mr. Kirk to you...ogibowt said:
There are many aspects to discretion in this hobby and she trampled all over a big one.
can't stand this kind of hobbyist...
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There are many aspects to discretion in this hobby and she trampled all over a big one.Mr. ogibowt/twobigo: I did read and understand your post. You apparently missed my point which was that she should have never told you who JTK was at any point. She had no idea if you caught a glance of him or not.ogibowt said:
And I'll even refrain from taking a shot at your comprehension skills... particularly when it comes to the meaning of the word "discretion."
BTW, if she was looking at you the entire time and knew that you didn't catch even a glimpse of JTK (which would mean that she wasn't looking at him at any point), then I apologize...
apology accepted ..ignore my above post..Captain Fantastic said:Mr. ogibowt/twobigo: I did read and understand your post. You apparently missed my point which was that she should have never told you who JTK was at any point. She had no idea if you caught a glance of him or not.
And I'll even refrain from taking a shot at your comprehension skills... particularly when it comes to the meaning of the word "discretion."
BTW, if she was looking at you the entire time and knew that you didn't catch a glimpse of JTK (which would mean that she wasn't looking at him), then I apologize...
Rylan: did you miss the part where I said the dude was wrong? Guess so. Want to borrow my contact lens'????
As for verbal diarrhea, I guess you'd know eh? You're right up there with me! lol
As for fault, yeah, if an sp is dumb enough to use her personal phone for her sp business, yeah, it's her fault and to compare that to a woman getting raped, well, that's just dumb. Kind of like someone using their real name as a handle here on terb then complaining because people know his real name....(both are stupid moves).
Oh, since you have a reading comp problem, I didn't say the OP IS fabulous, I said (and you even quoted me) her posts have the undertones of Fabulous' posts. Since you don't understand, let me explain it to you: both have this underlying "tone" of hatred towards men in general and one of anger.
As for saying it is ok, don't put words in my post please. I never said it was OK, I said it shouldn't be unexpected because in case you don't realize it, GUYS DO THAT!!! DOH
As for verbal diarrhea, I guess you'd know eh? You're right up there with me! lol
As for fault, yeah, if an sp is dumb enough to use her personal phone for her sp business, yeah, it's her fault and to compare that to a woman getting raped, well, that's just dumb. Kind of like someone using their real name as a handle here on terb then complaining because people know his real name....(both are stupid moves).
Oh, since you have a reading comp problem, I didn't say the OP IS fabulous, I said (and you even quoted me) her posts have the undertones of Fabulous' posts. Since you don't understand, let me explain it to you: both have this underlying "tone" of hatred towards men in general and one of anger.
As for saying it is ok, don't put words in my post please. I never said it was OK, I said it shouldn't be unexpected because in case you don't realize it, GUYS DO THAT!!! DOH
Actually, if she wasn't cool with it, then she wouldn't be the woman for me. See, the big difference here folks is I HAVE NOTHING TO HIDE. I don't shout from the rooftops that I see sp's, but if anyone asked I'd tell them the truth.Captain Fantastic said:It's called empathy with maybe a sprinkling of perspective and common sense. Some people have it, others don't.
That's tboy logic at its finest once more. I pray for the day he's with a girl on a serious date and an escort comes up to him and says "Hey tboy, how you doin'? It's been a long time - I'd love to see you again!" while slipping him her phone number. Somehow, I don't think it would be all cool then.
The problem with you people is you're somehow somewhat ashamed of the fallout of someone daring to find out what you do/did/were. I for one (just recently) had a convo with an sp that I would have no problem dating a woman who worked as an sp because WHO AM I TO JUDGE?
YOU ARE NOT THE SERVICE PROVIDER SWEETHEART. I think it is great that you do not judge service providers, but with all due respect, we love our privacy and like to maintain a balance between fantasy and REALITY.tboy said:
Never said I was dear....and I can understand why some like to keep parts of their lives separate and that is their choice. But please, don't bitch at us when (in the words of George Castanza) those two separate worlds collide lol....Angela@Mirage said:
As I sympathize with EXGFE's plight. Sp's need to understand that since they provide a fantasy to many homely and lonely men, they do set themselves up for this kind of encounter.
You said this client had seen you 3 times, which means you made him feel special and desireable (just doing your job). You may have paid him compliments to boost his ego in return for future business. And now this fool feels like you may actually really like him. So he approaches you in public thinking it's OK, and that you'd be sooo delighted to see him.
Hobbyists need to understand that regardless of how an SP makes you feel, it's all superficial and fantasy based pleasure for money.
If you want the real thing get a girlfriend.
You said this client had seen you 3 times, which means you made him feel special and desireable (just doing your job). You may have paid him compliments to boost his ego in return for future business. And now this fool feels like you may actually really like him. So he approaches you in public thinking it's OK, and that you'd be sooo delighted to see him.
Hobbyists need to understand that regardless of how an SP makes you feel, it's all superficial and fantasy based pleasure for money.
If you want the real thing get a girlfriend.
Captain, your scenario would make me look like a hero, and should have no impact on my current date.Captain Fantastic said:It's called empathy with maybe a sprinkling of perspective and common sense. Some people have it, others don't.
That's tboy logic at its finest once more. I pray for the day he's with a girl on a serious date and an escort comes up to him and says "Hey tboy, how you doin'? It's been a long time - I'd love to see you again!" while slipping him her phone number. Somehow, I don't think it would be all cool then.
If I was with my wife (who I had been married to for 5 years). exGFE comes by and says "hey slowandeasy, how you doing? It's been a long time. Last year you used visit me every month, what happened? " while slipping me her phone number...
Now that is alot more difficult.
Don't apologize... no matter what the circumstances, she should not have told him anything..Captain Fantastic said:
To give her the benefit of the doubt... perhaps she had just seen William Shatner, and not James T. Kirk.
I know first hand that there are many many fools on TERB who have no clue about how to act properly.
I had befriended one member because we seemed to like the same kind of women. He seemed intelligent and discrete, so we shared some information back and forth thru PMs. We had one SP in particular that we both saw regularly. This SP was always asking me about TERB etc, but I told her I had no interest in any kind of review board etc...
I was quite floored when she "outed" me in one of our meetings. I soon became enraged when I found out that my "friend" had copied and pasted my PMs about her to her, including a very important topic that she should not have been given info about.
My point is that if you are going to participate in this industry, you have to be prepared to deal with some (perhaps many) fools.
LOL Robin... but that was not rain that was falling just now... it was verbal diarrhea...ihunter said:
Well I certainly didn't expect a little venting to draw so much attention. I guess that is how the board works. I do appreciate all the people that understand that this is not something that can be taken lightly. The fact that there is potential threats that I cannot predict or attempt to account for means to me ithat I don't want to take that risk. It is so hypocritical to say that it is not a big deal. Just a simple few words on a board about a certain provider would stop you from seeing them, yet I say it is no big deal, just a bad session, happens all the time, shouldn't bad mouth escorts, they are not all bad. Puh-lease...the very reason why this board is here is to protect against potential bad providers. You don't see us ladies having a forum to discuss and gossip about bad clients nevermind good clients. Let us at least not just label this as just another guy trying to approach a girl. Precaution should always be taken and if not then fantasy has already taken over.
As for me setting myself up for this. well i will accept that statement only if you can admit that you guys set yourself up for getting ripped off, falling in love for imaginary reasons, and most obviously undertand that their will be lables put on you true or not. Like the whole older guy with young girl in public. Sure it could be your employee, your babysitter, your wife, your daughter, but the truth is she is not. Remember that a huge factor in making those kind of things look regular in public heavily depends on the girl. And trust me, I was not exactly friendly with the guy i mentioned. You can lie to yourself, resent yourself, and hope people see it your way with no suspicion. whatever makes you sleep at night. when i say i can spot it a mile away, I really can tell when a girl might be an escort. I know because when I worked, I had good people that would tell me, warn me, educate me on the dead giveaway signs just like the neon 'prostitute' sign I don't have on my head anymore.
I didn't compliment much when I worked. I never led anyone on and always made it clear that it was fantasy. And if it was a comfortable client escort relationship that I truly enjoyed and started to see them as a friend, I would stop seeing them as a client and only as a friend, meaning I wouldn't want money. This expectation would be removed just like the expectation of sex. One major lession I learned was clients are clients and friends are friends. Can't be both. Face it. Plus the best guys are the ones that didn't need to continue to rely on money as a client to try and get into my pants.
My best friend, the former client, told me something so valuable. It is unhealthy to live two seperate lives. That is not reality. The two worlds will always meet. Before I started I would never even think of doing half the stuff I did when having sex. I also was never cautious of personal info, who I would talk to or most scary but true is even who I slept with just say it was clubbing hookup kind of thing. But now, no number listed, be aware of who is around me and for sure the potential of std's in non-work situation compared to work situations. It is the combination of both worlds that people should live in, because that is real and that is you. Fucking men for money is not something you can just forget and I mean hating it nd missing it. It was an adventure every night. So anyways I am ranting like this FF you guys claim I sound like. But please as the mature gentleman you guys are plu the majority voice on this board, try not to dilute the influence of the hobby on ALL OF OUR LIVES. Pussy mixed with money is a powerful thing, agree?
-J xoxo
Sorry one more thing to add, if TERB is the all mighty force in the indutry doesn't it mean that when girls, working or retired, want to vent about the industry for couping reasons, should be permitted, encouraged, respected? Respect doesn't only end when the booking is over....unforunately the gfe does though hehehehehe
As for me setting myself up for this. well i will accept that statement only if you can admit that you guys set yourself up for getting ripped off, falling in love for imaginary reasons, and most obviously undertand that their will be lables put on you true or not. Like the whole older guy with young girl in public. Sure it could be your employee, your babysitter, your wife, your daughter, but the truth is she is not. Remember that a huge factor in making those kind of things look regular in public heavily depends on the girl. And trust me, I was not exactly friendly with the guy i mentioned. You can lie to yourself, resent yourself, and hope people see it your way with no suspicion. whatever makes you sleep at night. when i say i can spot it a mile away, I really can tell when a girl might be an escort. I know because when I worked, I had good people that would tell me, warn me, educate me on the dead giveaway signs just like the neon 'prostitute' sign I don't have on my head anymore.
I didn't compliment much when I worked. I never led anyone on and always made it clear that it was fantasy. And if it was a comfortable client escort relationship that I truly enjoyed and started to see them as a friend, I would stop seeing them as a client and only as a friend, meaning I wouldn't want money. This expectation would be removed just like the expectation of sex. One major lession I learned was clients are clients and friends are friends. Can't be both. Face it. Plus the best guys are the ones that didn't need to continue to rely on money as a client to try and get into my pants.
My best friend, the former client, told me something so valuable. It is unhealthy to live two seperate lives. That is not reality. The two worlds will always meet. Before I started I would never even think of doing half the stuff I did when having sex. I also was never cautious of personal info, who I would talk to or most scary but true is even who I slept with just say it was clubbing hookup kind of thing. But now, no number listed, be aware of who is around me and for sure the potential of std's in non-work situation compared to work situations. It is the combination of both worlds that people should live in, because that is real and that is you. Fucking men for money is not something you can just forget and I mean hating it nd missing it. It was an adventure every night. So anyways I am ranting like this FF you guys claim I sound like.
But please as the mature gentleman you guys are plu the majority voice on this board, try not to dilute the influence of the hobby on ALL OF OUR LIVES. Pussy mixed with money is a powerful thing, agree?-J xoxo
Sorry one more thing to add, if TERB is the all mighty force in the indutry doesn't it mean that when girls, working or retired, want to vent about the industry for couping reasons, should be permitted, encouraged, respected? Respect doesn't only end when the booking is over....unforunately the gfe does though hehehehehe
110 posts so far and I haven't said a word. Is it time to gracefully close this thread? God bless you all. Amen.
